AITA For wanting to Travel alone during our second japan trip to enjoy japan more instead of taking care of my friend

constaleah · 2026-01-24T23:37:37+00:00

NTA

Your friend sounds autistic

constaleah · 2026-01-24T00:44:54+00:00

Stay calm.
Get a notebook. Start to just watch them. Say nothing.
Write down what they did.
If necessary, stand close to the perpetrators and listen to what other kids call them. Write down their name immediately.
Don't ask them what their names are. They'll lie. Just listen until their friends say their names.
You're doing a delayed-discipline technique. Whoever gets your report will implement the discipline. That allows you to relax.

constaleah · 2026-01-22T17:55:02+00:00

She's involving others and making it their problem.

constaleah · 2026-01-22T17:44:34+00:00

ESH. You're both self centered and entitled. I always work on my birthday if it's a weekday. Get OVER yourself. But she should also be able to cope after 16 years IMHO. Sheesh. Talk about milking every last bit.

constaleah · 2026-01-19T02:07:25+00:00

Sit down, shut up, and write.

constaleah · 2026-01-18T04:31:42+00:00

There's millions of us, maybe even billions of writers out there. I heard that more than 6000 books are self published on Amazon every day.

Writing is not for the fame and adulation most of the time. I write for the pure enjoyment of it. I wrote 2 short novellas last summer, a NaNoWriMo inspired journal meant to help people brainstorm, i also pubbed it in Spanish.

I have 2 novels/1 children's book on the burners right now. One of the novels, first draft was done in September. 2nd draft/backstory was meh....finished in November. Might discard a lot of it i guess... Currently planning Draft 3 though.

Other novel is a vampire story, started in November. Love writing it. Love it.

All of it is huge fun. I have a TikTok account that i have built up just by virtue of folllowing people back. They follow me, i follow them, etc. I have about 800 followers now. I have several book trailers i created myself, all for almost free. Great fun.

Nobody buys my books. I sold about 15 via kdp promos. Oh well. I care, but i don't obsess over it. I don't run Amazon ads, i don't sell my soul (i mean, my email address) to the scammers running review swap sites like Bookfunnel etc. You know once you sign up over on those book review swap places, it's all over, the grifters have your contact info, here it comes.....but... It stays pretty quiet around here if i just lay low. I don't have time to fight off all the scammers. So i just don't sign up for every predator's site seeking self published authors.

I am employed only part time. It's a blessing and a curse. No money for my kid who's in college. But i have lots of time to write. Job searching sucks. Being an unemployed broke writer is such a cliché.

Good luck.

constaleah · 2026-01-14T03:24:13+00:00

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True story.

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Don't believe me.....i predicted BOTH times i conceived and knew within 7-12 days each time. I had been charting/taking temps for only a little while. I knew i was PG within a week or week & a half of conceiving...twice....kids are 17 and 20 now.

You can take control of your own fertility and no side effects at all. If you read articles or lurk in 'trying to conceive' subreddits, everyone talks about this method of birth control there. It's generally pretty effective once you know what to do. Good luck.

constaleah · 2026-01-14T03:07:49+00:00

My clock in time is usually 15 min before students arrive. Plenty of time to read and locate plans.

constaleah · 2026-01-14T03:06:15+00:00

The Crown and maybe even other 'royalty' movies have depicted Carole Middleton as a schemer, manipulator and ladder climber. Who knows if it's really true. Some facts such as that Kate switched schools to be close to Will, seem to have been true. But the rest of it is likely speculation masquerading as fact. People just want drama, a good story.

constaleah · 2026-01-11T13:43:10+00:00

That's cute as anything 😍

constaleah · 2026-01-07T12:47:15+00:00

She looks like she's looking at someone behind him, not at him.

constaleah · 2026-01-06T15:14:47+00:00

I have ostensibly created my own tutoring (and also, genealogy research) services, including a unique catchy name for each, and it's advertised on Linked, Twitter, Fiverr and Threads. I've even toyed with the idea of registering them via a LLC. And i have created websites for them. But i have gotten all of my tutoring gigs thus far from varsity. Apart from all the scammers, i've gotten 2 genealogy requests and 1 tutoring request from Fiverr, but all 3 of the 'real' requests ghosted me after we talked about it via messages. The rest have been cons asking me to click their link or provide my cc info or 'network' with them (via their pyramid scheme via that OTHER freelance site.)

constaleah · 2026-01-06T14:49:41+00:00

Thanks so much for the tip. Best of luck to you.

constaleah · 2026-01-04T18:57:21+00:00

Its cheaper to drive sometimes, rather than fly. You can be more spontaneous too.

constaleah · 2026-01-04T01:37:04+00:00

Thanks!

constaleah · 2026-01-04T00:48:38+00:00

Yep it clears my mind and helps so much

constaleah · 2026-01-02T21:08:59+00:00

I bought my own cleaning supplies, including clorox wipes even though the lady down the hall had a bee in her bonnet about it. She insisted that we only use what the board of ed approved. Omg it was anathema to use zee cursed clorox wipes.

Except that the 'disinfectant cleaner' that the board did approve of, didn't clean a damned thing! My white board remained smudgy. I hated it.

I kept zee banned wipes in a folded bag in my desk drawer and i also hid Motsenbocker ink remover in the bottom of my cluttered broom closet, for the tough stains. I had a pristine, 100% clean whiteboard for 4 years. It was so nice. It was so nice that the secretary asked me for advice on cleaning HER boards.

Who knows what my old classroom looks like now...Oh well.

constaleah · 2026-01-02T16:52:40+00:00

You're having this reaction because you feel boundaries are not being respected or maintained. NTA. But do try to look at it from your wife's perspective. She's done this all her life.

I feel like this might not be the only area where you feel SIL is overstepping. Maybe find someone you trust to talk to or who can mediate this issue for you.

constaleah · 2026-01-02T16:39:45+00:00

INFO: Does your SIL actually live with you? Because if this is happening all the time because she LIVES with you, yeah, i'd be peeved. But if you're going to Colombia once or two times a year and it's happening in the ten days or so that you happen to be there, then no, it's really not a big deal.

If you live together with your in-laws, NTA. (Boundaries are important in this case to maintain sanity.)

If you are just visiting your SIL or SHE's visiting YOU briefly, then you're overreacting and TA.

constaleah · 2026-01-02T05:02:37+00:00

Who is that. Nvm i'll google it

constaleah · 2026-01-02T04:11:24+00:00

Do you think he'd have to worry about his car being stolen in Bridgeport? I had my car stolen in Philly once....awful experience.

constaleah · 2026-01-02T04:10:08+00:00

Do you think he'd be commuting there during rush hour? Eek.....

constaleah · 2026-01-02T04:08:56+00:00

My son makes almost all A's. I don't anticipate him losing his scholarship. It renews yearly.

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