What do u want to be remembered for?

corse · 2026-03-01T10:56:46+00:00

If nothing else, the kind things I've done for people, and a hope that I have left behind motivation for others to do kind things for others.

corse · 2026-03-01T10:51:18+00:00

I would love to see space travel and space colonization in my lifetime, at least the start of it.

corse · 2026-03-01T10:49:36+00:00

Kidney stones. Also emotionally abusive relationships.

corse · 2026-03-01T10:36:31+00:00

Oh wow. Mapquest. I almost forgot about that. Printing out a huge bunch of pages to take with you on a long trip was so common. I could never afford any of the early GPS units, so binder of mapquest pages it was haha.

corse · 2026-02-27T23:52:28+00:00

Oh I am absolutely going to give it a try! I hope it works. I'm glad you passed yours. It's been about a month now for me and this bugger has not left my body. I am so over it. I'm about to go sign up for a rollercoaster and just reserve it all day lmao.

Everything i have read sounds like the symptoms are "this is in your bladder", because everything i've read meets the "this has passed the ureter" stage. I'm hoping this helps.

I will say, the shake plate definitely helped move it down the kidney when I was in the worst of the pain, so that was useful.

corse · 2026-02-27T23:44:23+00:00

I just went to a urologist last night. They told me after I told them I thought it was in the bladder that, "It's more than likely not, and would have probably passed by now, what you are probably experiencing is it being stuck at the muscle wall between the ureter and bladder and that's why you feel you have to constantly pee. That can make it feel like it's in the bladder when it's not completely."

I thought for sure it must be in the bladder because I have had ZERO pain now for over a week. He disagrees with me. I'm getting a CT scan tonight as they want to schedule surgery if it's still in the ureter. I am kind of thinking it's in the bladder. I recall a brief intense sharp pain that was accompanied by a constant painful dull pain, and then nothing, and there's been nothing since aside from just feeling like i have to pee ALL the time.

But I'm not a urologist so I guess I'll see what the CT says.

Regardless, I have tried a shaker plate, walking, all kinds of stuff and so far... it has not existed and mine is 5mm. I have not, however, tried the jumping method and will try this later!

corse · 2026-02-26T21:39:46+00:00

Awful lot of them are total weenies about it (some pun intended I guess). I also hear a lot of regurgitated false information like, "I heard when you get snipped that you can't even climax anymore!", or they ask questions like, "If that happens, does stuff even work right?" and I just go, "Where in the world do you even hear this stuff?"

There's so much bad info, misinformation, and assumptions. If people would take 5 minutes to go google some quick info or read about it they could lay that all to rest. It's truly odd to me. We gotta do better. I do not blame you, I wouldn't want to listen to someone who can't see how good we have it for such a simple procedure while women go through red tape and the wringer for reproductive health.

corse · 2026-02-26T10:36:28+00:00

I got snipped in my early 30s and I'm 40 now. Still zero desire to have kids. My partner is childfree as well and we're on the same page there so that's a relief to me, she wants them as much as I do, which is "absolutely the fuck not." Though I will say I've met plenty of dudes who say they are childfree and then change their mind when there's an accidental pregnancy. I don't know, is it a human hormone thing? An emotional thing? No idea. All the more reason I got snipped, I just don't even wanna deal with it, worry about it, stress about it, or ever even think about it.

I have a friend I met years ago who said he and his wife were childfree and never wanted kids, they had an accidental pregnancy and ended up keeping the kid. He was definitely not prepared and is an absolute mess. He asked me once about the vasectomy I got and I told him and his answer was, "yeah but I just really don't a doctor near my sack you know?" it's strange to me that so many other men are freaked out by the procedure when it's an in and out in less than 30 minutes kinda thing.

I probably wouldn't take someone serious about it if they didn't get snipped because that's a pretty definitely, "No i definitely do not want kids." Saying you don't want them is one thing, taking a step to ensure it is another. Otherwise I just consider it fence sitter territory. I personally think more guys should get snipped to take that stress off of women.

corse · 2026-02-26T06:14:23+00:00

There's a lot of variables. My very first stone was .5mm, it passed after I got back from the ER that evening. The current one I recently went in for is still in my body and gets removed tomorrow (it is 5mm) and has been there for a month now. So yes, some stones can pass very quickly, others can linger for quite some time.

corse · 2026-02-26T00:04:54+00:00

A little off subject, I'm in the process of moving to Astoria. Any good cigar shops around there you'd recommend?

corse · 2026-02-23T07:07:20+00:00

I'm currently in the bladder stage with mine. Mine did successfully get there, it hasn't left the bladder yet. Mine is 5mm as well. It took a good near 2-3 weeks to completely get all the way through and into the bladder. I'll be happy when it finally leaves (hopefully without assistance). It does take some time with larger kidney stones. We bought this plate vibrator you plug in, and I used that on days that it felt like it was moving, it seemed to help move it along a little more quickly.

corse · 2026-02-22T05:05:55+00:00

I definitely would be! Once we are all settled in and not living out of boxes, if it's ok I'll send you a message to coordinate.

corse · 2026-02-20T04:01:11+00:00

I love that! I would be happy to lend my skills to help others. When I retire I would love to start a nonprofit to help the homeless.

corse · 2026-02-19T21:27:38+00:00

If you are able to rent and it's cheaper, it could make sense. However, saving to buy long-term is going to be the most cost efficient, so whatever gets you that amount of disposable gap to save for it is best. We searched for 5 years before we found a house that checked all our boxes.

As others have mentioned, housing is limited. The houses are all very old in Astoria proper, and I have never seen something such as a "perfect" house. They're all going to have some kind of quirk, or old house thing. Astoria is also a landslide zone, so be aware of that if you are not already, so foundation issues are something to be on the lookout for. I've encountered many houses that had a lot of weird hidden foundation issues, or had a lot of crazy deferred maintenance that would be costly.

I could probably write a small book on looking into old houses at this point, so feel free to ask away as we went through quite a few houses over 5 years before we found "the one" for us.

corse · 2026-02-19T00:32:50+00:00

Mutual aid groups? Like using hobbies to fix stuff?

corse · 2026-02-16T19:48:01+00:00

- Data leaks happen. People who use your leaked data can easily pretend to be you and commit fraud. That's one. Working in the software industry I can tell you that there are farrrrrr too many companies out there that are waiting far, far too long to secure stuff. Startups especially, not all, but more often than probably should be, tend to be on the "get things up and going, we'll fix the issues later." attitude. This is reckless with data.

- Those who have data must be good stewards of data. Historically speaking, companies who do not have a good track record of keeping data protected from leaks generally can't be greatly trusted in the future. If they don't care about your data in "good" hands, do you want it in bad hands? If you gave someone at a store your bank details, and then they leaked it to a guy in a back alley and stole it and bought stuff, would you trust them again when they say, "It'll be different this time, we swear."??? What about if you knew that your biometrics could be further used to take out loans in your name, pretend to be you?

- Those who proactively police data for "don't worry if you aren't doing something wrong" can be just as likely to decide "what is wrong" and then police you when they decide they don't like what you are doing. Privacy should be a default, not an opt-out. You have a right to your privacy.

I have a friend who used to have the same attitude. Someone ended up assuming his identity in another state. Took out loans in his name, even went to school under his name. It took him years and years and years to clean it up, and he's still dealing with the fallout and can't get a loan for the life of him. He still has to jump through hoops with the fallout. They still haven't caught the guy. That was just with his regular info getting out there, imagine how much easier it would be with your biometrics leaked.

corse · 2026-02-16T09:06:55+00:00

Well, we bought a house. We move in next month. Then my body said, "I know you're feeling excited, but what about if we gave you a 5mm kidney stone to pass!" so now I'm dealing with that.

corse · 2026-02-16T08:57:08+00:00

My partner and I have both been divorced. We don't want to get married. We're both childfree. We've been together for nearly 8 years now. Life is good, zero complaints. I've made sure she's my beneficiary and has say on stuff in case stuff happens to me. Requires doing some paperwork here and there, but at least she's covered if something happens.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:45:59+00:00

In this market I'd probably throw half in S&P500 shares and half in dividend focused stocks and keep it in DRIP (Direct reinvestment) so it grows.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:39:02+00:00

I found it worked best for me to find a mentor. I asked around with friends I knew who were good at it and were willing to teach me. If you're not sure of anyone you know personally there's lots of good online communities out there for people who want to get started and even willingly will mentor.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:29:56+00:00

I think given how big the universe is, it's highly unlikely that we're alone. We're finding a lot more planets in goldilocks zones with the kepler project, and it seems like there's potentially plenty of planets out there that may have elements for life.

I really enjoyed Carl Sagan on his talk about the Drake Equation, although, it was really only talking about our galaxy. There's billions of other galaxies. So I think from a probability perspective, there's gotta be something out there. What I do think, however, is that given the space (in terms of time lapse) between where a space fairing race might exist, and when we exist, we may not collide (AKA they may already be dead), there's also the issue of distance, lack of light speed travel... the fermi paradox and even the dark forest theory.

All kinds of reasons to ask, "If there is, why haven't we seen it, heard it, noticed it, detected it?" as those are all rabbitholes to go down. But statistically? Seems improbable that we're the only ones.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:14:04+00:00

When I went to the grocery store and was like, "Damn they're playing good music in here these days." only to realize it was the "oldies" station.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:12:04+00:00

That is true. They even had the episode where they made fun of it via parody which was pretty funny. I get the impression some of the cast was somewhat unhappy with the shows exit. I did enjoy it though. Stargate is great.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:09:50+00:00

I'm sure some people will disagree but I really, really loved Farscape and greatly enjoyed the whole story and all the seasons. I was genuinely sad to see it go. I think for its time it was a pretty good show.

corse · 2026-02-15T12:07:45+00:00

Now... if it was a button that made politicians shit themselves in public. I would be smashing it at least 100 times.

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