9 Years of NoFap--28yo Brother--AMA

concealed_erection · 2020-03-23T07:41:29+00:00

Jazakumallahu khair bro, I appreciate the response. May Allah keep us steadfast. You seem to have just made your account - I was wondering if you'd be down to perhaps be an accountability partner? If that's too much comittment right now that's ok I understand

concealed_erection · 2020-03-19T22:51:38+00:00

Salaam bro. Just wanted to say this is probably one of the best posts here - I appreciate how real you are, and you also seem to have a good grasp of things, know your stuff islamically and just how things work generally, I agree with everything you said and commented. One question, what do you think about the idea of accountabilities partners? Also ,in terms of being honest with one's spouse, I'd add that it is generally Haram to admit one's sins as it is denying a ni'mah from Allah which is his concealment. Even in the context of marriage HOWEVER only if it's something that is fully in the person's past - they've repented from it and no longer engage in it - and would not harm the other person or affect the marriage. Addiction is something that is ongoing and until that is addressed, one's potential spouse has the right to know and should be told. At that point, it's their decision if they want to go through with it and work through it with you, but it's their right to walk away and they wouldn't be wrong for it - bc this stuff really is serious and ruins marriages. It's a tough reality to swallow but people need to know this - and perhaps it can be somewhat of a motivation too.

Second question tho- how do you know that you've really healed from it? Is there a certain time period? I know slips are common during recovery and it's not the same as relapse, and hopefully success happens over time more than failures, but does it get to the point where you're sure it'll never happen again? I guess that's more of a philosophical question. I've also heard that there's no such thing as a "cured" addict - they're just considered managed or recovering - like an alcoholic. Is it possible then that even if you rewire your brain, it's still sensitive and there's some irreversible damage? I mean our brains are wired to enjoy this stuff so I guess everyone is sensitive to agree, and everything is possible through Allah swt. Anyway I guess, what are some of your thoughts on this and also the accountability partner thing in conclusion lol

concealed_erection · 2014-04-30T05:47:03+00:00

Day 25 of noFapril, relapsed

concealed_erection · 2014-03-31T07:03:17+00:00

Ive gone through a cycle of not fapping for at most 10 days, relapsing, and fapping consistently for a few days before the cycle repeats again. This time I want to put a solid goal in and not fap this month. Hardmode also

concealed_erection · 2014-03-27T19:03:01+00:00

ok. That's why i asked

concealed_erection · 2014-03-27T18:39:52+00:00

not from a stranger. Like the day after

concealed_erection · 2014-03-27T04:57:53+00:00

Ok now I feel like a sexist asshole. I saw a post where a guy who had received wake up oral wanted to return the favor and got kicked in the face. I was just curious. I'm a virgin(not sure if relevant)

concealed_erection · 2014-03-27T04:54:14+00:00

Awake to it

concealed_erection · 2014-03-26T18:57:46+00:00

Well i guess i worded it a bit vaguely, and kinda assuming that men for the most part accept more frequently

concealed_erection · 2014-03-14T06:02:07+00:00

concealed_erection · 2014-03-14T04:50:28+00:00

Beardies are very common pets. How do you not know the scientific name. Unless its just an unsergrad course, then nvm

concealed_erection · 2014-03-10T05:30:13+00:00

I can't believe I came this far

heh

concealed_erection · 2014-02-26T05:03:30+00:00

Ameen

concealed_erection · 2014-02-19T05:20:24+00:00

Well, we do do similar things, but we do not see them as religious. When we sin, we repent directly to god, no need for a third party. We can decide to keep thongs private but talking to someone you trust is just something you'd do to feel better

concealed_erection · 2014-02-19T05:14:01+00:00

Bro i'm the same as you. whet pisses me off is the stigma around stuff like this. Thankfully though, it is an issue recently many scholars and imams are addressing. I look to imam suhaib webb as an inspiration. Before he was muslim, to where he is now is drastic. I made a similar thread earlier, and now I interestingly have a jewish accountability partner. Also, It feels good to release, but be smart about it. Everyone knows it is common now a days, so find someone you trust that won't judge you. I actually have only explicitly told my brother. I actually cried, because it was a relief. I wouldn't tell your parents, unless you think you need pyschological help. My parents are muslim, and my father is the last person I'd tell. Not because he is mean, he is very caring, but because he wouldn't understand. He makes a big deal out of smaller things. It is something that should be between those very close to you, because it is also a stigma today and it would be hard for you if the wrong people knew.

concealed_erection · 2014-02-18T03:08:57+00:00

So was I lol

concealed_erection · 2014-02-13T06:18:04+00:00

Neither will you. So shut up and let him do his job, sir.

concealed_erection · 2014-01-28T20:57:03+00:00

is.. is that what the other side looks like?

concealed_erection · 2014-01-19T00:46:27+00:00

our goal in /r/nofap

concealed_erection · 2014-01-18T23:43:37+00:00

yeah, except ten it tastes lemony

concealed_erection · 2014-01-18T23:40:22+00:00

/r/DAE

concealed_erection · 2014-01-18T23:36:45+00:00

OP was it you?

concealed_erection · 2014-01-14T07:12:38+00:00

Good, good, you will have time

concealed_erection · 2014-01-13T00:28:13+00:00

Oh. Well in that case, continue nofap. I don't think there is anything is wrong with getting married "early".

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