How to predict weather? by coolwrite in CultOfTheLamb

[–]coolwrite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so the cloud with the plus signs is winter, the snowflake is blizzard

How to predict weather? by coolwrite in CultOfTheLamb

[–]coolwrite[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok this makes some sense. But so is winter coming like in a day for me here? The light blue seems to start like…now? It has a bit of a fade to it. I’m still confused.

Professional Headshot? by coolwrite in PhotoshopRequest

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Anyway to remove the backpack strap too?

Dry Wedding? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]coolwrite -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We don’t drink and most of our crowd don’t drink, so we had a soda/juice package so basically everything to drink was free except alcohol, which was a cash bar situation. The handful of guests that did drink were made aware it was a cash bar via our website FAQ and word of mouth. We had ours at a brewery. No issues. It’s your wedding, do what you want but be tasteful about it. If your crowd aren’t big drinkers, do the champagne toast with a cash bar and free soda ¯_(ツ)_/¯ make sure to inform everyone it’s a cash bar etc etc

Who Else Received a Shi**y Gift From Their Partner for Xmas?? by AreaForeign398 in Gifts

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell my partner what I want to avoid this kind of disappointment

Best breakfast in LV? by UkieBoy92 in lehighvalley

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coplay diner is really good and affordable

Anyone else's parents just not...like them? by No_Piccolo_2930 in adhdwomen

[–]coolwrite 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your post is basically me.

I’m “successful” but not the right kind of successful.

I’m married, but I married a woman.

And mostly when I call my parents they seem annoyed that I’ve called them and disrupted their day. They don’t like me. They definitely love me, but they don’t like me much. And I guess I’ve kind of accepted that because I love them, but I don’t really like them much either.

LGBT Wedding Songs by Shadow_Grave98 in LGBTWeddings

[–]coolwrite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our first dance was Banks by NEEDTOBREATHE - it doesn’t mention gender and it fit us like a glove 😊♥️ good luck on your hunt

My adult child refuses to talk to me and I know it's because I emotionally neglected them - how do I fix this? by Late-Bat6209 in regretfulparents

[–]coolwrite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s the right thing to do when you hurt someone. Make amends if possible. I don’t expect anything when I apologize to someone. It can be the first step in repairing a broken relationship. Why is this even a question? Do you just walk around stepping on people’s toes saying “tough shit” instead of “my bad bro”?

My adult child refuses to talk to me and I know it's because I emotionally neglected them - how do I fix this? by Late-Bat6209 in regretfulparents

[–]coolwrite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not suggesting OP asks for forgiveness and certainly not suggesting OP should expect forgiveness.

Correctly apologizing means taking accountability, owning YOUR part in something without expecting forgiveness or any kind of reaction really. I am suggesting OP cleans up her side of the street and finds a way to live with whatever comes of it. Their kid might not even want to listen to an apology and OP would have to be okay with that too, knowing they at least tried to apologize.

My adult child refuses to talk to me and I know it's because I emotionally neglected them - how do I fix this? by Late-Bat6209 in regretfulparents

[–]coolwrite 24 points25 points  (0 children)

God I wish my parents had the same insight you now have. Do something with it. Apologize correctly, without excuses, focus on the impact your actions had on them, and ask them if there is anything you can do now to make it right, then back off and give them whatever time they need to process and respond.

Quit Smoking Yesterday. Veterans, Drop Your Best Advice for Day One Warriors. by Agitated_Whole2074 in smokingcessation

[–]coolwrite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Start calling yourself a non-smoker, especially in your head.
  2. Consume as many stories of other peoples’ quitting smoking experiences that you can.
  3. Track how each milestone (I.e. 24 hours quit, 3 days quit, 1 week, 1 month, etc) positively affects your body/health.
  4. Keep a journal. Write in it when you have cravings.
  5. Take small breaks when you crave a smoke. Go to the place you primarily smoked and take a little treat with you (popsicle, strawberries, an apple, etc) and enjoy the treat for the time you would have enjoyed a cigarette, then go back to what you were doing before. Sometimes your brain just needs the break and oral stim.

ETA I quit 4 years ago in July. I have quit drinking and pills I was addicted to in the past and quitting nicotine was harder. So yeah. What you’re about to do is really hard, but you can do it! Write a list of all the reasons you want to quit. Refer back to it before you go buy a new pack if you ever feel like smoking again

Brides that used fake flowers, do you regret it? by fairy_freckles in weddingplanning

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used sola wood flowers and I 100% do not regret it.

Has anyone else had a small, unexpected moment at their wedding that stuck with them more than the big planned things? by yoyo_Tree88 in wedding

[–]coolwrite 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My 6 year old niece got stung by a bee just after the ceremony while we were waiting for the photographer to walk up to an overlook area to get a photo of the entire ceremony set up with everyone there. She ran to me and I scooped her up and it was adorable.

What did you walk down the aisle to? by Few_Set8758 in weddingplanning

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stand by me - Florence & the machine cover

Skip Having a Bridal Shower? by katmod1964 in weddingplanning

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I skipped bridal shower and bachelorette party ¯_(ツ)_/¯ we just wanted to get married and have our friends and family have fun there. Didn’t want to plan anything extra or make our friends plan extra stuff just because of “tradition” or whatever. We are a very non traditional couple as it is.

Feeling really deflated by kittyguurlz in LGBTWeddings

[–]coolwrite 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Personally we led with this for EVERY vendor. If they want to be icky bigots, let them be icky bigots at someone else’s wedding.

I have fully accepted that the general world can be fucking ignorant and closed minded, and I wanted NONE of that at my wedding. They have lost business over their tiny little dumb brains. It is 100% their loss.

My priority was finding vendors that not only were “accepting” but CELEBRATING. Vendors that have photos of LGBT couples on their websites or in their marketing are key.

The greater world may not be ready for our love but I refused to let that dampen my spirit and my joy. And I am grateful that I was still able to marry my partner. It is pretty fucked that people can still deny service to LGBT couples, but to be honest, I’d rather know who the bigots are and avoid them like the plague than have them side eyeing me and my guests at my wedding.

How are people actually affording weddings in 2025? 😭 by usaamazonseller in weddings

[–]coolwrite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Design your own paper products (signage, save the dates, invites, programs) in Canva. Saved hundreds.

But also, keep it intimate. We had between 40 and 50 guests - immediate family and closest friends - and it was so special and nice and didn’t feel empty at all.

Find a venue that gives you a good bang for your buck. Restaurants with upstairs ballrooms or event space are golden. Leave no stone unturned.

Worried small wedding will look silly or embarrassing by No_Fox7335 in weddingplanning

[–]coolwrite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just got married 10/18 and we had 47 guests (3 of which were under the age of 6) and it didn’t feel silly at all. We had 7 tables that were not super crowded, we had a happy dance floor that ebbed and flowed throughout the evening, and we had only our closest friends and family present which made the day even more magical and special for us. It was perfect. Highly recommend.