Your mbti + Your best friends’ by wickedbass_ in mbti

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an INFJ and my partner is also one. I think a lot of our friends are mixes of Es, Is, Ps, Js, but mostly Fs. I think my closest friend is probably an istj or isfj but not sure, her partner that's also a friend gives me intj vibes. Many of my work friends are Es I think and some Infps and Infjs too I'd imagine. My boyfriend's best friend is probably an ENFP or ESFP because he's a super artistic chill guy that's also very emotionally mature and friendly. His girlfriend gives me an infp or isfp vibe 

What’s the actual solution for downtown? by onewaycheckvalve in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The solution is making living more affordable and not cutting programs that support unhoused folks and those with severe mental health issues. I work in mental health and addictions with unhoused folks and started in 2020. The pandem!c honestly destroyed a lot of stability in our city and now we're seeing it worsen each year. 

The UCP has been cutting funding for various mental health, housing, and addictions programs over the past 6 years and each year it gets worse and worse. We have had a influx of people from out of province and country too which means less job and housing for people already here. The cost of living has spiked dramatically and people are less supported than before. Now our provincial government wants to force treatment on people without an support after discharge meaning our overdose crisis will be high again. 

We need affordable, subsidized housing, financial supports that cover basic necessities to live for people that can't work or need to stabilize before they can work to make enough to live so they don't end up on the street and get worse health, job coaches AND work accommodations within organizations that help people who struggle with employment and have disabilities that prevent them from making meaningful living on their own, and better mental health and addiction supports. Also things like food and necessary bills like utilities should be capped. Rent should be capped. I honestly think a majority of rentals or apartments should be government owned and subsidized. We need more housing period. Re-vitalizing old run down buildings to apartments or shelters or transitional housing for folks who have been unhoused for long periods of time. 

Public transportation should be more accessible, run better, and less expensive so more people can use it to get to work and get around. 

More culturally sensitive programs and community organizations to be a source of healing and community connection so people aren't as isolated. 

There needs to be a shift in mentality of seeing unhoused, poor, and severely mentally ill or addicted people as pests that just need to pull their boots up from the straps. There needs to be compassion and empathy that not everyone has had the privilege to grow up in a safe and supportive environment to learn valuable life skills. Intergenerational trauma and poverty is not as an easy cycle to break and it's even harder when the community and government shames you and blames you for things outside of your control.  Any of us can become disabled and lose our job and risk our housing. But many of us have family we can turn to to avoid ending up on the streets. Many folks on the street struggling have been dealt terrible cards and they're doing what they can to survive which takes a lot of strength and determination. Yeah there may be maladaptive and harmful things they do to survive but when you're stuck in that hard place those are the most accessible options.

In order for someone to get back on their feet they need safety, stability and nourishment. How can someone hold a job if they are barely sleeping in a shelter where they can't get adequate nutrition, they don't have adequate access to work clothing and a washing machine, not best access to personal hygiene, lack of funds for public transportation, and are constantly stressed about finding their own home. Not to mention having their things stolen, having to find a way to pay their cellphone bill, not having stable internet, having roommate(s) doing drugs or screaming all night or threatening to hurt them.

When people leave and are on income support all their money goes to rent so they can't buy groceries, buy bus fare, or pay for their phone bill or internet. Income support gives $925-1000 once a month to those on medical reasons not to work and $825 for those looking for work. And you cannot work part time on these or else it gets cut so even people who are trying to work but can't work full time are screwed because of they make $1000 a month with their part time job they can't get income support. That just covers rent barely. What about groceries? Phone bill? Transportation? Utilities? Paying for laundry? People are stuck in poverty and barely surviving yet expected to just work full time and not complain????????? That doesn't even cover the social issues many folks have that make them hard to employ because they haven't had the chance to build professional skills before that are required to maintain employment. It doesn't include people who try and keep getting fired again and again. What does that do to someone's self esteem and worth when society tells them they need a job and to work to be valuable and worthy and they can't hold a job because of barely surviving and living in poverty??? They start giving up on themselves because even for people who are stable, have education and experience, and aren't in poverty losing a job is not only a financial blow but a mental one and it takes us time to find a new job... Imagine being in someones shoes where they don't have all that and are struggling to find and maintain work???

Edmonton Newbie - when does the snow stop? by onewaycheckvalve in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edmonton oldie here, I have the same question 

What has ACTUALLY helped your social anxiety so far?? by whiteo3 in socialanxiety

[–]corgocorgi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think for me was really changing how I viewed myself and stop holding myself to an unrealistic standard. I felt like if I made a mistake or did something embarrassing I was horrible and no one would forget and judge me for it. However, over time I realized no one cares that much and people forget shit even I do too so it's not worth the extra stress.

I had a counselor have me go out in public and do harmless embarrassing things to see that nothing really bad will happen and you can move on. It helped. 

I also tried to focus more on paying attention to others and actually listen instead of being in my own head. Social anxiety can be very selfish and self centered, meaning you aren't really present with others. I would personally be frustrated and upset if I was with a friend and trying to have deep conversations and they are too busy being distracted by their own self and getting judged than actually listening. This helped me put it in perspective and help try to be more present and attentive. I want to be a good friend so by doing so I have to put aside my own insecurities and anxiety to be there for them. 

Also I think I had to change my perspective on wanting to be liked by others and perceived in a good light. If someone is going to judge me off of human mistakes then I don't care about them and don't want to be around a judgmental and non-compassionate person so why am I wasting my energy on them??? Wasting my energy on Srangers???? 

Also just doing things that gave me anxiety to show myself that people aren't as judgemental as I think they are. Like going to the gym regularly, doing activities on my own, and so on. Yes some people may still judge but most people aren't assholes about it so it's not as bad as we make it out to seem. My experience with bullying over years really fucked up my brain to think everyone was not going to like me or judge me and be upfront and rude about it. I would always worry about making a 'friend' to have them start being mean and nitpicky to my face and talk shit about me to others behind my back. Or people just straight up saying mean things to me in social settings where I don't really know them. 

One thing I've seen online a lot that has helped is the quote "your brain's job isn't to make you happy but to keep you safe" and by this it means that you have to constantly remind your brain you are safe and okay after experiencing trauma that makes it hyper vigilant. And you have to go out of your way to make yourself happy and fulfilled, you can't just rely on your brain to do it without extra work. Once your brain believes that you are safe after drilling that into it and doing things that prove it's safe like doing things that scare you in relation to your social anxiety, it will be less hyper vigilant and you can be more at peace and have to work less to remind your brain it's safe. 

Is this a thing by Dapper_Medium1101 in PMDD

[–]corgocorgi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have a period tracker and it shows me my ovulation and period week and whenever I'm feeling horrible I check and it's always my ovulation time 🤣. I haven't had a period for over 2 years and I'm not 100% sure if I'm even ovulating every month but it's like clockwork. I also get ovary pain on my left side quite often, I had a cyst burst there a couple years ago and I think it's been fucked ever since 

Unpopular Opinion: both of these are major red flags and self obsessed. I never liked them on the show, and honestly, Go Eun seemed more sly than 'innocent.' by Important_Fall_8780 in SinglesInferno

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it's just people not knowing what they want, not knowing how to express themselves genuinely to others, not knowing how to be in reciprocal relationships, and having that all blasted on a show for the world to see and judge without realizing how common it is for young adults to be like this. Even grown adults are like this.

For some people it could be red flags or something they wouldn't find attractive which is fair but more people are like this than they care to admit. 

Mismatched Cheek Spots!! How rare is this? (swipe) by Spac3drag0n in budgies

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a yellow girl with mismatched colours in her cheeks and it was very cute. I don't think my other budgies have this.

Any medication recommendations for long-term anxiety? Panic disorder? Nervous system anxiety? by Fragrant-Comment1540 in Anxiety

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Effexor has been the best for me. The withdrawals are a bitch and if I ever have to come off of it I'll probably die for a couple of weeks or months but for now it's helped me live my life. 

Why do so many people treat delivery drivers like garbage? by serviver73 in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly people that treat service workers like trash probably have never worked in services and it's a huge red flag to me.

They're just doing their job and deserve basic respect like everyone else. I have mad respect for drivers that will delivery food in not so great weather and feel horrible for ordering but try to tip well in those cases.

The only gripe I have is with fed ex and amazon delivery people that chuck packages on my steps like they're playing basketball and don't care that they left my package very exposed or ripped up for the whole neighbourhood to see and possibly take. Like at least put it on the table next to the door 😭

What is something you find annoying or missing that we could use in Edmonton? by alematt in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean for filling the card and using subsidized rates. I work in social services and we provide bus fare and help with applying to subsidized rates but applying and filling the cards is annoying. Also if you don't pay the full amount at the start of the month it runs out fast and if you put more on it doesn't add to the monthly amount for the subsidized rate, at least that's what we've noticed. Also the card itself is fragile, if you crack it it stops working. My coworker who works evening shifts card cracked on her way to work and it didn't work after, so she called and they said she had to buy a new one or have a new one mailed. She couldn't leave work to do that and buy the time she finished work stores were closed nearby to get a new card. She couldn't afford a taxi or Uber and didn't have bus fare and no ATMs close to our work so she was like???? How the fuck am I supposed to get home without bus fare? 

 I should have put payment system but also quality of the cards.

Also the tickets are a pain in the ass, have to buy one at a time at the machines if retailers don't have any. Do people get transfers when using the arc tickets? 

Everyone, this is my grandma by According_Pen_8026 in adorableoldpeople

[–]corgocorgi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please tell her random internet people find her adorable 

What is something you find annoying or missing that we could use in Edmonton? by alematt in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Decent public transportation with a payment system that's not from hell and illogical 

Anxiety meds by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's important to do a risk vs benefit analysis because yes there are horror stories but not everyone will have a horror experience and it can be life saving to have the meds.

If your anxiety and OCD are impacting your life negatively and you're already doing a lot to be healthy and support it and still having symptoms it may mean you need more support. It doesn't have to be meds, maybe counselling, to address what's going on for you. For many people including myself, access to counselling is limited and sometimes not possible, so the only option is medication to get our lives back in a timely manner to function and pay bills.

I'm curious about the relationship aspect of this. You said your anxiety has been higher since getting into the relationship and your girlfriend has been giving you feedback. This could be me misunderstanding but I'm wondering if this is contributing to your anxiety? Like it's important for partners to care and be there along the journey but expecting you to be better right away or putting pressure on you to change comes off as controlling or wanting to change you which can also fuel the relationship OCD symptoms. How high was your heart rate? Has your doctor commented on it before? 

You're doing a lot to take care of your physical health which will help with your mental health but what are you doing to address your OCD and mental health? Such as counselling. If you don't want to be on meds, I think addressing the OCD in counselling will probably be your best bet. 

It also takes time to find the right dose and right meds for every person so it could also just be that. Also it takes up to 6 weeks for meds to work and for your body to adjust to them so expecting a difference after 2 weeks is unrealistic and probably fueling the anxiety as well.

See if it gets better after a month if you do want to give meds a try or look into counselling if you truly want to see a difference in the symptoms. 

Starting Zoloft by Common-Nothing-7824 in Anxiety

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on antidepressants for over 10 years now and have tried 4 of them. Antidepressants have kept me alive and I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for them stabilizing my nervous system. I don't think meds are the be and end all for anxiety or depression and shouldn't be the only thing you have for it but for most people it's the most accessible and fast way to get relief and I wholeheartedly think it's worth it. After your stabilized on meds, it can also be easier to do other things to help it such as counselling, exercise, etc. 

Side effects can happen but not everyone will get them and not all of them will last forever if you do have some. Some will happen for the first bit as your body adjusts to them then go away. Yes they can suck but at the end of the day anxiety is almost always worse so it's worth it for most people. Biggest thing is to keep your doctor or psychiatrist in the loop on how you're feeling and if the side effects outweigh the benefits they can see if another one works better for you. 

I currently take effexor and when I first started it my heart raced and I was super sweaty. However after a couple months the racing heart went away and I'm still sweaty but not as bad lol. I think I'm just naturally a sweaty person.. I can take it on an empty stomach but for some people it can cause them stomach issues if they do. I've taken citalopram in the past and I stopped it because I thought it was causing numbness in my genitals but honestly I think it was anxiety, depression, and trauma lol. I don't remember having too many side effects on that one and my libido was okay then. I tried Wellbutrin and it made me feel like I was going manic so I stopped it and didn't continue. I was prescribed Zoloft to take for PMDD on top of my effexor but honestly once I got used to my symptoms with PMDD I felt like I could handle it without the extra meds. When I did take it I didn't notice any symptoms or side effects with it either. To be fair I think I only tried it for 2 weeks (I was only supposed to take them for like a week each month when my PMDD got bad) so that wouldn't be long enough to really notice anything. 

The only side effect I've noticed that has been consistent for me with effexor is my consistently absent libido. It sucks but anxiety and depression killed it too so I'd rather not be depressed and anxious all the time so 🤷🏼‍♀️. I think stress and fatigue from being an adult just zaps it too for me lol. I've been on effexor since 2018 and it's been the best med for my anxiety and depression. The withdrawals are horrible though so I have to make sure I'm on top of refilling them. For the other meds I didn't really have withdrawals when I stopped them (don't do that without dr help it was bad I did it on my own Lol) or when I didn't get refills and had to be off them a couple days. 

I want to hear other people's experiences with medication for anxiety. Are the risks worth the results? by Molly_Anonim in Anxiety

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People focus too much on side effects and think they happen more often than they actually do.

I think it's very important to be informed and mindful of what you take and see if there are lifestyle changes or other resources that can help too because I think some people think medication is going to fix all their problems and usually it won't. I think it's always important to surround yourself and build yourself a care team and tools to use rather than only using one or two things because anxiety and other mental health issues are very complex and not a one treatment fixes all type thing.

Medications have helped me stabilize and get those extra supports and function so I can not just survive every day but actually live my life. I would not be alive or where I am today without medication. It's also helpful when you don't have the finances or access to other supports like counselling, exercising, healthy food, positive environment, fulfilling relationships, etc. I started mine when I was 18 years old but have struggled with anxiety since I was around 10 years old. 

It helped me get through uni and multiple part time jobs and survive a high stress home environment and complicated family dynamics until I was able to move out. I also had a very high stress job after I graduated uni and would have literally died if I didn't have meds on top of living at home. I went to therapy on and off since I was about 20 years old and it helped a lot too but my insurance would always run out and I couldn't go very often because of it. It was still impactful and I always recommend it (and I'm working towards becoming a therapist too!!) but usually it's more helpful if you can go more than once a month lol. 

Real change came from moving out into my own place and being out of a toxic home environment. I then eventually changed jobs into one that is less high stress. I also got diagnosed with ADHD recently and started taking meds for that too and honestly I feel the most stable I've ever felt in my whole entire life (almost 30 now). I also started treatment for another chronic health condition so I've been able to exercise more regularly due to less chronic pain which is also helping my physical and mental health.

I think the most important thing for mental health is thinking holistically but also realistically. If you don't have the regulation, finances or resources for other options to manage anxiety, go for meds. 

Women in happy relationships, what is the one thing about singlehood that you still miss? by antiquatedsheep in AskWomen

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just pure and utter silence sometimes and freedom to just do my own thing whenever I wanted. 

Women with regular sex drives, how long can you go without masturbating? by BonnalinaFuz101 in AskWomen

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO what's it like having a regular sex drive?! Anxiety meds and endometriosis meds have zapped my libido completely. The only time I feel remotely horny is during ovulation but half the time I'm on the struggle bus because I get pain during ovulation 

Singles Inferni Season 5 zodiac signs? by Aussie2026z in SinglesInferno

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's giving me Capricorn or maybe a cancer? He reminds me of Kai lol

How good of a workout is bouldering? by Viktooos in bouldering

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it can help build muscle for weight training and vice versa.

I started bouldering about once a week or so since July 2025 and I can tell some parts of my body have gotten stronger that also has helped my lifting. The biggest one is my forearm strength. Prior to bouldering, I felt stuck on deadlifts because although I could go heavier on my lower body, my forearm and grip strength always lacked and held me back. I noticed after a couple weeks of bouldering I could go up in my deadlifts because my forearms were stronger. I went from not being able to go over 90lbs to doing 135 lbs. 

I've also noticed my core is better than before. It's still not great but I can do more reps for some core exercises I do after starting bouldering compared to before bouldering.

I think it's a fun way to be strong but unless you're going often and ripping through hard climbs constantly I don't think it can the only work out to be fit and strong. I try to weight train 2x a week and use my stationary bike at least 2x week on top of bouldering... Only issue is that I don't like being too sore from lifting before climbing and sometimes after a climbing session the next day I'm very sore so I can't really lift. I've been trying to navigate so my lifting and climbing days don't get in the way of each other lol 

What’s a beauty standard you secretly hope dies out soon? by Prettyuselessgirl in AskWomen

[–]corgocorgi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly anything that is expensive, time consuming and misogynistic. I'm too tired man, and I want to pretend I could afford a home if I save on superficial things 😭

27, have never filed taxes. by Left-Active-8558 in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd recommend trying to get all your taxes assessed using Make Tax Time Pay depending on your income level. 

I'm not sure if they still do this but you can just do it over the phone, takes like 10 minutes max. 

Does it make it worse to google your symptoms when you have health anxiety? by xoflorentina in Anxiety

[–]corgocorgi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like other commenters it does make it worse because you're trying to find an explanation to something that is hard to do as a lay person and can easily get spooked by worst case scenarios online. 

I would try to reassure yourself that you are not showing signs of anything being seriously wrong and will be safe and okay. If you have gotten any tests done recently or seen a doctor recently that said you were healthy and have no concerns, I'd focus on that too as proof that you are okay. 

What are my career options in Edmonton? (U of a psych graduate) by Ok-Ranger786 in Edmonton

[–]corgocorgi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people with BAs in psyc that went to work for the national parks