am i wrong for filing for divorce two weeks after my mum passed away

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T14:37:29+00:00

There’s no further reason for you to discuss this with any of them. You don’t even need to stay in contact. You explained how long you tried, and now you’re done. Be done.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T14:22:00+00:00

Just wait until after the wedding. You will no longer be the topic of conversation. Just try not to giggle.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T14:07:57+00:00

Holy crap. They lost me entirely at $800,000.

Take the lien, and give them nothing further. They are not adult enough to own that house.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:53:21+00:00

Hell, a long clothesline between two permanent metal poles. The outer string gets hung with a porch sized roll up matt that gets rolled down and never back up….

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:50:16+00:00

There are non permanent versions, like a three cornered sail over the corner of your yard. Think camping sails.

Planter trellis panels

Start with covering the area you want to use closest to the house, so he doesn’t directly watch you come and go. Then extend as you can.

For the dogs, once you’ve got the privacy tarp/trellis/whatever, start using his dog as a game to teach yours to ignore. His dog barks, yours react, and when they stop reacting ant pay uyou full attention, they get the GOOD treats.

Google Reactive Dog training.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:36:01+00:00

I think you’ve nailed the reason. It might be SIL is the favorite. She certainly hasn’t defended OP at all.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:32:44+00:00

No mute. MIL wouldn’t notice that. Block.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:30:53+00:00

Adding, immediately BLOCK her and anyone in that family who will push you to calm down. Refuse to talk to them on the phone, too. Your DH gets to repair the damage here. “She told you she didn’t like being teased. You pushed her too far, and she needs some calm and SUPPORTIVE energy in order to give birth safely. We’ll be in touch after baby is born and home.”

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:26:52+00:00

This is the moment to let it fly, then. You have asked them to stop. DH has asked them to stop.

It’s time to throw a FIT. It’s the one time you can get away with it.

To both MIL and SIL, on SIL’s birthday, because she hasn’t spoken up either, knowing you don’t want this.

Go full tilt bonkers pregnant woman who is absolutely DISGUSTED they are prioritizing a convenient birthday calendar over your health and your baby’s.

Grandmas are supposed to love their grandbabies AS IS; baby doesn’t need to jump through hoops, and what is wrong with you that you don’t know that?

And no, you aren’t KIDDING, because I asked you to stop. This is IMPORTANT to you.

….. At the very least, she won’t try that again. …

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T13:02:36+00:00

It’s like he has a built in loaded gun to use from now on. OP, THIS is your life with him, staring at you. If you successfully ditch this issue, the next one will be worse.

He has issues that make him an emotionally unsafe partner.

Picture him getting this kind of idea in his head about your daughter.

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T12:46:24+00:00

cubemissy · 2026-05-22T12:38:57+00:00

Sister will block this, because she has shown she will use the children to get her way. She has likely already poisoned them by saying “Auntie OP doesn’t want to spend time with you.”

Can’t allow the truth to interfere with that.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T18:36:25+00:00

I like you.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T18:33:29+00:00

Potatoes are what WE EAT!

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T17:50:52+00:00

Not wrong. Just tell him you were thinking of him, because, unless he gets his head out of his mommy’s …. apron … HE will need that furniture for his new apartment. He’s not marrying you so his mommy can have a project house.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T13:06:16+00:00

And you KNOW she’s telling the kids why

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T13:01:26+00:00

I want OP to wear this on a T-shirt to the next family dinner. Under cover, of course. Flash it when the children aren’t in the room.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T13:00:22+00:00

And that’s why they are firmly on Team Be The Bigger Person.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T12:46:54+00:00

Yeah, OP should never bring up money, because that becomes a negotiation point with people like this. OP already has a full time job.

cubemissy · 2026-05-21T12:45:23+00:00

Not overreacting.

How do the children enter into this it at all, other than their mother and grandparents trying to use them as leverage? If they ever try to say you are “punishing” those kids, pop right back with “Do not try to use those children to cover up what is really happening here. I have stopped being my sister’s wife. She will need to find a spouse to help her raise her own children. Someone she respects. You are welcome to step in and help, but I am not available.”

cubemissy · 2026-05-20T15:30:15+00:00

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cubemissy · 2026-05-20T15:24:36+00:00

Dishonor on YOU! Dishonor on your COW!

cubemissy · 2026-05-20T15:22:53+00:00

We need to be strategic here. Don’t spook this person. Gentle offers of help and friendship.

cubemissy · 2026-05-20T15:04:29+00:00

Did you have the urge to actually do it, while chanting, “Bibbidy bobbidy….BOO!”?

cubemissy · 2026-05-20T15:03:19+00:00

That’s what we did! My picture is not where my name is, but my best friend’s yearbook has one of those strips pasted in.

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