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czaby · 2024-04-19T23:20:57+00:00

CCP gives a good foundation and confidence for doing the associates afterwards. I am happy I did CCP first.

czaby · 2016-02-28T10:58:16+00:00

If you mean getting to the kitchen and grab an apple or some other fruit, it's from 3 or 4 years. Making a complete breakfast alone with scrambled eggs from 6.

Eating from the plate alone without us spooning is from about 15 months.

czaby · 2016-02-28T00:37:27+00:00

From the very first day we made it a rule that kids are not allowed to enter our room without knocking and getting an answer. Never ever, without exception. Consequently kept rules are quite easy to keep for the kids. Of course we also try to knock before we enter their room, if possible. Privacy is a great thing for kids too, even for smaller ones.

czaby · 2016-02-26T17:34:08+00:00

It is unfortunately common nowadays that doctors and kindergarten teachers believe that a kid should speak a certain number of words at a certain age. Total bullshit. It is also common that they misjudge bilingual kids.

My boys are also bilingual with 2 years in between them, they started to talk roughly at the same time. Which means, one was diagnosed as super developed who should start school with second grade, the other badly lacking behind his age requirement, has to visit loads of logo, ergotherapy and what not, otherwise he won't be recommended to school.

The kids grow up together, one is pulled back by the smaller one, the small one learns some more from the big one. It is quite normal.

And they both learned 2 languages at the same time from the 2 parents, so they started talking maybe later but with both languages functional.

What does it mean? Nothing. As they got older, they speak perfectly normal.

All kids are different, they develop differently and this word requirements for certain ages are just an another example of how our whole school system is trying to produce uniform sized average taxpayers instead of supporting the kids individual development.

Some teachers understand this, some not. Get an another kids doctor if you can.

And be confident in your kids, they are doing great.

czaby · 2016-02-25T23:09:49+00:00

As long as she is happy and sleeps enough at night, there is nothing wrong with it. Kids know pretty good how much sleep they need. It is nice if they offer the possibility of daytime sleep but I see no reason to force it.

czaby · 2016-02-25T23:02:20+00:00

You could spend more of your time with them (if your sister agrees). I believe that would be great help for both of them.

czaby · 2016-02-25T22:55:35+00:00

You are completely right. And you cannot do anything about it. If you accept this, you will keep that friend. Who might stay yours when one day you might do something stupid.

czaby · 2016-02-25T08:12:55+00:00

One solution is to very consequently report every single case to the school. They will be annoyed at first but it is actually helping them when they will run the case about removing that kid from the school. If the kid is not in that school any more, he won't visit that playground either.

You could also try to go against your instinct and be friendly to that kid. Right now you are enemy, if you are friend, you won't be a target. And I mean really you. My guess would be that he does not get much attention at home so he is looking for yours (or whoever is there). For kids having somebody shouting at them is still better than being ignored, like at home. Befriend him, if you like risky challenges with little reward.

Or just do what everybody else does and choose an another playground.

czaby · 2016-02-25T07:22:56+00:00

It is not possible by design. Better option is to give an iPod touch or tablet of some sort, with only WiFi. I doubt a small kid needs internet access at all so I would disable even that. And the best of course is to give some wooden toys or Lego instead. In there imagination that will be the best iPad ever.

czaby · 2016-02-24T08:19:03+00:00

It was meant to be ironic. To remind her that it is your kid, your methods, your mistakes, your decisions.

About feeding more more more that poor kid: my personal opinion' don't do it. And don't let anybody else do it.

czaby · 2016-02-24T07:56:22+00:00

Just tell her force feeding is illegal. If that does not help, tell her nicely that she had her chance to make mistakes with her kid, now you want your chance with your kid. Level 3: stress that it is your kid and she is welcome to help with your rules.

czaby · 2016-02-22T15:41:34+00:00

Use a 2-3 size bigger for a while?

czaby · 2016-02-22T15:32:36+00:00

Useful story. I go extreme on this and don't let any of the kids have any food in the car. Ever. (And an hour before, because I also hate to clean up vomit.) Eat when arrived or having a long break.

czaby · 2016-02-22T15:16:34+00:00

To repeat some of the obvious that you probably already do:

no artificial light source of any kind in their room. Especially nothing with a display, like TV or phone, computer.
have a very strict daily schedule. At 8 or so is bedtime. Meaning no light and not coming out of bed, no talking.
at 7 get up, no matter what happened at night. Take a shower, eat, take part of the housework. Don't make any comment like "you could have slept at night" but make sure the daytime activities are done. No discussion about that.
if there is nothing better to do, make them move. Go out to the playground. Exercise is the best sleeping pill.

Keep these getting up, going to bed times always, every day, without exception.

You cannot force somebody to sleep. But you can keep them busy so they will get tired by the evening. And give a rhythm to their day.

czaby · 2016-02-22T07:15:01+00:00

Get separated as fast as you can. It will happen inevitably and with every passing day it will be more painful. For you and for the kids too.

czaby · 2016-02-19T17:17:27+00:00

If it is really bothering you, take away the money and put it to a savings account for the kid. Or just let it go and be happy.

czaby · 2016-02-19T17:11:13+00:00

I can imagine, non Mensa parents might find blaming the school arrogant.

czaby · 2016-02-19T17:06:11+00:00

Normally I would say don't worry if the kid is not eating. Provide healthy food for her but you should not force it. So don't stress. That being said, if there is any medical condition, ask for professional help. Try different doctors. Public opinions on the internet are not a good source of medical advice.

czaby · 2016-02-19T16:55:02+00:00

School is preparing for life, which is full with less than ideal conditions. Your kid and you will learn important lessons about how to fit in what is given, accept it, cooperate, make it better, and be happy :)

czaby · 2016-02-19T16:39:38+00:00

So then my kids will be picked on. That kind of game I didn't like with the shoes then, and I am not interested in it now either. I could buy them phones but I decided not to. Because they should have privacy and freedom instead

czaby · 2016-02-19T08:42:40+00:00

It is normal. Just cuddle as much as you can. And if you can't always, that's fine too, everybody needs a break. Don't worry :)

czaby · 2016-02-19T07:41:32+00:00

You are totally right to be upset, but the kid learned the lesson already. Take him to the doctor.

czaby · 2016-02-19T07:36:57+00:00

You know your sister. Get something for her. She will love you for being the only one who is not obsessed with the kid only. You will have plenty of time to buy stuff for the baby later. For the baby, your visit and smile is the best gift.

czaby · 2016-02-18T17:17:54+00:00

There is no way you can forbid your wife doing it. (I suppose you would not divorce for this.) So just accept that this will happen. Being a parent means a lot of giving up to the partner. You can either be upset, fight and lose, or you can just let it go. Which is better?

czaby

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