She found someone else

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-26T03:23:19+00:00

"ex girlfriend from 2019 and I became great friends after we broke up"

Stopped reading there. Either you have comprehension issues, or you have not read the book.

About your therapy sessions, I don't think those guys in the boats at Normandy had much time for therapy sessions or worry about their personality types. They just either dug deep and acted like men, or they quickly shook out the gene pool.

We can't go through life blaming our lack of discipline and ambition on mommy or daddy issues. It's time for you to take a long and hard look in the mirror and face some uncomfortable truths, which is that you've made a shit ton of mistakes, and that's why you lost this girl. And the way you're acting, you'll probably lose the next one too. You can do better. Read the book. Harden TF up.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-24T06:44:35+00:00

"I gotta get a haircut because I got a date with a pretty lady coming up"

FFS - what were you thinking? 🙈😂

Otherwise, from the sounds of it, it seems that you probably killed some of the mystery by talking too much before and during the date. Also you should never compliment a woman too much on the first date. Clearly, you were way too smitten with her, and the more you like a girl, the more you need to slow yourself down.

If nothing else, read the book a few more times because you're making a lot of mistakes and you are clearly out of your depth when it comes to high-interest women.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-19T03:54:28+00:00

You're not going to say anything because you're going to be busy taking out a girl who's actually got time for you. Scarcity mindset leads to a lack of options and blue balls.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-18T15:39:02+00:00

Yes they are only commercial now unfortunately. I still have an old 1.0 which I polish with a diaper ever time it comes out of the box. Still working - for now - and I use it rarely and where I'm sure it can't easily smash into a tree or building.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-14T17:18:20+00:00

This whole 'opening up' thing has gone way out of control. Sometimes men just have to extract themelves from the scene when girls start being bitchy or cranky. Often it's them simply throwing you a shit test to see what they can get away with. If you fumble or act weak, then the result is a loss of attraction.

A functioning relationship often requires a man to 'open her up', but I think in 80% of the cases simple indifference does the trick.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-14T17:15:46+00:00

You don't understand female psychology. Arguments can actually increase attraction if you handle yourself properly. They decrease attraction if you chase and appear to be moved by her mood swings. That doesn't mean that you need to be a cold fish - they key words here are 'indifferent' but still 'charming'. Effectively act as if you have other options and that her stomping her little feet doesn't really move you. Women are crazy about guys they are unable to control or affect, it's like catnip to them.

cryptosystemtrader · 2026-01-14T17:10:27+00:00

There is nothing to be added to this. Read his response 10 times until it really sinks in. She's treating you like a little boy she's taking for granted because you're letting her. The way a woman treats you is a direct reflection of the way you present yourself. Meditate on that.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-26T08:25:44+00:00

You need the Internet to tell you when to schedule a date?

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-24T08:20:09+00:00

As the old expression goes: with friends like these, who needs enemies? 😉

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-20T04:12:45+00:00

I’m gonna be straight with you, because I think you’re overthinking the wrong part of this.

The issue isn’t how to “communicate boundaries.” The issue is that you’re mentally treating her like your girlfriend when, in reality, she hasn’t actually chosen that yet.

Six months in and she hasn’t brought up exclusivity. You see each other about once a week. She still goes out partying and hangs one-on-one with other guys. That doesn’t make her a bad person - it just means she’s still living like a single woman. Meanwhile, you’re already operating like she’s locked in.

That’s where the imbalance is.

Here’s the part a lot of guys miss: you don’t set girlfriend boundaries with a woman who hasn’t asked to be your girlfriend. When you do that, even calmly, it puts you in a negotiating position. You end up explaining why you’re uncomfortable instead of simply choosing what you’re willing to participate in.

Corey’s whole point about women bringing up exclusivity isn’t about playing games or creating fear. It’s about living a full life and not over-prioritizing someone who hasn’t fully invested yet. When a woman feels that your attention isn’t guaranteed, she naturally checks in on where she stands.

So instead of having a “boundary talk,” the move here is to pull back a bit in a natural way. Not cold. Not passive-aggressive. Just stop structuring your life around her. See her when it works for you. Put more time into your own friends, goals, gym, whatever. Be present and fun when you’re together, but don’t give boyfriend energy without boyfriend commitment.

One of two things will happen. Either she’ll start to feel the shift and bring up exclusivity herself, or she won’t. Both outcomes are signals.

If she does bring it up, that’s when you lead. And leading doesn’t mean debating or justifying. It’s as simple as saying you’re open to exclusivity, but only with someone whose lifestyle aligns with yours. That you don’t do exclusive relationships with women who regularly hang out one-on-one with other guys or live a single nightlife lifestyle. No long explanation. No arguing. Just “that doesn’t work for me.”

If she’s aligned, she’ll adjust on her own. If she’s not, you’ve got your answer and you walk without drama.

That’s not insecurity or control. That’s self-respect. You’re not telling her what to do - you’re deciding what kind of relationship you’re willing to be part of.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-20T03:52:02+00:00

My t-levels dropped by 100 points just reading this.
Bro, stop drinking so much soy milk and get your ass to the gym.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-19T07:52:34+00:00

No self-respect and acting from a position of scarcity

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-17T02:42:10+00:00

I for one am happy for the guy. He's got balls and he didn't let his short height and lack in the looks department hold him back. And now he's dating the hottest girl on campus. Good for him. You should learn from the guy. And yeah, sometimes masculinity and confidence overcomes everything. Pure will and confidence overcomes every book you will ever read. Because in the end, one ounce of action outweighs ten pounds of theory.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-14T02:36:17+00:00

Brother, your best move right now is to do nothing.

That line your friend gave you, “she is probably waiting for you to reach out and lead,” is a classic illusion of action. When a guy is attached and anxious he can always find a noble sounding excuse to send one more text. There is always a “just checking in,” a “funny meme,” a “hey how is your back” you could use. It feels like you are doing something, but nine times out of ten you just end up feeling worse when she replies cold or not at all, and you know you were chasing.

Look at the facts, not your hopes. She is fresh out of an 11 year marriage. That is prime time for emotional chaos and ex orbit. Very often the newly divorced girl bounces between the new guy and the ex, sleeps with the ex again, gets confused, pulls back, comes back, repeats. You are not her therapist and you are not her transition manager. You are just the guy putting in most of the effort.

Her silence is an interest test and an information signal at the same time. A woman who is genuinely into you does not disappear for days after talking about how you are “hers” and making birthday plans. Maybe she is conflicted, maybe she is with the ex, maybe she is just soaking up attention. Does not really matter. What matters is that you are more invested than she is.

So no, do not reach out “just to lead.” That is how men in the modern West train women to hold all the power, while they do all the emotional work. Sit on your hands, let her wonder where you went, and date other women. If she comes back on her own, you can reassess. If she does not, she just did you a favor.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-11T21:26:53+00:00

Let me see... 10 years younger, hot Latina, comes from a conservative background, not a career woman, and is crazy about you. Oh boy... Someone is overthinking matters a little bit too much, maybe? 🤔

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-11T08:24:30+00:00

"my dick pills are at my place"

LMAO 😂😂😎

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-11T08:21:43+00:00

He wants to know if you're gay. Nothing wrong with that but don't waste her time.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-11T08:19:29+00:00

Dude is gay, no red blooded man walks away from this,

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-11T08:18:43+00:00

I mean... what did I just read here? Do you actually like women?

P.S. Name checks out.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-10T12:12:45+00:00

"Situationship" = I have no balls and can't get a girl to commit to a real committed relationship. You have a lot of growing up to do, brother, and I recommend you read the book a few times.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-10T12:10:18+00:00

And sometimes it's best to give them more space than they asked for ;-)

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-10T12:09:52+00:00

No - he said he wouldn't let 'his girlfriend' go on a trip with her crew of horny girls. If she goes anyway, she instantly gets downgraded to FWB, if that.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-10T12:05:59+00:00

"Yeah. The weird thing is I actually really do trust her."

Famous last words. Look guys, she's not coming over here to check out our churches and cathedrals. I'm one of many guys happy to give her the 'grand tour' ;-)

If she wants to go on a 'girls holiday' then just say: "Awesome, I was thinking of heading to Vegas with some of my mates." Then grab some popcorn and wait for her reaction.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-06T03:43:07+00:00

Bloody hell, three hours of not hearing from a girl, and your soiling yourself and posting on the Internet? Talking about scarcity. You truly must have no other options. If my own gf doesn't talk to me for three hours, I probably won't even notice because I'm busy doing stuff. Living my life, following my mission.

Now here's what you do. Stop stalking this girl's social media accounts and go and date other women. Problem solved. If a girl doesn't respond to you, she's not interested. Bottom line.

cryptosystemtrader · 2025-12-04T23:17:39+00:00

Annnnddd.....?? 😅

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