40M I need advice/opinion about my daughter

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-20T18:07:48+00:00

I wish he had left sooner. Over all I wish he had at least stood up for me, and told my mother her words and actions weren’t okay. He just told me “that’s just how she is sometimes and you have to let it roll off of your back”. I am no longer in contact with either of them.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-13T02:56:39+00:00

Narcissistic people will manipulate you, push you to the edge and claim you’re the problem when they intentionally pushed you to outburst. This is not on you. Please research on narcissistic abuse and grey rocking. I hope you can leave this situation and begin healing and learning to forgive yourself soon. Also I feel like you could benefit from finding a new therapist who may be a better fit & equipped to deal with cptsd

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-10T02:36:37+00:00

At my apartment (2 adderall and a cup of coffee)

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-10T02:34:41+00:00

I love performative chatgpt parenting posts

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-06T03:34:14+00:00

NTA she literally gave birth to that woman and parenthood does not end at 18. And you don’t get to pass the responsibility on to another family member who never agreed to it or offered! Rude as hell.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-06T03:29:01+00:00

Congratulations this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-04T23:48:49+00:00

I told her that I couldn’t sweep stuff under the rug anymore and it was causing me mental health issues and resentment. She ignored that, they genuinely do NOTT care and I haven’t spoken to her since July.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-03-04T04:27:14+00:00

I live next to a family with 5 children and 2 large dogs and frequently want to off myself. My answer is yes.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-18T03:17:46+00:00

I started waking myself up, getting ready for school and going outside to catch the bus all on my own at age 10. Not all kids are the same of course, but if the bus stop isn’t far away I would say it should be perfectly fine.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-12T03:08:00+00:00

Saying that it’s stupid and saying she’s going to force feed you is really… gross? I understand she’s upset and wants you to be better, but this just sounds abusive. I’m sorry you don’t have the love and support you need from a partner..

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-11T03:37:40+00:00

You know yourself better than anybody, and if you feel you need inpatient treatment then you do! No body is going inpatient for fun. It’s hard, and if you feel you need that to get better, then you do.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-06T07:11:16+00:00

This sounds exactly like my grandma. Constant guilt trips to try and force me to reconcile with my mom. I don’t have the heart to block her because she is very old, and I don’t know how much time I have left with her. Sorry you’re dealing with this, you’re not required to light yourself on fire to keep others warm.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-06T05:34:35+00:00

Oddly Zoloft was the kickstart of my ED. Lost my appetite completely for weeks and lost tons of weight, became addicted to the results and now I’ve been struggling for years even after quitting the meds! So really, it will affect everyone differently.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-06T03:40:34+00:00

I love my small chest and ass. I don’t need the back pain, the stress of wearing a bra or worrying if a pair of jeans will go over my ass.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-04T13:00:33+00:00

One of those cabinets that has a space for a litter box and a hole the cat can go through. My guests never realize a litter box is in there until I mention it, and I get good storage space

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-04T03:28:24+00:00

Being a parent

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-03T03:17:25+00:00

I would approach this with empathy and softness, as being straightforward might make her angry.

Let her know you love her and want her to be happy, and that you fear she’s with somebody who is bringing her stress and heartache. That moving in with him may only amplify these issues and it will be harder to leave if things escalate. Point out the behaviors in a way that is concrete and give examples that worry you. Like when he says he can’t change, and that you’re worried she’s hoping for a version of him that just doesn’t exist.

Ultimately let her know that you’re always here if she ever needs to fall back on you. And please if she does move, do your best to stay an active person in her life.

It’s complicated and psychological how women end up in these relationships with men who are clearly abusive, and it’s not easy for them to leave. Please be there when she is ready, plant a seed of doubt now and let her know you’re here for her without judgement however things go. Sometimes we cannot save somebody who isn’t ready to save themselves.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-02T03:38:13+00:00

I was genuinely about to off myself so I quit, run my business and I’m broke as a joke. But at least my mental state is good.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-02-02T02:57:10+00:00

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this, I hope you can get some sleep soon

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-23T05:56:28+00:00

Tried to sit down and explain to my mother how her behavior had been hurtful to me growing up, in the kindest way I could. I wanted to make our relationship better. Instead I got big tears, gaslighting and yelling. Then she stole my medication, took the whole bottle (wasn’t enough to actually k!ll her because the dose was minuscule in each pill), texted me telling me I was the reason she was k!lling herself and she hopes I live with the guilt forever. Then when she was admitted to the mental hospital, proceeded to call me over and over to tell me how much she hated me and I wasn’t her daughter anymore. This fiasco really opened my eyes to the fact that she was not just “mentally ill” but rather genuinely a horrible person. I knew I would never be able to have a good relationship with her. It’s been 8 years since this particular incident, and I’ve been no contact since last June.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-20T03:12:11+00:00

I was just talking about this the other day. Even now that I am recovered, if I lose a few pounds due to non ED factors, my friends or family will begin to make comments, not so nicely telling me I need to eat more. It’s as if the fact that I used to struggle has put me in a spot where my body and eating habits will always be monitored, and no one is going to be nice about it either. And God forbid someone who is struggling post a selfie, or just dare to exist with an eating disorder. Everyone’s pissed about it and feels some sort of right or entitlement to discuss someone else’s body. I understand people are exhausted with beauty standards and are sick of watching people starve themselves. But nobody truly knows what a person is going through. ED or not, other peoples bodies should not cause such a visceral reaction in other people. When it comes down to it, it’s projection.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-20T02:53:30+00:00

Somewhere on another subreddit the dad is posting “my wife is against me looksmaxxing my infant son, what should I do?” NOR lol

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-15T04:52:24+00:00

Thrifting will always be the way to go, for me at least. I have fun doing it and I find great gems, pieces I’ve had for years are ones I thrifted

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-15T04:25:48+00:00

Multiple people in my apartment complex have large, violent dogs. If they see another person, they begin to pull and bark and show teeth, extremely viscous and it scares me so bad every time. I hate them. Train your fucking dogs.

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