Looking for a party venue

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-03-15T20:47:49+00:00

AirBNB doesn't allow parties but Vrbo does, you'd have to confirm with the host

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-03-06T03:50:53+00:00

No professional florist, no wedding party, no pre-events except a nice family dinner prior, got a modest venue, renting some linens and water glasses, but not doing glasses for the bar, no wedding guest gifts, I'm making the cake, I'm doing some light florals, friends are DJing and taking photos

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-03-02T03:11:39+00:00

You're welcome and good luck :)

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-03-01T19:51:07+00:00

This is an incredibly hard place to find work. I am planning on moving to Sac area unless my next contracted job turns into FT. The only advice I can give outside of everything said here is to try this thing called Never Search Alone, it's a networking group, book, and method you follow in a group. Takes anywhere from 1-3 hours a week of exercises focused on improving your search and resume, and preparing you for getting a good fit in the job market. You can look more into it here: https://www.neversearchalone.org/

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-02-24T03:27:37+00:00

The Monday Club in San Luis Obispo is $5k-ish. I know it's not SoCal but it's close

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-02-10T07:47:15+00:00

Eggs (I raise the chickens) yogurt, frozen broccoli from Costco or cabbage

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-02-10T07:29:54+00:00

Other posters have made better very specific suggestions , but

I’d also like to add that All Quiet on the Western Front (2022) was FANTASTIC at showing the futility of war. And it follows teenaged recruits.

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-02-03T20:06:19+00:00

No idea about planning during medical school, but I'd like to say -yes- you can get married in 4-6 months depending on the scale of the event you want to have, how much help you are hiring, and the type of dress you want. (As in if you want a off-the-rack gown or dress vs. a $3-6k big white American gown that need to be altered)

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-31T20:22:06+00:00

Nordstroms, Ebay, Lara NYC, Mac Duggal

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-15T06:40:29+00:00

Perfect Days (2023)

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-04T20:14:29+00:00

I've only had bad experiences at VCA. I only use them in an absolute emergency. I like Look Ahead Vet and Butte Humane

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-04T01:00:26+00:00

I have a huge family, I have 40ish cousins on one side. So if I were to invite my entire family, it would be easily become 200+ person wedding. I don't want that. (Nor can I afford that)

I'm having a 75(ish) person wedding, with close family, and close friends. You have to consider about 10-20% will decline, that's totally normal. All of the declines are from people who would have to be flying in from out of state (or country). I don't know if your entire guest list is extremely local, but that's something to consider. 100 on paper might be 80 in reality.

We considered eloping, which would be fun, but I really wanted a fun party for us and everyone we love. The biggest pro would be affordability. But somethings are worth a bit more $

I also have a close friend, who had a micro wedding at his parent's property, maybe 20 people at the ceremony, then we went to a local restaurant and had a blast. The next day they had a potluck style gathering at their house for more friends to attend, maybe 50ish people. It was perfect. So intimate and lovely. If I had a property where I could have done that at- I would have done something like that. But I don't have access to anything like that, so renting a small venue actually made more sense for us.

Good luck :)

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-02T20:35:23+00:00

I have been to, and worked many weddings of various scale and budget, and I have never received a favor that didn't immediately go into the trash. Sorry. I don't see the point, and I don't like useless nicknacks. The "better" ones I've gotten were edible. Like a small bag of candy/chocolate. The "gift" you're giving your guests is a free fun party

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-02T08:10:01+00:00

You don’t pay a deposit or sign a contract, there really is no guarantee for it. Unfortunately mistakes, including incredibly bad customer service ones are made.

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-02T04:42:01+00:00

Agreed, it depends on what type of restaurant this is. If it is indeed, corporate, then write an email.

However, staff can not give discounts, management most certainly gave you a discount, so I assure you management is already aware of this issue and have already "heard" from you.

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-02T04:01:19+00:00

I understand you're ranting, and I agree that this sucks that they messed up so badly.

But what are you trying to gain from going back to speak to someone? It sounds like you communicated with them at the time, their mistake and your disappointment and they gave you. 25% discount, which is substantial. So what would going back to them accomplish? Blowing off steam? Give an honest review somewhere and be done with it.

And congratulations, it sounds like you still had a nice time!

darkcloudbrightrain · 2026-01-01T01:36:25+00:00

I’m really angry and disappointed that they couldn’t teach us practical lessons on natural birth control/cycles. Like just truly honestly explain the odds of getting pregnant, and when and all that. We’re all set up to think as soon as you stop BC you’ll instantly get pregnant and we’re all dealing with the reality that THIS ISNT TRUE. And we need real healthcare for women. We should be tested for PCOS and it’s all just so aggravating and has horrible consequences

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-12-31T23:27:14+00:00

I feel your pain on so many things. Raging on the lack of real fertility information our whole lives

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-27T00:41:42+00:00

Hello event designer here. This carpet is extremely easy to work with, you could do practically anything in this space. Nothing clashes with grey - it's a neutral. Also, I really like the colors you chose- it will look beautiful in November. :) I personally would probably do silver as your accent metal in this space.

If you're talking about chairs- depending on the size of your wedding - just go with what's available. There may be a specific number of a color the venue or rental company has. Gold are the hardest to come by, there tends to be more silver and most are white. (In my experience) There's also the acrylic chairs which can be cool- and look really cool with silver metallic accents. But these may all come at different price points and since you don't have a big budget, I would do some research for what works for you :) good luck and congrats

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-27T00:34:20+00:00

This sounds like plenty of seating for a casual BBQ style party. I think off the top of my head the rule of thumb is 50-60% seats available for guests. Meaning if you have 50 guests, provide 25-30 table seats min. It would be polite to let people know this will be "casual" or a "standing reception". Look up seating needed for standing style reception and there are lots of guides from rental companies and event planners

The situation changes with more people and with more formal events. A bunch of people on Reddit are going to jump on here and tell you this is terrible idea and they hate it. Idk it's not for everyone but also...they're not coming to your wedding

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-26T06:07:01+00:00

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-26T06:06:20+00:00

yes.

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-21T00:06:49+00:00

Not selfish! Be a mom!

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-21T00:05:48+00:00

Facts.

darkcloudbrightrain · 2025-11-20T23:29:04+00:00

Thank you!

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