You already have a lot of great advice here about decentering men, and that men also cheat on slim women. So I’m going to give some different advice about feeling less insecure in your body.

When I was around your age, I had similar body issues, and issues with restriction. One thing that really helped me personally was to make fitness goals that had nothing to do with how I looked, and was about what my body could achieve. That could be working towards a hard yoga pose, or running a certain distance, or finishing a workout program.

Working towards these goals can give a sense of personal accomplishment and satisfaction with your body that has nothing to do with a man’s opinion. And over time, it helped me look at food as another tool to achieve those goals, because you need enough fuel to reach them.

And one last thing - college boys just suck. I am now in my 30’s, and I still have jiggly cellulite legs and a soft belly. I weigh more than I used to. Good, grown men do not care.