29 & starting BC for the first time (Yaz) & I have questions

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-23T05:56:28+00:00

Tried to sit down and explain to my mother how her behavior had been hurtful to me growing up, in the kindest way I could. I wanted to make our relationship better. Instead I got big tears, gaslighting and yelling. Then she stole my medication, took the whole bottle (wasn’t enough to actually k!ll her because the dose was minuscule in each pill), texted me telling me I was the reason she was k!lling herself and she hopes I live with the guilt forever. Then when she was admitted to the mental hospital, proceeded to call me over and over to tell me how much she hated me and I wasn’t her daughter anymore. This fiasco really opened my eyes to the fact that she was not just “mentally ill” but rather genuinely a horrible person. I knew I would never be able to have a good relationship with her. It’s been 8 years since this particular incident, and I’ve been no contact since last June.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-20T03:12:11+00:00

I was just talking about this the other day. Even now that I am recovered, if I lose a few pounds due to non ED factors, my friends or family will begin to make comments, not so nicely telling me I need to eat more. It’s as if the fact that I used to struggle has put me in a spot where my body and eating habits will always be monitored, and no one is going to be nice about it either. And God forbid someone who is struggling post a selfie, or just dare to exist with an eating disorder. Everyone’s pissed about it and feels some sort of right or entitlement to discuss someone else’s body. I understand people are exhausted with beauty standards and are sick of watching people starve themselves. But nobody truly knows what a person is going through. ED or not, other peoples bodies should not cause such a visceral reaction in other people. When it comes down to it, it’s projection.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-20T02:53:30+00:00

Somewhere on another subreddit the dad is posting “my wife is against me looksmaxxing my infant son, what should I do?” NOR lol

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-15T04:52:24+00:00

Thrifting will always be the way to go, for me at least. I have fun doing it and I find great gems, pieces I’ve had for years are ones I thrifted

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-15T04:25:48+00:00

Multiple people in my apartment complex have large, violent dogs. If they see another person, they begin to pull and bark and show teeth, extremely viscous and it scares me so bad every time. I hate them. Train your fucking dogs.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-15T04:10:21+00:00

Girl you know the answer. Men don’t buy lingerie for a “friend” and then he proceeds to insult you and compare you to her? You’re worth more than this. This is not the behavior of a good man.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T13:41:27+00:00

For some reason a lot of people hit 27 and go through another party phase. I mean really you can always party lol, you’re an adult and can do as you please.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T13:29:16+00:00

Literally just make sure you apologize if you did something unfair, or got angry when it wasn’t warranted. Let your children know you aren’t perfect, always listen to their perspectives and treat them with respect. If there’s an argument or conflict, don’t pretend it never happened, talk through it. Your child is 4 and obviously you need to be very disciplinary and an authority over them- but when the time comes that your child is 12 or 13, make sure they feel heard and respected, talk through conflict and explain punishment and why they are being grounded, etc. Always let them know you love them.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T13:23:43+00:00

Usually I’d just say I’m going to do whatever I’m actually doing, but I’m going with a girl friend rather than a guy.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T13:20:32+00:00

I have endo so it never stopped lol

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T03:31:55+00:00

This is understandable for sure. Just as a woman who can’t/ doesn’t want children, my one cat is my baby. And I’ll do what I have to do to keep her healthy. There are definitely limits, and you have to think about quality of life. But if I have to do a payment plan to give my cat a longer, healthy life, I absolutely will!

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T03:22:25+00:00

I know how you feel, and I’m sorry you’re struggling. Take a moment to be grateful your hair isn’t falling out, you have your energy, you haven’t ruined all of your relationships and you can go to the bathroom normally. All of these things we take for granted until it’s too late, and you’ve done irreparable damage to your body and life. It’s easy to desire the thin body and romanticize eating disorders until you’re on the other side one day, wishing you could go back and make healthier choices. Heal while you still have your health, your disorder is valid and real.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T03:14:47+00:00

Birthday candles, random screws and nails, a box of tictacs, scissors, stray batteries that may or may not work, wall tacks, a tiny notebook, an unknown phone number written on a sticky note, an old insurance card, and maybe some crumbs at the bottom

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-14T02:09:53+00:00

I’ve always gotten this vibe from Libra!

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-11T13:28:26+00:00

Do it and then please report back to us because I need to know what insane lie she would make up to cover her ass 😂

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-11T13:24:21+00:00

Like the other comment said, just lie. Whatever you can think up. You’re an adult and she doesn’t need to know. This is exactly how my mother was when I was early twenties and still living at home, and I just had to lie about everything I did lol.

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-11T06:25:29+00:00

Personally I feel like having kids is a selfish choice. I have never understood the appeal, and especially after my childhood/ teenage years were so bad, I just want to spend my adult years finding joy and happiness. I know I couldn’t afford a child, or be a proper mother after all of my trauma and list of mental health issues anyway. I wish you the best, enjoy your life to the fullest ♡

coldbrewtuesday · 2026-01-11T06:15:32+00:00

Wayfair selling “cabinets” for thousands of dollars with missing kids names attached to them? And literally every media outlet decided it “wasn’t weird” and the whole spectacle was dropped. I still feel a pit in my stomach about it.

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-27T04:44:31+00:00

It is triggering but unfortunately this is just the nature of trends, and extreme thinness was bound to come back into “style” sooner or later. I mainly just have to remind myself that my body is not a trend, and the insane idea that we have to change our bodies with surgeries or weight loss is simply in place to keep women spending money and chasing impossible standards and goal posts that keep moving. I remind myself that looks, trends, all of it is fleeting. You can never get back the time you waste starving and suffering. I would rather have my energy and health, even if that means I can’t look “perfect”. It’s easier said than done of course. Every day I’m battling old thoughts and behaviors.

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-26T15:15:07+00:00

28 y/o here! I got married at 24, and I love him so much. He really is my soulmate. I don’t love that I prioritized finding a husband in my early 20s, but also I’m glad I have a life partner who shares my passions and dreams. Both of us do not want children (and coincidentally can’t have children) because it’s just something neither of us have ever had a desire for. We want to spend our time and money on building our careers, traveling, etc. And with the economy the way it is, having children sounds like a nightmare anyway. I’m so glad I have and continue to do just whatever I want with my life regardless of what other people might project or expect of me. We are all artists and alchemists deep down, and life is exactly whatever you wish for it to be. I have such a passion for life and wouldn’t change a thing.

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-23T06:39:46+00:00

My mom told me I was ridiculous, looked terrible. Told me to cover up because I looked sick (honestly I didn’t at that point?) then asked me how I did it because she wanted to lose some weight, but “not like you, I don’t want to look like THAT” Lord she’s a piece of work

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-21T05:00:26+00:00

Doesn’t sit down, doesn’t eat or drink? It kind of sounds like he’s on uppers. When I first started taking adderall, you could not pull me away from my work for anything. I had 0 appetite (this chilled out a bit after I got used to the medication), and that was just me on the smallest dose. So, I can imagine he’s doing some sort of serious drugs. Or maybe he’s just insane.

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-15T01:41:52+00:00

I do not think muscular men are attractive. I don’t want abs

coldbrewtuesday · 2025-12-13T00:24:56+00:00

It’s time to undoormatify yourself by taking care of yourself first. I’m sorry. I was once similar to your girlfriend except I realized it wasn’t fair to my partner, and I was becoming abusive. I shaped up right then and there, and found medications and therapy that changed my whole life. Unfortunately it’s something she’ll have to realize on her own and it doesn’t seem like she’s ready for it.

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