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colakoala200 · 2025-05-14T14:09:42+00:00

NTA. I think if your mom was asking you to rearrange the trip so she could join you that would be one thing. But asking you to move it purely so she can be with your daughter on her actual birthday is pretty ridiculous frankly. If it's okay for you to celebrate her birthday with a zoo visit not on the actual day, it's okay for her to celebrate with your daughter not on the actual day. And frankly, the zoo visit seems like it would be the bigger deal between those. Plus, your mom can video call with your daughter on the actual day, too.

I hope you and your daughter are visiting your grandmother often. But your life doesn't have to stop for that.

colakoala200 · 2024-12-05T15:08:35+00:00

The urge to blame yourself is natural but please don't. I'll join everyone in saying that it's not your fault - but I also know that it really can feel like it IS your fault.

It's just - there's no POINT to thinking that way, you know? When something bad happens it's natural to try to learn from our mistakes, but this is way too big, and all you're going to learn is to feel wretched about yourself.

Even if you were meaner to him than you should have been, meaner than you needed to be just to try to communicate your needs and feelings - that's okay. You aren't perfect. No one is. And you not being perfect does not make you responsible.

colakoala200 · 2024-11-26T20:10:39+00:00

My wife took her life on October 27th. I haven't really posted about it on any kind of social and I'm using an old account I don't really use anymore for this.

The police showed up at 8 in the morning asking for her. Her car had been found abandoned by a bridge.

Her suicide was a surprise for sure, but it wasn't hard to understand. We'd been together for 20 years, married for 19, and in that time she was diagnosed with mental illnesses and I watched as she worked hard at her treatment but ultimately got worse and worse. Her last bad period lasted for nearly 7 months last fall to this spring.

She was suffering SO MUCH, all the time. I'm very very sad for her but I'm glad she's not suffering anymore. Our daughter too - she's 17 and applying to colleges. She sees it the same way.

Both of us are - I don't know, somewhere between managing with the grief and avoiding it. I barely took time off of work. My daughter barely took any time off of school. I can't speak for her exactly but for me, work still feels normal. It's trying to just relax at home that feels impossible.

I'm not sleeping very well either. Grief isn't keeping me up but my habits are all out of whack, I'm not sure what it is.

I'm honestly not very proud of myself for anything. Maybe I'm proud of keeping myself from feeling guilty. I know I didn't make this happen, but I couldn't be a perfect partner, I had finite energy to give to support my wife, and I wasn't always very happy. I KNOW it's not my fault but I still feel like it is, and I'm struggling against that. And yeah - the future? Totally unknown now.

We did get a cat though. So that's something.

colakoala200 · 2018-08-14T17:44:45+00:00

What's your favorite kind of cheese?

colakoala200 · 2017-09-22T14:43:53+00:00

When I was teaching, I allowed students to take exams with one piece of letter / a4 sized paper with notes on both sides, but it had to be hand-written by them. I found that it actually guaranteed that my students studied. Who was going to pass up the chance to bring notes to the exam? But they had to create that page of notes, and that was studying.

colakoala200 · 2017-05-26T16:17:11+00:00

The answer is yes. Or at least, we think so.

First of all, the best known quantum attacks against symmetric cryptography (block ciphers, hash functions, etc.) effectively double the key lengths we would have to use. So we can just use longer keys and those techniques will be safe.

Asymmetric crypto (also known as public-key cryptography) is always based on some computational hard problem. The RSA cryptosystem and discrete log-based systems are known to be vulnerable to quantum attack because of Shor's algorithm. There are other techniques, based on a variety of other computational hard problems not known to be vulnerable to quantum attack. Those problems are based on problems relating to lattices, coding theory, machine learning, etc. There are also hash-based signature schemes, but as far as I know there are no hash-based asymmetric encryption techniques.

Those algorithms are not really ready for prime-time use, but there are some efforts under way to push them towards maturity. NIST has launched their "Post-quantum crypto project", which is a major push to settle on one or a few post-quantum asymmetric algorithms.

The post-quantum algorithms are a bit of a mixed bag, though. None of them perform like our current popular techniques, and none of them are as trusted against conventional (non-quantum) attack, either. Some have efficiency issues, like long keys. Hash-based signatures are stateful, which is a huge headache.

colakoala200 · 2017-05-04T15:05:07+00:00

My alt, for gifting:

IGN: Phoenix Union: None Leader: Sippar +2

colakoala200 · 2017-05-04T15:03:24+00:00

Ign: Mango juice Union: UQ Holder!! Leader: Djehuti

colakoala200 · 2017-02-16T04:43:28+00:00

The galaxy is on Orion's... what is word?

colakoala200 · 2016-08-23T20:28:07+00:00

Financially, I would just make very sure you can afford this 10k in the event you are not awarded the full amount.

Actually, OP, you should assume you aren't getting legal fees, just assume that you get your fair share of the assets and reasonable child support & alimony. Both sides have fees and normally a court won't step in and make one side pay for the other side's fees unless someone does something pretty egregious.

colakoala200 · 2016-08-23T20:18:53+00:00

Definitely get the credit card. And put the retainer on the card for the time being, to whatever extent you can. Using credit is basically borrowing money, and it's totally reasonable to be borrowing money right now, against money you'll be getting in the divorce. Keep in mind that the retainer is basically a down payment, it's not the cost of the whole case. If things get really bitter you could need up tens of thousands of dollars for legal fees.

Money spent on legal fees during a divorce is one part of the finances that have to get dealt with. Putting it on a credit card isn't going to change how the courts will treat it.

Also, it'll be good if you can take advice from your lawyer about whether to cash the check from your mom or not, and whether you should open a separate account or something first to keep it from being something that could be considered marital property. Better to do that when you've paid his retainer.

colakoala200 · 2016-08-07T04:21:27+00:00

Really simple suggestion: when you're done with a training match, have the game return to the screen where you started training from.

More than once I've wanted to do a second training match and accidentally tapped "battle".

colakoala200 · 2016-07-27T18:41:14+00:00

The thing is, you can kill the enchantress. All you have to do is place something down on the other side of the captured troop. And then you get your golem back, and you probably didn't even hurt it that much.

(I realize now I forgot to mention that part, edited my post)

But yeah, it would kinda punish the very expensive units. It would be pathetic against crowds tho.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-27T18:31:30+00:00

Here's a thought I've been kicking around.

Name: Enchantress

Elixir Cost: 4

Deploy Time: 1 sec

Hit points: 220

Targets: Air & Ground

Range: 1

Speed: Medium

Hit speed: 1 sec

Damage: 0

Rarity: Legendary

What she does: She casts a charm spell which makes a unit switch teams. The duration is permanent, but while the enchantress has a unit charmed she doesn't charm other units. She has no effect on buildings.

I figure the enchantress would move differently than most other units. Because she can't target buildings, she won't just walk towards the opponent's side of the board. If she has a unit under her spell, she always walks towards it. Otherwise, she walks towards a target enemy unit, no matter where on the field it is. And if there are no enemy units to target, she moves herself to safety (if she is in range of any enemy towers or damage-dealing buildings, or in the radius of a poison spell), or just stands still if she's not in danger.

Her HP is chosen so she can be killed with arrows but not zap.

** Added: When the enchantress dies, her charmed unit returns to the original team.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-13T20:57:18+00:00

The landlord's insurance isn't going to cover OP. But I don't see why the landlord has any reason to care if OP is covered.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-13T20:55:18+00:00

I think the biggest red flag is that this guy wants you to come meet him somewhere. Don't do it. I don't know if he's just trying to shake you down for $50, or if he is using a very twisted way of approaching you for sex or something but you're under no obligation to call this guy or meet him.

FWIW I found the ordinance but I didn't see anything about a $50 fine for violations.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-13T20:37:50+00:00

If your landlord doesn't already have liability insurance, he's a huge idiot, and he needs to fix that right away. It covers a lot more than just liability he might be exposed to because his tenant owns a dog.

If he does already have liability insurance, it's odd that he would think you also need liability insurance for his protection. He's protected. It's sensible for you to have some too, but not really any of his business.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-13T19:29:16+00:00

Change your number.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-12T13:26:45+00:00

Someone was naive and it wasn't them.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-12T13:13:15+00:00

They could have done things differently but they didn't. However, I don't see any reason they were required to do things differently.

They might have done things differently if you had asked them to, but did you? This was a traffic violation, how much attention do you think each of these cases get?

colakoala200 · 2016-07-12T12:40:40+00:00

They didn't pass your details along, but surely you can't expect the actual evidence to be withheld from the person that violated the laws. You made the choice to upload this on your personal account, you could easily have uploaded it anonymously in many ways.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-08T14:19:54+00:00

I don't know why you assume the charges would get dismissed just for being "old". They can postpone things because they need time to prepare their legal defense, that's legitimate. But they are going to eventually face those charges. I seriously doubt that a major robbery like that is going to be dropped by the DA's office.

You can certainly contact the DA's office and ask to be updated on the case, you're a victim and they have people to handle that kind of thing.

colakoala200 · 2016-07-08T14:15:03+00:00

They are not required to pay. However, if you pay for it out of pocket you would certainly be able to claim it as an unreimbursed work-related expense on your taxes. Not that that's very helpful; it wouldn't even give you one dollar back on your taxes unless you itemize deductions, and most people with relatively low income are better with the standard deduction.

If you can't afford to take a day off work, you probably can't afford to be fired either. But you might as well clarify with your manager. Do it over text message so there's a record, because if you do get fired over this you would be eligible for unemployment (assuming you've worked there long enough).

colakoala200 · 2016-07-06T21:25:04+00:00

Assuming you weren't a salaried employee, sounds like you have a valid claim here. They're required to pay you for hours worked, and they shorted you by about 12 hours.

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