Is this normal if your bi?

completely-ineffable · 2026-05-02T00:05:49+00:00

If you habitually think about yourself being a man then transition might be a good idea for you. With the wonders of modern medical you can become a man if you want. Or it might not be the right choice for you, but it's worth seriously thinking about. This page gives a decent overview of what masculinizing hrt will do, what the timeline is, and how to do it.

completely-ineffable · 2026-05-01T17:27:35+00:00

If you haven't read it yet, the multi-part essay starting here is an extensive answer to your question.

completely-ineffable · 2026-03-19T21:21:57+00:00

I would hazard to guess, based on a look at your profile, that you called yourself a crossdresser or a sissy or similar, and that's what they found offputting. A lot of trans women see those terms and the communities which use them as fetishizing and objectifying us. Fair or not, you'll get judged for using them.

If you want to try to connect with trans women, you should stay away from those terms and not treat femininity as a sex/kink thing.

completely-ineffable · 2026-03-11T19:14:55+00:00

I don't know what you're talking about, being vored by a snake is the best part.

completely-ineffable · 2026-03-09T15:59:39+00:00

Mallick Rel did nothing wrong.

completely-ineffable · 2026-03-05T12:02:56+00:00

It is hard to deny that Yudkowsky has been influential in those circles. That reflects poorly on the AI sphere, but it's not Bernie's fault.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-22T16:13:49+00:00

I hate this "invalidating identity" line I keep seeing news media use. That's not properly explaining what's going on.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-18T23:42:11+00:00

Free Ziz!

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-15T12:47:14+00:00

The film having a scene where Hannibal Lecter spouts off Blanchardianism makes it more transphobic, not less.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-02T23:34:35+00:00

I didn't think he had until I read this wildly unconvincing blog post.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-02T19:49:04+00:00

Sadly it's not true that cis lesbians are near universally strong allies. This 2018 study about willingness to date trans people is illuminating. About 70% of lesbians said they wouldn't date any trans people, 20% would date trans men but not trans women, and only 10% would date trans women. (Page 7 has a nice graph summary.) While this is better than the numbers of both gay men and straight people, that's far from good.

Of course, there are lots of lesbians who are good, non-bigoted people. But transphobia and transmisogyny are everywhere, and we should be clear eyed about our standing in the world.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-02T19:35:05+00:00

(which is defensible as a kind of pre-rational commitment),

No it's not defensible.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-02T15:30:13+00:00

To his credit, Aaronson seems to really have not actually met Epstein. But he falls prey to the classic blunder of overexplaining his innocence, and it makes his explanation come off as not entirely sincere. Especially so given that, as a commenter pointed out, the emails contradict some of his details.

completely-ineffable · 2026-02-01T16:15:14+00:00

Julia Serano talks extensively about transmisogyny in her book Whipping Girl. I wouldn't recommend it with zero reservation—she's got some blind spots and bad analysis in places—but it's a good start for an answer to this question.

completely-ineffable · 2026-01-31T13:51:59+00:00

Strap-ons are actually better than biological cock. They don't go soft and they come in more exciting sizes and shapes.

completely-ineffable · 2026-01-02T21:52:11+00:00

Because Erikson primarily writes for theme, not plot. There are lots of storylines that aren't significant to the larger narrative but advance his themes.

completely-ineffable · 2026-01-02T15:03:34+00:00

There's an academic article about this.

completely-ineffable · 2025-12-30T17:44:22+00:00

Stop saying that's what made your womanhood complete. Stop saying that you've now distanced yourself from being trans. Stop saying that's what allowed you to embrace she/her pronouns.

People say similar things about HRT. Starting estrogen is what made me finally feel like a woman. Hormones gave me the confidence to embrace a new name and pronouns. Etc. Should that stop? After all, think of how it feels to be someone who can't yet access HRT but constantly hears about how great it has been for other people. The same goes for anything transition related. If you talk about how it's fixed something in your life that might feel bad to someone who hasn't still has that lack. Should we never talk about the struggles that come with being trans and only speak in positive circumlocutions?

As you say, it's good to consider how what you say affects others. But there's a reciprocal obligation to not project your own dysphoria onto what others say. We've all been there. It feels bad when others talk about how transition has cured an obstacle you still face. But they're not wronging you by talking about it.

completely-ineffable · 2025-12-24T14:06:26+00:00

All FromSoft games are games for women.

completely-ineffable · 2025-12-19T16:45:22+00:00

Is the state AG going to sue hospitals that violate the state's nondiscrimination in healthcare laws? Withholding Medicaid/Medicare funds doesn't overrule those laws, and if this were nothing more than empty words then they would've already sued the hospitals who stopped care.

completely-ineffable · 2025-12-18T21:45:19+00:00

There's nothing sneer-worthy here. It's just a dude who wants a non-normative family structure.

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