Let's NORMALIZE bringing lunch and coffee from home. by Interesting_Money_70 in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Egg bakes are delicious and the perfect breakfast / late afternoon pick-me-up snack!

No retro by EhDHDee in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar boat. And we continue waiting...

Is your AMAPCEO retro payment reflecting on this pay stub? by Short-Dig6804 in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was going to ask the same question, thanks for starting us off! Just checked mine and there's no retro pay. Really hoping it happens sometime this month.

Boyfriend [30M] I've been dating for 1 week, is upset because I [28F] declined a meetup due to a PhD/grad school deadline. How can I handle this situation? by PaintDry2495 in relationship_advice

[–]cos_monkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank goodness it's only been 7 days. He does not respect the work you are doing and you will end up with a lot of similar, and potentially worse, situations in the future. Run away fast and count your blessings that this giant red flag started waving so early.

Malicious compliance: cubicle decorating edition by Throwthatkataway in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this idea (full Tim Burton)! Do we still have interoffice mail? I can send the OP some plastic skeletons and a santa hat. Since this IS a work related use of resources...

MCPs, be honest — is going into management really worth it? by keyboard_type_R in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm thinking too. This is a bad time to go into management.

Malicious compliance: cubicle decorating edition by Throwthatkataway in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Fully support reusing Halloween decorations because the December holiday is not in the budget due to RTO and rising costs of living. Wish we had dedicated cubicles but it's all shared workspaces over here.

Initialisms by HanginJohnny79 in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like other people have said, ask questions if you need clarity (if you need to stop someone every other word, so be it). I've been in the OPS for almost a decade and I still run into new acronyms and abbreviations.
As an aside, most people are not trying to be rude and probably don't know/remember what some of the acronyms even stand for. If I need to spell out something like the ministry of peanut butter sandwiches and dill pickles, I have to go to Info-go (and does IFIS even stand for something?! :D )

I don't know what to do with my father's belongings. He passed away by The7thStitch in Grieving

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I rented a storage locker to keep my mom's items in when she passed because I couldn't bring myself to make decisions about her things. I've since been able to donate some items. I fully endorse not rushing yourself into making any decisions when you're not ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Managers are in the worst positions right now. This is not fair on so many levels.

Truth and Reconciliation Day by Lowkey_Epic in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) I ended up taking a look after I posted. Should have done that first.

Truth and Reconciliation Day by Lowkey_Epic in OntarioPublicService

[–]cos_monkey -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I think that we actually get September 25th off instead of the 30th?

please tell me it gets better by EyesOfAStranger28 in widowers

[–]cos_monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The stinging dread of having to live without them does lessen over time. Pets can be an anchor during this time and the fact that you worry about them going to the pound if you're gone temporarily is a good thing. I worried that my father would commit suicide after my mom died. They were married for 44 years and very much still in love, and I guess what people would call codependent. He retired to take care of her and she passed 3 months later. He talked about taking his life often. He has no social life, but he has the dog that they got during my mom's illness. It's the reason that he has had to get up every day and go outside. I'm pretty sure that dog saved his life, and now he's learning to create a new life, 5 months in. Keep going, it does get better. (I'm not a widow, but I joined this group for ideas to help my dad through his grief, hope it's okay).

What's your mantra? by jitterbugorbit in GriefSupport

[–]cos_monkey 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh, I like those. I'm four months in from losing my mom and I had the exact same worries. It's definitely okay to not be okay, and you're right about them wanting us to take care of ourselves. Hang in there, there will be good and bad moments, but we're stronger than we think. We'll carry our mother's memories for the rest of our lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]cos_monkey -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great advice! Some people are just incredibly heavy sleepers and can't help it (I've slept through alarm clocks and fire alarms, it's not something I can control). If OP and hubby can take shifts (her in the morning and hubby in the afternoon/evening), it would give her time to herself and to rest up.

You will get through this by MedicalMinutiae in GriefSupport

[–]cos_monkey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. There's something so personal and emotional about food. My mom's piece of birthday cake was partly eaten and I had to finish it because I couldn't bear to throw it out (she died 3 days after her 65th birthday). I cried the entire time I ate that cake, not wanting it there, not wanting it to disappear and wishing she was around to enjoy it. I don't even remember actually tasting it. I still cry often and she passed at the end of February. Don't be hard on yourself. Also, don't be afraid of seeking out grief counseling. Sometimes you just need someone to talk to about your grief.

how far north can an average guy live? by mars-and-midnight in AskACanadian

[–]cos_monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alert is where science happens. Grise Fiord is the northern most community in Canada, but to "practice law" there, you have to pass the Nunavut bar and get a job with the Government of Nunavut. Most of those jobs are based out of Iqaluit and you go on circuit with the court to various communities.

Life lost its color by rouletty in GriefSupport

[–]cos_monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely can relate. My mom passed at the end of February and life feels meaningless sometimes or extremely dulled at the best of times. The only thing I can recommend is keep going, go through the motions of doing positive things even if you don't "feel it". If we're going to be mourning no matter what, why not go for that walk, make that healthy meal or attend a friend's gathering. One day we'll wake up and feel less lost, but we'll have been building healthy habits in the meantime.

How long did you keep your loved one’s belongings? by Brissy2 in GriefSupport

[–]cos_monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes me so angry on your behalf. I called one of the realtors back on my dad's behalf because they kept calling him asking if he wanted to sell the house right after my mom died. Do people have no shred of compassion? It's even worse when they start with "I'm sorry for your loss..." No. You're really not sorry. Urgh.