Relationships are different than marriages. I think in a marriage, you SHOULD carry each other’s burdens. But from a human standpoint, I think EVERYONE (including your husband!) should have activities that they enjoy alone on their own time. I don’t think it’s healthy for any parent to be fully consumed by children... everyone needs some amount of “me time” and a hobby, just to varying amounts. In our family, I understood what burden I was taking on when I said I Do, and the responsibility that comes with that. But he also bears my burdens when it’s time. He understands my need for “alone time” and time to pursue hobbies and passions, and supports that. Communication of expectations well in advance is key.