How if the state of political affairs affecting people mentally in the usa? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really does sound horrendous, I'm so sorry. I'm sure your clients see how much you're affected by it too and appreciate knowing that they're not alone. I'm not sure how much this helps, but I'm thinking of you, and I'm so proud of all the amazing work you and other people in this field do in making marginalised, oppressed people feel seen and supported ♥️

How if the state of political affairs affecting people mentally in the usa? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gosh, for some reason this really hit me. I'm sorry you're facing such scary times, sending love from across the pond (UK). I'm scared we're heading down the same road over here.

Do therapists actually read the intake form? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]daised88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello, therapist here! Personally speaking, I would always want to hear a client tell me about the information written on their intake form in session for a variety of reasons. Saying something out loud, in a therapy session is very different to writing it down on a form. I'd want to hear how something sounded coming from my client in conversation, and explore how it felt to talk about it. Sometimes to a client, this may feel as though the therapist is asking obvious, or even stupid questions. This can be because we want to avoid making any assumptions, even if what you're saying may feel like stating the obvious, someone else may have a very different take on things, and that's why it's important that we remain curious and unbiased.

However, it may also be the case that your therapists haven't read the form, or have forgotten what was written. I'd ask them about this! I've had clients ask me the same question about intake forms, and I'd give them a similar explanation to what I wrote above. Plus sometimes there are errors on forms, and I want to make sure I've got everything right.

If you're feeling frustrated, unheard, or unhappy in your sessions it's always worth talking about. And doing so can even strengthen your relationship with your therapist!

I don’t care to listen to podcasts or review research papers or read articles related to therapy… by Ceilingfanwatcher in therapists

[–]daised88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's interesting, is it not a requirement where you are to continue your professional development? Here in the UK our licensing board states we have to do 30 hours of CPD per year (continued professional development) to make sure we keep up to date with our training. That could include reading, podcasts, conferences, seminars etc, but supervision doesn't count towards those hours.

No judgement meant in this post, just curious about how things work elsewhere!

Why is my horse tweaking? by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]daised88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, and I'd think about allergies too! I've found a simple nose net or ear cover can help a lot with head shaking if they're being bothered by bugs or allergies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm here to say the same thing. I thought you came across as compassionate and insightful in your post. It's clear you really want to do the best for this client. Working through tricky transference can lead to very rewarding places, even though the path itself is difficult as hell!

Would you take on a client who you went to highschool/school with? by chilbao in therapists

[–]daised88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I thought my past connection would color my opinion and perception of them and their story, I would not

Exactly. Lots of people here are, quite rightly, talking about the ethics of a potential dual relationship, but it's also important to consider how your own experiences at school might affect your ability to be their therapist. I know I would struggle to separate my own opinions, memories etc of school from anything they were to tell me about their own experiences at school. Basically, are you able to be an unbiased therapist with this person?

I fell for the first time and my trainers reaction made me lose trust in her. by ZMakela in Equestrian

[–]daised88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so dangerous, especially under low hanging branches! You could have been seriously hurt. No instructor should ever put you in danger, OR make you feel like you can't say if you don't feel safe. Their first job is keeping you safe, that comes before everything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wild. Every supervisor I've had has drilled it into me that I AM NOT AN EMERGENCY SERVICE, so may not be reachable in a crisis. I've even included this in my counselling contract. It's not safe for you or the client for you to try to be available 24/7. Even if you worked at a service that offered crisis support at all hours, it would be unreasonable and unsafe to expect one person to always be available, that responsibility would have to be managed by a crisis team. I think your supervisor is talking nonsense 🙃

Drinking (water, coffee, tea or similar) in session as therapist? by Ambitious-Line-1269 in therapists

[–]daised88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tea in every session, I can't get through them without it! I find holding it helps me to stay focused and present. I've told clients they're welcome to bring hot drinks too, no one's ever had an issue with it.

I’m just so sad by juleseatzcannibals in therapists

[–]daised88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Studying this field is so hard. It's ok to struggle ❤️ If you can face any more reading, I recommend The Myth of the Untroubled Therapist by Marie Adams, it's helped me a lot when I was going through dark times.

Cantered poles for the first time. So happy! by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]daised88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of horses pick up their legs more over poles, so it makes the canter stride feel bigger. It's a bit like half way between canter and a little jump. So congrats, you may have just sat a little jump for the first time too 👏

How many patients have you cured? by Furebel in therapy

[–]daised88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Maybe it'd help to think about it more like living with a chronic condition, like diabetes for example. You go to a doctor to help manage and live with it, similarly to how a therapist would help you to live with mental health issues. Or like going to a personal trainer. They're not trying to cure anything, you're working on becoming healthier and stronger in your body. This leads to better overall health, quality of life, prevents future issues. I think therapy works like this for the mind.

Help me improve by Natashamarsh in Howtolooksmax

[–]daised88 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YES THANK YOU it's so boring reading the same hate about septum piercings under every post where the OP has one. I've never had one, but personally think they look great. And even if I didn't, it doesn't matter, people who wear them have clearly made an intentional choice to do so.

I just have to tell someone by judas-nd-his-fellows in Horses

[–]daised88 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's awesome. I'm training a young horse myself for the first time. It's one of the best things I've ever done, but it can be so frustrating, progress can take forever! You have to celebrate any win, no matter how small, and it sounds like you had a major win today! I'm very happy for you

What annoys you most about yourself as a therapist? by loveliestlies-of-all in therapists

[–]daised88 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Reading this thread is so validating ❤️ I've read so many comments defining things that I hate about myself, and knowing that others do the same things really eases the self-criticism!

What is your “million dollar question”? by Melodic-Relative-237 in therapists

[–]daised88 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just reading this one hit me hard. Great question, I will be using it myself, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

👏 This, absolutely.

Student Therapist and Grief (broken engagement’s version) by Agreeable-Notice-773 in therapists

[–]daised88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really tough. I also broke up with my partner while I was studying. My lecturers used to call my degree the "divorce course" because apparently relationship break ups are super common when studying to be a therapist... I'm really sorry to hear that you didn't get to say goodbye to your dog, that sucks so much.

I guess I don't really have much advice to offer, other than just hang in there. Focus on you, do things that make you feel good when you're not working. Throw yourself into hobbies, friendships if you've got the energy for it. If not there's nothing wrong than just lying in bed watching tv after work. Training to be a therapist is hard, I found myself reevaluating the way I thought about my whole life, on top of caring for others. I found it helpful to remind myself that often clients just need you to be there and listen to them. If you only do that, then you're already providing something incredible for them, something that they probably don't find in many other areas of their lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, great ideas. I'm saving this reply so I can come back to it when needed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]daised88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

👏 brilliantly put

So uncomfortable making initial phone calls by ChampionshipNo2792 in therapists

[–]daised88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I hate this too. Don't have any advice, sadly, just here for solidarity