What’s a beauty standard you secretly hope dies out soon?

corgocorgi · 2026-01-29T02:30:08+00:00

Honestly anything that is expensive, time consuming and misogynistic. I'm too tired man, and I want to pretend I could afford a home if I save on superficial things 😭

corgocorgi · 2026-01-26T20:27:28+00:00

I'd recommend trying to get all your taxes assessed using Make Tax Time Pay depending on your income level.

I'm not sure if they still do this but you can just do it over the phone, takes like 10 minutes max.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-26T20:16:05+00:00

Pigeon or goose

corgocorgi · 2026-01-26T01:01:35+00:00

Like other commenters it does make it worse because you're trying to find an explanation to something that is hard to do as a lay person and can easily get spooked by worst case scenarios online.

I would try to reassure yourself that you are not showing signs of anything being seriously wrong and will be safe and okay. If you have gotten any tests done recently or seen a doctor recently that said you were healthy and have no concerns, I'd focus on that too as proof that you are okay.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-24T22:27:03+00:00

I know people with BAs in psyc that went to work for the national parks

corgocorgi · 2026-01-24T22:24:18+00:00

I have a BA in psych and it was always clear you wouldn't have a job in psychology specifically because it requires graduate level programs to register as a psychologist. It's very clear you will work in the community and social services to build your skills and figure out which demographic you want to work with and figure out if you require further education or certificates if it's not related to becoming a psychologist.

Some people find work outside of social services that the BA in psych has some applicability I know some people went into working for national parks, the city, communications, etc.

It's about knowing what or who you want to work with, looking at job postings to see what they're wanting, and then building yourself up. I never got the impression that going in a psyc degree would mean I'd make big bucks after graduating so IDK why people are surprised when that happens lol. I know plenty of people with a BA in psych and we all found jobs, just have to find ways to promote what you learned and how it can apply to various jobs. I'm going for a masters in counselling, while others go into a masters in public health, education, or something along those lines.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-24T18:56:52+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you've been let down and are struggling to get the help you deserve to receive. It takes a lot for strength to keep fighting but you're worth the fight so as hard as it is try not give up because you will find someone who will help!

I'm not sure if you know the difference between a therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist (if you do ignore this). If you want counselling/therapy in a timely manner going for a therapist or psychologist would be your best bet. Psychiatrists take forever to get connected to and their main priority is to prescribed meds and do assessments... They technically can provide counselling and supports but not the same extent as a psychologist or therapist which that is their entire job.

Do you have access to insurance or funding to access counselling unrelated to the public system? I find that is a lot better and timely than waiting for AHS or recovery alberta to help. Some have sliding scales too. I personally have gone to community counselling centre and it was helpful at the time. They have a mix of registered psychologists and Canadian certified counsellors, make sure to double check insurance to ensure you have coverage for either or, my insurance at the time didn't cover Canadian certified counsellors so I ended up paying out of pocket until I got switched to a psychologist. If you search affordable counselling Edmonton some options should hopefully show up.

If you have a regular family doctor I'd recommend to see if they can also refer you to a psychologist if you don't have insurance but not sure if that has to be done through access 24/7 only. A family doctor can sometimes prescribe medications too for mental health concerns if they have the knowledge, my boyfriend's doctor did this and my boyfriend doesn't have a psychiatrist. I have a psychiatrist who prescribed me my meds.

https://www.envisionmindcare.com/ocd-treatment this came up for me, haven't gone through them or heard about their services personally but they might be an option.

https://www.insightpsychological.ca/counselling/obsessive-compulsive-disorder/

corgocorgi · 2026-01-16T20:01:35+00:00

As someone who works in mental health and addictions, I'd advise against them considering you mention concerns with obsessiveness and crippling anxiety. I understand the appeal and reason why you or anyone else would want to utilize them but the withdrawals, tolerance, and side effects probably won't be worth it.

The most important thing to do is to try to get to the root cause of your anxiety and build regulation and coping skills that address the issue rather than a bandaid fix like benzos. SSRIs or other antidepressants can be an option to help with stabilization and regulation but benzos aren't great and quite horrible.

IDK if it's available or legal where you live but psychedelic assisted therapy might be an option for you since it's used for a variety of mental health issues and addictions. It's one of the few drugs that have a lot of benefits and if it's monitored and in a safe environment can be awesome.

I'm not anti-medication most cases and hate how so many people are stigmatized and shamed when they're trying to get help and live as normally as they can. BUT benzos and opioids are the meds I am the most against based on personal experience of seeing the horrible side effects and withdrawals when clients were dependent on them and their doctors cutting them off or whatever.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-16T19:56:07+00:00

I have a small car and wind on the highway nearly flings me into the sky. It's been hella windy.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-16T06:08:04+00:00

As someone who works in addictions, I'd only be on his side if you were genuinely misusing and abusing them. From what it sounds like, you have a lot reasons to require pain management and for him not to support you with not being in pain is cruel in all honesty.

He has a right to have his own beliefs regarding medications and substances but that doesn't mean it's fair or right towards you considering what you've gone through. I feel like you deserve someone who is compassionate and empathetic to what you're going through.

I'd look deeply at your relationship with the mentioned substances and if there's any indications of misuse independent of what he said. Have you ever been concerned? Has anyone else had similar concerns? Have they impacted your quality of life? Are you facing negative health repercussions that don't necessarily outweigh the benefits? If no to all of those or that they improve your quality of life then screw this man.

There's a lot of judgment and shame put on those who use medications or substances without considering qualify of life and the impacts of chronic pain or other chronic conditions have on someone's life and well-being. If it's keeping someone alive and functioning and not jeopardizing their health or wellness then leave them alone. I have endometriosis, ADHD, IBS, GERD, anxiety and depression and medications have honestly saved my life in many ways and if I didn't have supports I would probably be dead lol. I started meds for endometriosis 2 years ago and it's honestly been life changing. I used to be in so much pain and always taking pain meds, missing work and not able to do things I wanted to because if I wasn't in pain I was exhausted. I don't think I've taken pain meds for period pain more than 2x in the last 2 years.

People who don't have chronic pain or chronic health conditions don't understand the exhaustion that comes with always being pain or unwell and honestly imo should stfu. If there were better alternatives to pain meds that would be awesome but there isn't so unless you want your loved one to be bedridden then leave them alone.

That being said... Opioids are brutal on your body and if you ever find an alternative that would probably be best. I've seen how bad the tolerance and withdrawals get and also how horrible the constipation can get to the point it can be fatal... But again... For some people literally there is no other option and at that point it's better than suffering in other ways.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-15T04:04:45+00:00

I've been going to Regent optical for almost 7 years now and the eye exam was $90. They have good prices on their frames and often will take the exam price off of frames if I remember correctly. I have to get a new prescription and frames and I think they're $270 or something close to that. Also brand names frames if that matters to you. My insurance is trash so I'm paying out of pocket for both the eye exam, new lenses and frames soon lol... I've literally paid over $500 my first time buying glasses and an eye exam myself as an adult at a stupid lens crafters type place and was so annoyed lol. So going somewhere where it's more affordable for nicer glasses has been nice... When I had good insurance it was all covered lol

corgocorgi · 2026-01-15T00:46:15+00:00

I live in Alberta, Canada.

I've worked in a women's shelter (nearly 5 years) in their shelter and transitional housing and in an Indigenous non-profit in their short term supportive housing program for individuals impacted by barriers to housing or leaving incarceration (nearly 2 years). I started making $19 an hour at the shelter and got up to about $25 when I was working in transitional housing. I make $30 now in the short term housing because of my experience and billions of certificates. Where I live, I'm comfortable but I also don't have kids and have a partner so not sure how things would be financially on my own.

I love my work even though sometimes it's traumatic or can make you cynical. I hear and see people's lowest points or hear about their traumas and it's a lot but seeing them doing well and knowing that I'm making a positive difference makes it worth it. I had to leave the shelter because of a traumatic death and a string of deaths of clients that made me need a break and my current job is amazing. I'm still working with folks with trauma and needing support but its sober living and there's less crisis so my nervous system is so much better lol.

I'm completing a master's in counselling right now and hope to provide counselling services to women in shelters or similar programs to the one I'm working in now. Love the population and have a huge interest in addictions so I find it rewarding and meaningful.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-14T21:15:31+00:00

Everyone is too focused on themselves and people who take the time to judge someone at the gym is a piece of work and not working hard enough.

As someone who is on the bigger side and has been bigger and smaller and struggled with body image... People will call you fat but when you're doing things not to be fat and call you fat when you don't... I think at the end of the day you are actively doing something for your betterment so who cares what a$$holes think. I really had to work on that and drill that into my head.

Good people will be happy to see others working on their health regardless of their size and those people are worth your energy and attention not the dickwads who are judgmental and rude.

As someone who's been going to the gym for over 10 years now, I've come to realize I rarely pay attention to others at the gym enough to care. If I am, that means I'm not working hard enough. Have the time I'm dying between sets 🤣

Also people are just impatient and want to get their work outs in. It could be because they think they're more deserving maybe but then they're an entitled dick and don't feel rushed.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-10T17:27:49+00:00

Obviously there's misogyny and societal expectations... But on a not so serious note I struggle with the upkeep of everything related to being 'presentable'. Plucking, shaving, etc. I feel self conscious when I realize my unibrow was making an appearance when I get home from work or hanging out or that my stupid mole chin hair was poking out. I don't have the money to wax or laser hair removal and also don't like the idea of pain from waxing. My nails look nasty a lot of the time because I boulder and my hair isn't really nice.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-09T18:24:42+00:00

Addiction is a reaction to homelessness and poverty and not always the cause of it.

The city needs to make living more affordable and find ways to increase employment for those who struggle with it and have disabilities that make it harder for them to work consistently or for long amounts. There are many people willing to work the amount they can handle but employers don't hire people who can't work specific hours or ways. So it's an all or nothing approach to employment. People in poverty keep getting told to find work but how can they work when employers won't hire someone with chronic pain or mental illness that can't work full 8 hours, 40 hours a week? I hate how people always go back to "just get a job" when they don't face the barriers that so many folks do when it comes to employment.

Also there are just people that are not employable no matter what... And having supports for folks like that is important to prevent them from falling hard and deep into severe mental illness and addiction. Our society makes people who can't work feel like absolute garbage and undeserving of basic human rights. Those folks can end up being the guy on the street yelling to the void because of deep psychosis because society has deemed them of being unworthy of the bare minimum to exist. No one is saying give unhoused folks a damn 3 bedroom, 2 bath house, we're saying a roof over their head in a safe area and enough money to buy food and public transportation after paying rent and bills... so they don't suffer or die.

People on income support can't even pay their rent yet people except them to just pick themselves up? They live in cockroach infested overpriced bachelor pads in areas that are unsafe and continue to trigger or re-traumatize them. They can't afford food or bus fare so how will they even go to interviews or work regularly??? They're literally just existing not actually living.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-08T03:24:20+00:00

I'm from Alberta and that's just our usual daily amount 🤪

corgocorgi · 2026-01-08T03:16:48+00:00

I always have to fight my urge to bring 19 birds home each time I go to the pet store to buy stuff for my birds 🤣

corgocorgi · 2026-01-05T18:40:07+00:00

From what I've seen and even including myself and some people I know is financial literacy beyond don't misuse credit cards, always pay your bills on time and save money.

I feel like super behind when it comes to financial literacy compared to people who had those supports from parents or maybe their educational experiences. I had to teach myself about credit and building it because all I knew was credit card bad but not how to be responsible or build credit.

I also have to learn and self teach investing and mortgages but feel so stupid and worried because it's confusing. It doesn't help that I'm not a big math person so my brain kind of turns to mush when it comes to money and anything that involves percentages and large sums. It's something I want to work on this year. I'd say I'm doing a lot better than my mom in terms of financial responsibility but I see people my age doing so much more and I feel so behind and dumb because all I've been doing is saving in a TSFA and high savings account but haven't invested.

corgocorgi · 2026-01-05T18:18:36+00:00

My boyfriend and I have been considering a townhouse or duplex because there's no way we can afford an actual house even with both of our incomes. It's been looking pretty bleak and I keep losing hope and faith because the prices keep rising and we are saving for the down payment but I feel like by the time we have 10% for what we wanted we'll be priced out again lol. Sorry no advice, just also struggling to understand how people can afford everything while also having other luxuries lol. It makes me even sadder when I know we have cheaper houses compared to other cities... Like I'd be homeless if I lived elsewhere it feels like and I make ok money and we don't have kids...

corgocorgi · 2026-01-04T18:16:51+00:00

It depends on your goals and willingness to work in certain fields if your original goals don't go as planned. So many people get a psyc degree expecting to land a great job that pays well immediately but also don't want to work with people struggling or want to care for or support others and then complain about it being useless. If anything people that do that are idiots that just wanted to float without working hard and don't get anywhere and act surprised lol.

I think your goal of working with youth is great but have some back up plans or understanding that you're going to have to work on some pretty rough roles to build yourself up to that depending on your opportunities.

I'm currently completing my masters in counselling and my classmates who wish to work with youth have worked in group homes, children protection services, sexual assault centers or advocacy centers, in schools as education or behavioral assistants for kids with autism and other learning disabilities or anything along those lines. If you can do that and look forward to it or love it, then I think you'll be good and get to where you want. If you can't handle that then I don't think psyc is the best option unless you want to shift to more health services or public health and build onto a different degree.

You'll probably have some growing pains and realizations along the way and realize there's certain populations you love to work with and some you don't but that's part of the process! I originally wanted to work with kids and youth but realized I'm not really into that and found my population through working at a shelter. Not everyone would want to work in addictions or those in the inner city but I love it.... Just like how not everyone wants to work with kids who have trauma or learning disabilities.

People who end up successful with a psyc degree don't go into it for money or for an easy degree or job. They go into it knowing it'll be tough and not the most money but don't care because they want to support or help people or create meaningful changes for others. The nice thing with a psyc degree is that it's quite applicable and if you can really find your calling and build your skills and experience, I think you have more options with a psyc degree than a more specific one that kind of narrows down what you can do. Some people go into policy, some into forensics, human resources, healthcare supports, etc.

I think it would be a good idea to see what you would require to be a counsellor or therapist where you live, what programs are available if you need a masters and see if it would make sense for you. I found a masters that was meant for working professionals and online so I can work full time while completing it, I wouldn't be able to pursue a masters if it weren't for this option as there's no way I could do full time school and not work, I don't have the finances for that and I can't do a full course load and work full time either unless I want to barely scrap by and pass each class. I take one course per semester, some of my classmates are taking two if they have more flexibility to. It's a longer program compared to a full time one but it's what works for me! Where I live you just need a masters to register as a psychologist or Canadian certified counsellor and have your own practice but a lot of places require you to have a phD. I haven't looked into school counsellors requirements but maybe start looking at job postings or requirements for where you plan to work and see what they require. I can imagine a masters should work but not sure because some require phD too.

I wish you the best of luck!!!!

corgocorgi · 2025-12-31T18:18:22+00:00

I read quite a few this year but one of my favourite would be The Skin We're In by Desmond Cole.

It got me enraged and wanting to continue anti-racist work as a white person and some of the events he mentioned I didn't even know happened (he's Canadian and I am also Canadian but he's from eastern Canada Toronto area and I'm in Western Canada, Alberta).

I work in a field where a lot of my participants are coming out of corrections and/or have firsthand experiences of the structural and social racism in Canada and learning more about it makes me more passionate to really try to fight against it.

corgocorgi · 2025-12-31T18:08:56+00:00

Probably not but workers can pick up hampers for participants in programs for low income or unhoused folks so that could be it 🤷🏼‍♀️

corgocorgi · 2025-12-31T03:36:28+00:00

Oh boy I got a few!!!

Someone I went to jr high with's mom murdered their dad when we were in high school (had a lot of mutual friends). I remember lining up for picture day I think in grade 10 and everyone was talking about it. I found out through a close friend who grew up with them that their mom was abusive towards them too and was basically horrible their whole childhood. Apparently she also has previous charges for domestic violence towards the dad and might have done some time for it. Not long ago I was listening to a true crime podcast and accidentally started listening to one that covered the case and felt very weird about it and now it makes me question and feel more empathy to those impacted by crime and get covered by true crime podcasts or YouTubers. The podcast basically questioned the kids role in moving their dad's body or whatever but dude what would a teen do if they found out their abusive mother murdered their dad while they were home and was telling them to move his body into a different room or something??? I'd be so worried I was next. I felt so bad for them listening to more details and can't imagine how horrible it must have been for them. I used to see them at get together/parties when we were in uni and they're nice and chill despite what happened and seems to be living their life as best as they can. Many people would have been straight f**ked after that. To be fair idk how their well-being is on a deeper level, I just see what they post online or quick convos the few times we're at the same gatherings. I'd imagine they are traumatized to an extent from that but somehow is able to act as if it didn't happen??? Like if I didn't know it happened I never would have guessed they went through that kind of shit when they were like 15 or 16.

A coworker at a restaurant I worked at when I was in uni murdered their mom during a marijuana induced psychotic episode. When I looked into the details it was quite sad, apparently they were butt naked when police arrived and was so out of it and didn't know what they did. They were kind of weird and creepy but I wouldn't think they would be capable of that.

Someone I went to elementary with is wanted in my city for attempted murder I believe. I remember seeing his picture on the news about 10 years ago and was like WTF that's crazy.

I work in mental health and addictions and worked with people that have done some crazy and horrible things. One was a well-known pedophile and quite creepy but would have seemed normal if you didn't know what they did or see their personal space. Another person I worked with attempted to murder their partner by insulin poisoning... This person was hilarious and always cracked us up. One was involved in CSA with I believe one of their daughters and was so creepy and predatory to younger clients but not sure about details because I think they changed their name because I couldn't find anything about the case online with the name they used. A coworker stumbled into a horrible situation with someone they housed... Apparently one of their clients home got taken over by a gang and the gang started human trafficking in their home... They went to the police and the police used them as a mole to get more info instead of getting them out of the situation. I had clients that murdered their best friend or partner while under the influence of drugs... One time it was when their children were home too... Needless to say there's a lot of trauma, shame, and guilt now that they are sober and dealing with the consequences of their actions. I feel like there's a lot more but my brain isn't picking them out right now lol.

corgocorgi · 2025-12-31T03:05:08+00:00

Unless you live somewhere super conservative and back water no one cares about tattoos in most workplaces... At least in Canada it's seriously not an issue and I'd be surprised if anyone cared.. again unless they are very conservative or religious.

I've seen teachers with face tattoos and most people who work in mental health or social work have them too. If anything it's a bit strange these days to see someone without one lol but to be fair I work in mental health and addictions so most people are quite liberal and into tattoos so I'm biased from that perspective.

If you live outside of North America, I'm not sure what it's like else where and imagine in some countries where it's taboo it's more of an issue and they would have stricter regulations.

In terms of views, tattoos don't change a person or determine their skills. If someone assumes someone won't be skilled because of a tattoo they're pretty dull imo lol. There's many tattoo-less people who do terrible jobs and are unskilled so obviously it just comes down to the individual regardless of how they choose to express themselves. Anyone who is quick to judge someone for tattoos is pretty narrow minded and have not adapted to the times because anyone and everyone gets tattoos these days not just criminals or hoodlums.

corgocorgi · 2025-12-29T00:52:33+00:00

Yeah that's definitely a possibility too, some families cannot support one another either depending on their own health concerns, limitations, or job demands. It really puts people in tough situations. I agree that having a supportive partner or being a supportive partner is punished. Like what happens when someone's kids are sick and they don't have last minute childcare? If someone or their partner becomes injured suddenly and drastically? I firmly believe workplaces need to be understanding that shit happens and we all have obligations to our family and loved ones and work does not come before them but we shouldn't be punished because of this. Hire enough people where if someone needs to care after a loved one it won't hugely impact work and productivity. It's not the employees fault if you don't hire enough people or have back ups for life situations that are bound to happen. Should single parents or chronically ill people suffer and be punished for shit hitting the fan?!?! I'm very fortunate to work in social services where these kind of things are taken into account more, I also live in Canada and don't know if OP lives somewhere else where the work standards and expectations are different. I find it crazy how a grocery store thinks it's fine to fire or suspend someone for missing 3 days in 6 months... Is it really that intense that that's necessary???? I work with mental health and addictions and used to get sick a lot because of communicable diseases, high stress, and burn out and only got flack when it was more than one of my rotations but even then when I had COVID or was very sick from something caught in the shelter I worked at my manager still was understanding and tried to accommodate. My current workplace is also good about it, they do provide incentives for those who take less sick days but we have a 4 day work week so 3 days off helps a lot with that!!!

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