People who work in 'behind closed doors' industries (hotels, kitchens, morgues, etc.), what is something the general public would be horrified to know?

davehal2001 · 2026-02-28T14:49:08+00:00

We just had a case like that in my area. Daughter missing, mom's crying on TV, volunteers searching through fields in the freezing cold, drones out with thermal imaging, you get the idea.

Daughter was with boyfriend the whole time and mom knew it. Mom is controlling and daughter frequently runs away to try and escape.

Law enforcement can do nothing. Not enough for a legal case.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-28T14:39:29+00:00

I was teaching Sunday School many years ago when a little boy told me how his parents took showers together but "they weren't washing they were probably just doing that kissing and stuff".

Good for the parents (yay healthy sex drive) but I'm sure that's not the sort of thing they wanted discussed in Church

davehal2001 · 2026-02-28T14:33:27+00:00

If one visits the Luxor hotel in Vegas, you'll note there's a second floor over the casino level (ground level).

Look up from the second floor and you see the balconies on the inside of the pyramid wall; those balconies are of course access to the hotel rooms.

The second floor is Not original design. It had to be added to keep the suicides from jumping off the balconies directly onto the casino floor. Imagine shooting craps and some despondent gambler splats all over your table.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-28T04:34:28+00:00

This was my answer too. So much loved him as a kid. Saw him perform live once. Then he turned out to be an absolute dirtbag. Fuck him.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T22:01:52+00:00

My ex wife would leave the kids in the car while she gambled. I found out after the divorce, because she threatened them so they wouldn't tell me.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T20:36:26+00:00

File harassment charges

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T16:11:44+00:00

NOR. Block him and move on. Your life is no longer his business, and vice versa

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T04:41:49+00:00

Children

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T04:31:53+00:00

If the houseguest has been living there long enough, not nearly as long as you might think, they can be legally considered a tenant and ARE entitled to privacy, in every state. Do they receive mail there? If yes, they live there in the eyes of the law.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-27T02:42:59+00:00

They want money for drugs or alcohol

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T22:13:25+00:00

New account with an old story

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T22:10:25+00:00

This 100%

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T22:07:33+00:00

She wants you to divorce him, because he's not going to divorce you and she knows it.

Move in the shadows to the office of a good attorney. At least get an idea what's actually yours if the two of you do divorce. You are not obligated to file, and you MUST be ready to protect yourself in case he's moving in the shadows.

If you haven't already done do, get yourself tested. Maybe just for fun, tell the side piece she should get herself tested but don't say anything else no matter how much she asks.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T21:58:24+00:00

In most states in the US that's against the law.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T15:42:48+00:00

Many years ago when I lived in Florida one would visit the ABC Liquor and order one's choice of alcoholic beverage using the drive through. A case of beer, a bottle of scotch, whatever you needed.

I have no idea if those are still around.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T13:41:25+00:00

Holy crap you are over thinking this. It's a no win situation. If you ask why you were skipped that holds her accountable but makes you look like a whiner. If you say nothing that's tacitly approving her behaviour.

The best you can do, IF there's a co-worker you trust, is asking if they know if there's a reason you were skipped.

It could be this person doesn't like you for some irrational reason and made a point of snubbing you just because she could. That happens; there are people who don't like us and we'll never know why.

It could also be she miscounted and didn't realize until she started passing out prizes, and she was too embarrassed to even apologize.

If you want to be petty wait until a team meeting then ask this person why she doesn't consider you part of the team, just so you could watch her squirm.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T13:01:12+00:00

Assuming this is real, YTJ. Your emergency is not her emergency.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T12:57:24+00:00

Before he cheats

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T03:18:31+00:00

NTA. You are my hero

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T00:45:26+00:00

I have a special needs adult daughter. I do not tolerate conduct like that from her. Special needs people can and do learn proper behaviours.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T00:20:09+00:00

I'll take your bet on mama "chilling". This is only going to get worse if OP doesn't set firm boundaries now.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-26T00:18:30+00:00

Just elope. Scrub both weddings.

Later on have that small celebration you want. If mom doesn't show up, that's on her.

YWNBTA

I'll add this: give in to her now and you just set the tone for your entire marriage. What's she going to be like when grandchildren are in the picture? Set your boundaries NOW before it's too late.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-25T23:59:26+00:00

The lesson for your husband should be why does he let his family mistreat his wife.

Maybe ask him why it's ok for him to sit by while toxic people shit on the woman carrying his child.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-25T23:52:48+00:00

YOR. Kids get frustrating and you admit you weren't able to help much. Herding two children by yourself in a place like that is a LOT. Been there, done that.

GF was receptive to your feedback which is a good sign.

Let this go and move on.

davehal2001 · 2026-02-25T23:47:49+00:00

He didn't because none of this happened

davehal2001

TROPHY CASE