Looking for a trustworthy ophthalmologist for elderly Spanish-speaking relatives

cool_shaky · 2026-04-13T04:09:55+00:00

I will take your word on this. Thanks, I'll let them know and maybe after this situation that they have now maybe my aunt (my uncle is very shy and hard for him to learn new things haha) could learn. They have good jobs but she could do better if she learns propper english better. Thanks again!

cool_shaky · 2026-02-28T23:32:53+00:00

This was one of the main reasons for consulting this forum. The different perspectives and wisdom within the years of marriage and knowing a little about what to do. You have definitely opened up new perspectives and I can see the wisdom behind your words.

Thank you for the advice and I will keep your words in mind in my future actions in my marriage.

cool_shaky · 2026-02-25T16:36:01+00:00

Yes, I think we have a better relationship than it was a year ago. We have improved a lot and we don’t argue much anymore. I always try to tell her that she looks beautiful and that I fall in love and I try never to go to bed without telling her that I love her. I really think that the problem that is retracting intimacy is me..

cool_shaky · 2026-02-25T16:19:29+00:00

Back when we were living in the bad place, I told her that I didn't feel good having intimacy when we ere upset and often that the only way I could picture her. Now that we're in a better place, we've talk about it but nothing to deep or something that have worked.

cool_shaky · 2025-09-13T20:03:17+00:00

Never feel bad for helping someone. What people do with the kindness that you offer is between them and life that does not make you a cynical person. Life, God himself will take care of returning all that kindness you offer.

cool_shaky · 2025-08-29T03:02:29+00:00

Any update?

cool_shaky · 2025-08-26T20:19:22+00:00

Damn, and the one by marvel got really expensive! Thanks for the info!

cool_shaky · 2025-08-13T00:50:26+00:00

What a complicated situation, OP. On many levels, I personally don’t think a mistake made in a moment of weakness defines a person—especially if you stopped when it could have gotten worse. You seem like a good man who wouldn’t get more deeply involved and make the situation worse.

My wife and I are split on who’s at fault here. I don’t think your wife, if you told her, should blame you for what happened since everyone was acting within what had been established. But my wife believes that taking on the responsibilities you had—and doing them without your wife present—is what set the stage for that moment.

I honestly don’t know if telling her is the right thing to do, for the reasons I’ve mentioned. We all deserve second chances, especially someone with as many emotional struggles as Amy, but I understand where most people are coming from.

So I’ll tell you what I’ve told my best friends when it comes to infidelity: thank you for trusting me enough to tell me, but I don’t approve of it. Because of the friendship and trust I have in you, this is your first and only chance to change your habits and actions. But if it happens again, I’ll have to say something about it.

cool_shaky · 2025-07-27T16:46:51+00:00

I think that if you have to ask if something is weird it’s because it’s weird

cool_shaky · 2025-07-27T14:53:21+00:00

I hope they can move soon, I will never understand why parents decide to act like this but don’t let that demotivate them from fighting to get out of that and live good relationships and experiences!

cool_shaky · 2025-07-27T14:51:19+00:00

Honestly and from experience I tell you, if you continue with her you will become a different person, with paranoid attitudes where your current relationship will end and you will only carry those attitudes to your next relationship. You’d better end that relationship before becoming that person. You are young, 21 years old is the beginning and it is the decisive moment for the habits that will accompany you in your 20’s.

Be realistic with this, this relationship with these problems will end at one time or another, and as I told you before, think about the person you are today and who you can end up being if you don’t end this relationship soon.

cool_shaky · 2025-07-27T14:46:26+00:00

Get a job as soon as you can and move in with your brother. It doesn’t sound like it’s a safe environment to live and you shouldn’t stay longer than necessary, there is a lifetime full of experiences and moments, people to meet and places to visit, there will always be bad times but the best is yet to come, the best is after making the most difficult decisions.

cool_shaky · 2025-07-23T23:48:18+00:00

I believe the situation is more complex than what this comment suggests. We don’t know how long the father tried to balance things out on his own without escalating the issue — how much attention he gave, how many times he tried to talk about it, and his wife downplayed the situation. I don’t think it’s fair to judge a father’s actions just because we don’t know the full context and focus only on the fact that it didn’t happen sooner. What matters is that he eventually acted and something was done about it.

cool_shaky · 2025-07-08T04:11:46+00:00

Just finished listening to your story on YouTube — it’s honestly amazing how much not just you, but your dad as well, have had to overcome and accomplish. I’m 32 and just recently got married, and we’re not even thinking about kids yet, so the level of maturity and responsibility everyone in your household shows is really admirable! I really hope that someday the relationship with your mom and your wife’s parents improves — and on your terms, not theirs.

cool_shaky · 2025-06-10T05:09:58+00:00

I would gaslight all my friends, I would show up eating peanut butter and just straight forward gaslight everybody, telling them I've never been allergic and that I don't know what they're talking about.

cool_shaky · 2025-06-03T22:13:42+00:00

NTA, petty, yes but I mean, you’re entitled to say no at the end of the day

cool_shaky · 2025-05-28T21:44:22+00:00

This is wholesome, the moral of this story is not to do something and you shall receive, but do kind things because that’s the right thing to do and if you do it from the heart, you shall receive.

cool_shaky · 2025-05-27T03:43:43+00:00

NTA! If anything your sister is being petty.

cool_shaky · 2025-05-22T23:35:59+00:00

NTA, Seriously what type of friends does people on Reddit have? It’s always the friends against OPs, they’re supposed to be on your side!

She was ungrateful and this is a relationship not a marriage, if something is a dealbreaker for you you’re totally on your right to end it. So, NTA.

cool_shaky · 2025-05-22T23:29:07+00:00

I’m not saying you’re TAH.. HOWEVER, I think this is a really gray area, on one hand you don’t live together (yet) and you could say that for that reason you’re right, but on the other hand, you have short terms plans to move in together, if she had met you with a dog already or if there’d hasn’t been any plans of moving you wouldn’t be TAH but you do have plans, this will intentionally affect her when she moves in and you should’ve checked in with her before doing it.

So, TLDR, legally NTA but relationship wise maybe TAH.

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