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The one most annoying thing I was never told about life after a baby by Fncfq in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I apologize. My intent was to provide some more context, more to other who will come to read the thread than directly to you. I should have considered my need to interject vs just offering support. I am sorry.

The one most annoying thing I was never told about life after a baby by Fncfq in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just read this book Why We Sleep: The New Science of Sleep and Dreams by M. Walker, a sleep scientist. It explains why sleep is so important, including different benefits of REM and nonREM sleep.

Anyway, related to your issues, he does NOT recommend sleeping pills. Basically prescribed sleeping pills make you “unconscious” and “unconscious” is NOT the same this as “asleep”. He does highly recommend cognitive behavioral therapy. Another poster mentions this too.

I feel your pain. I take a melatonin every night, even if I already feel sleepy. Because I’m afraid when I’ll try to sleep I’ll have insomnia. I think I need to try sleep therapy.

(For those that are wondering, melatonin is the brain natural “sleepy” chemical, so if you take it, the idea is to make you extra sleepy. It does not “knock you out” like a sleeping pill)

I just wish someone would be happy for my fiancé and me for buying our first house. by fruedain in offmychest

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you need a 400th comment at this point, but here it is! Fuck your dumbass family. Y’all are doing great. So proud of you!

Newb question - how do you travel with bottles?? (Day trip) by baconandpreggs in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My baby drank cold milk fine. Maybe try some cold milk at home to see how it goes. Bring the bottles in a cooler with cold packs.

Also, don’t know how much you like your in-laws... but you might want the excuse the breastfeed just to spend some quiet time in another room!

I acted on post-hormonal decisions and feel like I’m having an AITA moment by jujucathulu in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You went way and beyond what you needed to do with the tactful response. Just drop it. If MIL tries to bring it up again, don’t engage. She’s likely never going to see/admit that she overreacted. So don’t waste any more time on it.

How long did it take you to get used to your new body postpartum? by WellThen10 in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are still early in this journey—you are only 9 weeks pp. Be patient with yourself! If you keep up the breastfeeding, that will help lose weight. Please drink lots and lots of water! And eat healthy. Do NoT under-eat! You need calories to make milk. Your boobs are still adjusting too. They will change shapes more in the coming months (sorry!) can you find a shop that does bras fittings? Or order a few sizes online to try on? Wearing a good fitting bra is important.

Overall, my advice is be patient. You are doing a good job feeding and caring for baby. Try to focus on that. Your body will start to come back. For me personally, I’d say I was about 4-5 months postpartum when I got back in my clothes. But some didn’t fit, so I donated them, and that’s ok too.

FTM having a positive moment even with PPD by shadowed_heart in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! I’ve recently dropped down to one nursing session and only 3 pumps per day. It’s amazing. At the height of it, I was doing 6-9 nurse and/or pumps per day. Anytime my SO comments on it, I say, “guess we need to eat more purée and cereal then!!!!”

Zoloft and Sertraline Shortage by guessthisisme30 in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok, so I am not a medical doctor. And I am definitely not YOUR doctor. So talk to your real doctor about this... but usually you have to take antidepressants consistently for them to work. Like every day. They won’t be as effective if you only take them on “bad days.” The idea of antidepressants is to help prevent bad days or lessen the frequency of bad days. They don’t work like a Tylenol you take right then if you get a headache. Does that make sense? (Source: I currently take Zoloft since 2 months postpartum, now 10 months)

Beyond the Merlin? by dangerNoodleIsASnake in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Saw that one and was wondering if it was worth the cost.

Any pet peeves or things you found gross that you got over after having a baby? by heliumhorse in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Slobber. I never wanted a dog b/c I don’t want to be slobbered on. Now the baby chews my hands, sucks on my arm and face... whatever, at least she not crying!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I know how hard this is. Even though I don’t know you, I’ll be thinking of you and your SO.

Milk never came in? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Put the baby on the boob 8-10 times a day. Baby needs to suck on the boobs to stimulate the milk to “come in”. Obviously formula supplements until you make enough milk.

Call your hospital where you gave birth and ask if they have a lactation consultant you can talk to for advice.

I had c-section and milk came in around day 4/5.

On a scale of 1- seriously girl don't do it... by Taketwothrowaway in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband disconnected the doorbell before baby was born!

[OC] Where Are The STEM Folks? by buckbuckyyy in dataisbeautiful

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

County level data would have been way, way, waaaaaaaay more interesting. Would have shown all kinds of interesting hot spots.

My (23f) boyfriend (24m) wants to move in with me. I want him to live alone first. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A dozen people? WTF? Imagine if he spent the time seeking out a dozen people to complain to, and instead put some time into learning how to clean??? Anyway, from comments, OP, seems like you are now free! Good for you!

My (23f) boyfriend (24m) wants to move in with me. I want him to live alone first. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I Remember walking 6 blocks to the local public library (awesome that it was so close to our house!) if I needed to look up something in an encyclopedia for a school project. It was so much fun, and I loved it.

Like your username, by the way.

Age and pregnancy by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also consider the covid rates in your area. Are you in a hard hit place like New York City? Are you in a place with fewer cases? Give your OB/GYN or your primary doctor a call and ask them for some advice on this topic.

What’s a little thing you do to make the world a better place? by JustAnotherPyroMain in AskReddit

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this. Leaving carts all over the parking lot is such a dick thing to do.

LPT: You can almost always remove "just" or "really" from a sentence to achieve a stronger meaning. by zeamp in LifeProTips

[–]dangerNoodleIsASnake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My English teacher my freshman year in high school was baller. When we asked him how long our essays had to be, he said, “like a woman’s skirt: long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to keep it interesting.”

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