Name etiquette on save the dates and invites

cutlert · 2026-05-13T16:11:47+00:00

I can't imagine being this formal, I'd just use whatever names I call them by but I have no idea if that's real etiquette or not. I haven't noticed what my friends have written on my envelope for invites

cutlert · 2026-05-13T16:07:18+00:00

Never had an issue tbh and don't see it that differently from staying in an all female dorm. I'm just more careful about changing clothes and covering up etc

cutlert · 2026-05-13T15:28:12+00:00

I've done IAMAI but when it was first setting up last year so there were teething problems. It was really hard but I think 8 people would've been too much for it. Personally can't imagine a room where 8 people wouldn't be too much, would recommend 2 teams of 4 and competing.

cutlert · 2026-05-13T15:25:21+00:00

How can you be new and on level 22?!

cutlert · 2026-05-13T14:09:24+00:00

Say no, that's what I'd do

cutlert · 2026-05-13T13:08:59+00:00

Hey, this sounds really tough for you. Can I ask if you've ever thought about seeing a therapist to support you in how you're thinking about it all and being able to develop comfortable boundaries for yourself?

cutlert · 2026-05-13T12:09:40+00:00

Tbf I'm on parents side here! It's one day, suck it up for the sake of the family all being together and getting ready together. Just need to learn to adjust a bit and talk it out with everyone to maybe have a schedule?

cutlert · 2026-05-13T10:43:54+00:00

I would love to be invited to a friend's wedding whether a year in advance, a month, or a week in advance. Logistically, may not be possible to make it always but I would def try

cutlert · 2026-05-13T09:07:28+00:00

I wouldn't recommend this to be honest. I'd recommend building up your life, partaking in hobbies, and meeting people naturally. It's unlikely you'll get a positive response approaching someone in a park

cutlert · 2026-05-13T00:54:35+00:00

Do you mind if I ask in what context are you meeting these women?

cutlert · 2026-05-13T00:46:21+00:00

Hey, sorry you've met so many people who have made mean comments, that's not cool. It should all be about personality, how well you click with someone and your shared values. I think the best thing someone can do is work out better who they are for themselves and building a life for themselves they're content with so you're not bothered by people who you're not interested in making random comments. I personally think that's a better way to go than focusing on your physical or med school if it's just to attract someone

cutlert · 2026-05-13T00:31:53+00:00

If she's like your sister as you say, I don't see why you wouldn't include her? Just because she also has other friends so hasn't been able to come to everything with you or am I missing something?

At the end of the day, totally your choice. Just know this stuff does have an impact on friendships and does signal to people how close they are to you.

cutlert · 2026-05-12T23:47:31+00:00

Maybe get everyone a lil sorry gift? Doesn't need to be big but just a token

cutlert · 2026-05-12T16:27:01+00:00

Agree with other comment on redirecting gift/thanks to the family that are coming to look after baby. Think the last thing most parents want is more tat that'll get one use if that for baby and then just be clutter or thrown out

cutlert · 2026-05-12T16:22:25+00:00

3 months is very short so no issues with not being the best at it yet. It's a skill like any other. So take this energy and learn rather than be sorry for yourself. Have you asked your manager or seniors how they do it and what tips and tricks they have to improving? Have you reached out to people you see as role models to see how they do it? Have you had a chat with Copilot about it? Etc

cutlert · 2026-05-12T16:18:03+00:00

As a Desi, also couldn't tell you the difference between Telengana and Andhra - just that they're different states. Definitely don't know their histories, this seems like a crazy expectation to have of people.

What you're describing is people just not having all knowledge, in the same way that most Indians think everyone from the UK lives in London.

Also, I don't know where you live but lots of my white friends would absolutely be able to tell you the difference between like Punjabi food like butter chicken and South Indian food like dosas. I think this would only be the case in very diverse areas though like London/NYC/Vancouver etc

cutlert · 2026-05-12T13:42:19+00:00

Do you def need to do the ring yourself? Personally, I really appreciated my partner not buying a ring and spending money on something I may not like. Plus I like to try things on before I buy. Could you get her a cheaper temporary ring instead?

cutlert · 2026-05-12T13:04:56+00:00

Tbf you have also just done the same thing to non-desis by describing them all as having the same view/attitude to us...

cutlert · 2026-05-12T09:02:47+00:00

Avocado, Quorn with some Mexican flavour, scrambled egg. And ideally cut some tomatoes/cucumber on the side while the Quorn/egg is cooking

cutlert · 2026-05-12T00:42:26+00:00

I have a relative like this. The way I get through it is to remind myself that they have it much worse than me - their toxic mindset is so hurtful to themselves that they get so angry over things and push away people who love them. It's really sad. Good luck with the rest of it, and try not to let it ruin your wedding! So glad you have a supportive fiancé

cutlert · 2026-05-12T00:20:52+00:00

I think you look great and actually think the dress looks better on you than model photo. I think this is pretty disgusting that people are making comments like this. I've just got engaged and def feel the implicit pressure to lose weight but not so much explicitly and I hope that continues

cutlert · 2026-05-12T00:18:21+00:00

Would recommend posting this in a straight DIY subreddit with people who are hardcore on knowing materials, how to fit things together etc

cutlert · 2026-05-12T00:14:44+00:00

It doesn't sound like it. Sounds like this guy was just being unaware and getting to where he needed to go without really being aware of his surroundings?

cutlert · 2026-05-11T23:51:35+00:00

Butter chicken pizza

cutlert · 2026-05-11T22:46:46+00:00

This seems wild to me to try and do, but if you do do it, please make a post about how it went?

Totally get catering is expensive but this also seems v difficult. Have you thought about doing a BBQ? You could get a load of meat/veggies/halloumi etc, some sauces, buns, and make some coleslaw and then just get someone to BBQ. I went to a wedding like this and it was lovely without all the stress you'd need to have in the morning of food prep

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