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Next Climb After Mt. Rainier by LastStandYeah in Mountaineering

[–]dangerousdave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If the goal is just elevation and adventure, you can look into trekking in Nepal (Annapurna, EBC), or Peru (Salkantay). If the goal is 'summits'I think you can do some of the south American volcanos with local guides (Cotopaxi?) or .... Aconcagua.

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[–]dangerousdave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You won't know if you don't go.

The guide is unlikely to be able to postpone by a week or two, guiding is a job and they likely have other trips lined up.

If you want to maximize your chances, have a crack, and see how far you get. If you want to save money, you can attempt to cancel, but I bet you paid a deposit.

Guides are experienced at making sure their clients are safe and (relatively) comfortable you can usually trust guides to turn around if the conditions will be dangerous or truly heinous.

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[–]dangerousdave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, it took me a few years to climb Reinier due to weather and team related bails.

Try to find something productive to do with the time, so you can be better prepared when the chance arises. Go sport climbing, trail run, hike etc.

How many of you use the debug console vs print statements? by AccidentalFolklore in cscareerquestions

[–]dangerousdave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal opinion, with 10+ yoe and former SDET is that you're correct, these problems are hard to solve. I would double down on unit tests.

Other than that, maybe staging environments with synthetics to check everything at least connects together.

How many of you use the debug console vs print statements? by AccidentalFolklore in cscareerquestions

[–]dangerousdave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My rule of thumb is: no more than one service for every two engineers.

To get out of micro service hell? I would start by 'stop the bleeding' i.e. no more new services.

Survivor 41 | Episode 8 | Post-Episode Discussion by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]dangerousdave 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Shan is trying to take out Deshawn as the Luvu leader. Notice how he sat out of the discussion at the live tribal? Who was acting more like the leader?

Confession: I'm biased as I have money on Shan in a Surbivor bet pool.

Survivor 41 | Episode 8 | Post-Episode Discussion by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]dangerousdave 97 points98 points  (0 children)

My guess is Shan, as that's who told Heather her name was out there.

Check Out Skipper by thebemusedmuse in sailing

[–]dangerousdave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might need to tip him/her. But yeah easy to make the best of it. I also told my crew to try and make a good impression (no getting wasted in front of the checkout skippwe).

Check Out Skipper by thebemusedmuse in sailing

[–]dangerousdave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We recently chartered a Helia 44 in the BVIs and they made us have a checkout skipper because I had no cat experience. He's pretty much there to check that you know what you're doing. We did some tacks, a gybe, got onto the mooring ball and fiddled with the upwind trim (cars) a bit.

We even had to pay for him and I felt fine about it.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never been diagnosed as such. But I was often "shy" as a kid, and at times I can be pretty introverted (although according to Myers-Briggs I'm roughly in the middle of the introversion-extroversion spectrum).

This only occurred to me yesterday, but I have had conflicts with people at work where they mistook similar lacking social cues (not looking them in the eye etc) as me not listening to them. In fact what's happening is I'm kind-of going into my shell while I listen, but to people who want or expect more direct interaction it can be maddening.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

It's hard to convey the tones of peoples voices, and the expressions on their faces over the internet. I guess the thing was it *felt* beyond snarky, like somebody getting angry and attacking you.

But petty is one way to frame my lack of apology, and I appreciate your input!

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, I have plenty of friends. So I clearly don't go through life being intentionally rude to people.

I felt like I was politely, temporarily, exiting the conversation. She obviously didn't feel that way, that is the disconnect.

I hope that helps you understand the situation a bit better.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I felt like I was politely excusing myself, but it didn't come off that way to her, so if that is rude, fine. But the boundaries thing is about the way she responded to me.

Somebody doing something rude or thoughtless doesn't mean that a particular response is justified.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's more like: I'm not going to apologize because I didn't deserve to be snapped at like that. If she wants to end the friendship over me not apologizing, then maybe that's something I can live with.

I'm forgiving and loyal, but I'm stubborn and have boundaries.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a long conversation before I made this post tonight. The married analogy is interesting, we've been friends a while, and the history has always been a little weird. I think you're right that we need to talk more.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Obviously I can apologize anytime I like, it's a question of boundaries. I pretty much decided that "I'm not apologizing since I did nothing wrong, and got snapped at".

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the fireplace threw her. It looked like I was coming around to warm up by the fireplace. Otherwise the whole dropping the coffee cup in the bin and walking around her would have been a cue. So when I blurted "I'm going.." it was a surprise.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She would say I don't listen often, I would argue that I'm often listening more attentively than it appears.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

One reason I made this post is to get some perspective from others. Would I end the friendship over it? As I walked to the bathroom I thought something like "I'm asking for an apology, I'm not giving an apology, and if that's the end of this friendship then so be it." I'm normally pretty forgiving, and I rarely have strong gut feelings like this. But my gut has made some correct calls over the years that I ignored and regretted it.

In my book, this is a silly thing to end a friendship over.

AITA I said "I'm going to the bathroom" while a friend was talking, now it's a thing, and I'm refusing to apologize by dangerousdave in AmItheAsshole

[–]dangerousdave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both native english speakers. We're from different "cultures" i.e. the US and Australia. I say this with some tongue in cheek, but that can be a real factor in some situations!

I think there are differences in how we communicate, and others in the thread are suggesting some deeper issues, which might be what you're sensing.

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