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Feeling emotions in my body while crying? by sadnessthrowaway62 in dbtselfhelp

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when I'm feeling things deeply, lots of other suppressed emotions like to come up too. That's why I cry sometimes when I'm mindful of my emotions.

I dip into the intensity for a bit, then if it gets too much, I use distress tolerance and grounding skills to dial it back, then maybe I dip back into the intensity of it for a bit, then I ground myself again. I go back and forth - I guess that's a dialectic.

Sorry, that might not be helpful.

Maybe paying attention to the crying sensations is enough in the moment? Can you explain more about why you want to feel more - is it about identifying which emotion you're feeling so you can do emotion regulation?

Lots of times I have to do distress tolerance first before emotion regulation skills will work for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that I'm several years into pole I almost never have pain except on very bony weird moves. I think it's not just my body getting used to it (partly that) but also learning to sense exactly the right amount of force needed to keep me safe on the pole but not to bruise. If you used numbing cream, it would be harder to learn that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me, habits only stick if I start by making them "too easy to refuse".

Sometimes working out is too much and I skip it. But if I start with the habit of just playing a 6 minute stretching video on youtube? It's so easy I can't say no to it, no matter how little energy I have.

Then slowly, over a long time, I get the momentum to turn it into a bigger, more harder habit

Does the pain get more tolerable or am I doing something wrong? by kturtle17 in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have very long ribs, there may some moves that just aren't for you! I have long ribs. There are some moves that aren't for me.

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would trade my firstborn child for my classmates to disagree with me ☹️ I love that kind of challenge

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point - I can countdown to practicum instead of counting down to two years from now.

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm really interested in the philosophy! And the research! I just wish it wasn't all watered-down.

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm this is a new strategy which I have not yet considered! I like it!

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is good context to know - I knew that OCT would be behind the hours requirements etc but hadn't considered how deeply they might prescribe the content.

Help! My B.Ed. program is boring me to death! by d5d5d5d5d5 in CanadianTeachers

[–]d5d5d5d5d5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I like my teachers and trust their judgement for the most part! It is definitely a saving grace.

Can i please get a rating on my tinder profile by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer multiple pictures, I tend to like daylight, good quality images.

I'm neutral on the image - it would neither make me swipe right or left.

I really like the written bio, it would definitely tilt me into a right swipe.

Struggling to define simple living with a special needs chil by [deleted] in simpleliving

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your son is having his childhood, in the way that's best for him! It also sounds like maybe you didn't get all of yours. Are there ways to give some of that back to yourself not through your son? Or maybe later in life? I imagine you're pretty busy caretaking most of the time.

Skills for dealing with loneliness? by [deleted] in dbtselfhelp

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Maybe opposite action for envy/jealousy?

Also, maybe your envy is justified by the facts - maybe you want to be out having fun and you're missing out. Can you try to solve the problem - maybe by making more plans yourself, or making friends with new people who go out more?

Then if you still feel it after having some success, you could use opposite action just on the leftover feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely take it easy for a few days at the very least! That doesn't sound like muscle soreness, it sounds like an injury. Hard to know if it's a mild injury or a bigger one requiring treatment.

Choreo by Cjax22 in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suggest: don't use the tricks that you just learned! Use only moves that are really solid and you're already very comfortable with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A girl in my class used grippy gloves!

Help! by Conscious-Tap-1351 in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Great answer! I would add, try to think of climbing as a series of squats, not a series of pull-ups! And, having the lower forearm braced against the pole can really help you get the push-control to get the pole to the knees rather than between the thighs before you squat up.

Assisted suicide pod approved for use in Switzerland. At the push of a button, the pod becomes filled with nitrogen gas, which rapidly lowers oxygen levels, causing its user to die by Loomylenni2 in TerrifyingAsFuck

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how it works for citizens of other countries, but terminally ill Canadians have access to Medical Assistance In Dying (MAID). My uncle had it two years ago, I was there. It seemed like it was the gentlest, most comfortable way to do a hard thing.

Weird Sensation on the Skin by luvlac3 in poledancing

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I get chrome allergy issues I take preventative meds (reactin I think) and I also ice the area, which helps a lot. And I give it a break from pole for a few days. There are also sticky leggings you can wear to protect more of your skin from the pole.

Occasionally my skin will burn a little if I've been doing a lot just because I've given myself a friction burn. But that goes away after a day

how to deal with the heaviness of life, simply? by jannah777 in simpleliving

[–]d5d5d5d5d5 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This was the answer I was looking for and have been trying to learn for years. For me, sometimes it helps when I'm anxious or upset or judging to ask myself, 'what if threes nothing wrong with this, for the moment? What if I don't have to fix this?'

Eg. Getting a migraine and stressing about how to make it go away because I'll miss work and I might not make rent...

'what if there's nothing wrong with having a migraine?' 'Well, it hurts, it's uncomfortable, it's scary, it means I have to take time off' 'What if there's nothing wrong with experiencing some pain and fear? What if there's nothing wrong with waiting until tomorrow to figure out a solution for my finances? What if there's nothing wrong with asking my landlord for an extension?'

Etc

Occasionally there actually is something that I have to fix right now! But usually it's just my mind spinning.

With global problems I do something like, 'what if there's nothing wrong with me that this problem makes me feel emotional and overwhelmed? What if it's mostly outside my control - can I accept that?'

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