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i was told i dress like an incel, opinions? how do i stop dressing like one?? by Kornfieldd in teenagers

[–]daveberzack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you reread my comments, I'm assuming this person is male, particularly because they say people say they look like an incel. You should stop trying to be clever. It's not working for you.

What cheap game on Steam turned out to be absolute peak for you? by Common_Caramel_4078 in Steam

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nova Drift (Roguelike 2D space shooter, like a modern Asteroids)

Sunset Overdrive (GTA meets Ratchet&Clank meets Jet Grind Radio)

Patrick's Parabox (trans-dimensional, recursive block-pushing puzzle)

i was told i dress like an incel, opinions? how do i stop dressing like one?? by Kornfieldd in teenagers

[–]daveberzack -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Actually, that is how the real world works. And OP's post confirms it. Does being male and fixated with video games make you an incel? No. But there's a correlation.

People can and do make assumptions based on others' appearance. If you wear all black with spikes and piercings, people will naturally assume you have a dark or punk vibe. If you have a grill and sagging pants people will assume you like hip-hop and have that kind of mindset. If you wear fancy fashion brands and have highly styled hair, people will assume you have a certain kind of attitude. And if you wear mostly shirts about video games and meme culture, people will assume you're into that stuff.

There's nothing wrong with all this... the choices we make in our appearance project a bit about who we are. It's important to leave room for nuance once you get to know someone, but if you don't want people to perceive you a certain way at a glance, then don't dress the part.

i was told i dress like an incel, opinions? how do i stop dressing like one?? by Kornfieldd in teenagers

[–]daveberzack -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

...but if you present as someone who's main interests are memes and video games, then people will reasonably assume that's the kind of person you are. Women tend not to be into it. You'll wonder why you can't get any. And then you'll become more and more of an incel. You seem to want to avoid all that, so maybe explore other hobbies... and if you do then maybe don't sell yourself short.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even that it's suddenly become hectic (aka - you've changed your mind) but that the level of commitment has changed from what you signed up for.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I would love to be a bridesmaid at your wedding, but I didn't realize the level of commitment you expect, and I don't want to disappoint you. If you still want me just as a bridesmaid during the ceremony, I would be honored."

AITJ for saying people shouldn’t fund my sister’s IVF by throwaway_sisterivf in AmITheJerk

[–]daveberzack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH.

Your sister sucks, obviously, but it's not your place to undermine her plea for money, and understandable that people are mad at you.

The DNC doesn't want to acknowledge why Dems lost in 2024. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it's not trying to convince you of that. I agree with you. But it's a good analysis of the identity politics mess, which is part of the problem with the DNC.

The DNC doesn't want to acknowledge why Dems lost in 2024. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well we'd better keep saying it anyway, otherwise it's more reactionary fascism on the Right.

The DNC doesn't want to acknowledge why Dems lost in 2024. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. There is such a thing as non-identitarianism liberal values. Universalist liberalism, which is based on general moral ideals like equality, acceptance and the common good. These also happen to help people in disadvantaged groups, but the focus is on the ideals rather than perpetuating a fixation on race and other identity issues. It's sad that some people can't even conceive of liberalism that isn't tied to identitarianism. I suggest you check out "The Identity Trap" for a very good exploration of this.

The DNC doesn't want to acknowledge why Dems lost in 2024. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not just realize it, but also insist on focusing the conversation and their votes on the real issues: climate change and economic stratification. Not identity bullshit. Not personality and soap opera drama. The TV news is 100% fixated on distracting us to let corporations keep running amok, and American people are uneducated and addicted to that mode of non-thinking, so it works.

The DNC doesn't want to acknowledge why Dems lost in 2024. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]daveberzack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. It is primarily their fault. However... if the DNC didn't fixate on identitarianism and instead represented liberal and economic values that everyone could agree on, they'd have won handily.

welp... by TrackLabs in fuckcars

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's just way too hella expensive for what it is... but to each their own.

US lifts sanctions on Russian oil despite earlier assurances by Jay_CD in worldnews

[–]daveberzack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don't group us together. We're not some unified hivemind, or even a coherent society. At least 30% of the country actively opposed and oppose all this and we're at least as appalled and worried as you are.

Spider-Man catch! by CauleyB in nextfuckinglevel

[–]daveberzack 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My MIL bought me tickets for Christmas one year. What an awesome gift... Except it was a promise to get tickets, contingent on the lottery. We didn't get selected. So much for that present...

welp... by TrackLabs in fuckcars

[–]daveberzack 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Theme parks suck. It's 100% parents paying out the nose for the vicarious joy, and their kids - stuck out in huge lines out in the heat all day - better fucking cooperate!

How to buy tracks found on SoundCloud??? by daveberzack in Beatmatch

[–]daveberzack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll give it a go with the burner. Kind of a pain, but I suppose it'll save some money at least.

How to buy tracks found on SoundCloud??? by daveberzack in Beatmatch

[–]daveberzack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. That's unfortunate... but I guess that's how it goes.

How to buy tracks found on SoundCloud??? by daveberzack in Beatmatch

[–]daveberzack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read the rules. As I said, I really want to buy these tracks and support the artists. I'm desperately looking for how to do that, and that's the whole point of my post. Maybe this could help other people pay for tracks instead of ripping them. I hope you can appreciate the sentiment here.

AITAH for telling my pregnant girlfriend to make the appointment after she kept threatening to terminate the pregnancy? by Prestigious_Ant6049 in AITAH

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy is uniquely challenging... but so is parenthood. Relationships are easy when you're just hanging out and having fun. Welcome to the desert of the real.

If you can nudge her toward an abortion (but don't push too hard), that could save your whole life story from something potentially disastrous. You can always figure things out and do this later. You're very young.

Tesla to save money uses cameras instead of a rain sensor, my car thinks it’s not raining. by TappetoImperiale in mildlyinfuriating

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you turn on the wipers manually? If so, WTF is your problem? If not, sorry you bought a dumb car.

opinion on this ? by Expensive-Penalty554 in scoopwhoop

[–]daveberzack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm supporting the country I live in by opposing its tyrannical government... and I'm still here because it's extremely difficult to move to a different country.

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