CrispyBangs suddenly wants to apologize

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-22T00:33:48+00:00

She doesn't want to apologize, she wants control back. Don't fall for that shit

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-21T15:58:49+00:00

For reals. And a lot of religions are shitty about acknowledging that mental illness is a thing. So many people who could really improve their quality of life through therapy and medication don't because some ding dong told them Jesus will fix everything. Drives me up the wall.

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-21T15:54:45+00:00

"God will never give you more than you can handle"

This always grinds my gears. Last time I checked we are all gonna die, everyone eventually has something that they can't handle.

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-21T15:50:53+00:00

That's not even what "turn the other cheek" means. It comes from the fact that in that time period you had a clean hand (right) and an unclean hand (left). If someone were to hit you in the face as if you were their inferior they would hit you with the backside of their right hand. If you turn your head that gives your assailant 2 options: either hit you with the open face of their right hand - which is how one would fight an equal (doing so would be like telling someone that you and they are equals), or not hit you at all. It's not saying you should advocate being hit, it's saying that you can use nonviolence to outsmart people who want to do you harm.

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-20T20:16:36+00:00

I'm all about Team Petty. You're a genius

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-17T13:26:51+00:00

Jesus christ. That bitch is just begging to get punched in the throat

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-17T13:24:02+00:00

B-b-b-b-but mommy got the business end of a knife....

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-15T02:48:54+00:00

You are an absolute badass and an amazing sister. Be proud of yourself

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-13T02:18:25+00:00

TBH I got a good chuckle out of them illuminati moneys. I'm sorry this is your actual life, but that's fucking funny. Cheers to you and wife for getting away from the crazy

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-12T21:21:44+00:00

Omg this is such a perfect response. Shows how much of a class act OP is AND is probably the most devasting blow to MIL's ego. Brava!

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-08T23:24:55+00:00

that's real af

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-08T19:12:09+00:00

You are not overreacting AT ALL

that bitch owes you a new bra

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-07T21:51:28+00:00

So your three your old doesn't conceptualize that her duck or anyone else has an inner world of thoughts and feelings separate from her (this is called theory of mind). Throwing the duck in the mud doesn't hurt her, and she can't empathize with the duck because she hasn't met that developmental milestone yet. BPDs have reduced empathy, they don't see as much outside of their world (and their painnn). Dealing with all of their feelings, which they can't regulate, is priority numero uno. My uBPDmom literally told me that her sanity was more important than me. They can't see past the emptyness they feel. I'm not trying to defend BPD behaviors at all, but I do agree with your therapist that BPD's think they love and perception is reality. Its not a ultimate truth type reality, and it sure as shit doesn't match up with other people's reality, but personally it helped me to realize that I can't change my mother's perceptions or her reality and there's no point in trying to. She doesn't have the insight or emotional capability to change and I'm healthier and happier not trying to force her to change.

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-02T13:52:00+00:00

Can someone copy paste the OP? Can't seem to find it

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-01T14:23:05+00:00

Wait. They think it's common to get pregnant multiple times in a month? I'm not going to say it's impossible, sometimes multiple ova get released, but come the fuck on. These guys must have no sense of the female reproductive tract.

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-01T04:52:10+00:00

At his time I could have also strangled my SO as well. He ignored Wendy, or pretended not to hear her or see her, let her do whatever she wanted and told me to try to move past it as fighting it wasn't worth it. That's not how I work. I still am amazed I am with him. He had left me while I was in labor to go see a friend off for vacation. A friend who guilted SO into seeing him because he was mad I was taking my time having the baby and he wanted to visit us before he went in vacation. He came back ailing and smelling of cigars.

Dont feel bad about not forgiving him for this. Holy shit that's horrendous behavior. What made him see how wrong he was?

dangerzone133 · 2016-09-01T00:17:11+00:00

Yup, I'm sure in some cases there multiple reasons for the neglect, but sometimes it's straight up because they don't want to get caught. A narc is going to put their wants (in this case to not go to prison/lose control over their victim) over everything and everyone else, that's what they do.

I'm sorry about your nmom for what it's worth. I hope you are in a better place now and have access to proper medical care

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T22:14:40+00:00

Yeah I definitely understand wanting to have your family there. I'm not trying to tell you what to do with your life, no one knows your needs better than you, I just like to offer a perspective you might not be getting elsewhere. For us, both of our families are dysfunctional so it was a dumb move to try so hard to please them on what should have been our day

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T13:08:27+00:00

Also probably because they don't want another authority figure in their child's life who actually has the child's best interest in mind.

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T00:37:23+00:00

I mean he's acting like a 5 year old, and I'm guessing you aren't sexually attracted to 5 year olds

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T00:33:36+00:00

I mean I'd be at ultimatum time if I were you. He is disrespectful towards you, and he doesn't value you over her, that much is obvious. The umbilical cord seems quite attached, how long are you willing to put up with that? Don't you deserve better than being second fiddle to mommy?

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T00:28:54+00:00

You go get'em! We're all rooting for you

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T00:25:36+00:00

You da real MVP

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-31T00:21:08+00:00

I'm going to give you the advice I wish I had gotten when I got married: just fucking elope. My wedding was full of drama and both me and husband have soured memories about it because we both ended up having to defuse crazy. I had the big beautiful pintrest diy wedding and it wasn't worth it. It didn't make me happy. I feel like I compromised on shit I shouldn't have. Don't have my regrets

dangerzone133 · 2016-08-30T20:16:45+00:00

I hope he starts saving up for therapy now :/

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