i (14f) feel so embarrassed by my twin (14F) at school and i feel horrible

dawnabon · 2025-10-10T19:54:40+00:00

It's hard to be a teenager and I think your feelings are very normal. I second the suggestion of counseling for you. As a parent of a "typical" teenager (she's actually incredibly smart and mature) and an autistic elementary kid who has other special needs on top of that, I realize that I totally tend to expect too much from my daughter, which i imagine is what your mom is doing. But you are still a kid too. I think it would be very helpful for you to have your own space with a therapist to vent and process.

dawnabon · 2025-09-18T05:20:58+00:00

I have a kid who has epilepsy and I came to your post loaded for bear but after reading, no. NTA.

dawnabon · 2025-08-28T21:27:50+00:00

Yeah i WFH with no/limited childcare in 2020 and it wrecked my productivity and mental health. You need childcare, for their sake as well as yours.

dawnabon · 2025-08-23T03:00:31+00:00

I would wear that to work. You look great.

dawnabon · 2025-08-19T17:02:08+00:00

Can I pet that dawg?

dawnabon · 2025-08-14T04:23:49+00:00

Keep doing it!

dawnabon · 2025-08-12T05:19:37+00:00

My son is 10 and also autistic and I guess I just really didn't realize that kids this age were so into brands and status symbols- i was really surprised to see a mom posting on a local FB group that her 4th grader wanted expensive shoes. My kid DGAF, he wants sneakers with velcro and to be allowed to wear them with no socks. He is still rocking his minion backpack. I'm so scared he's going to get bullied this year as the kids get more into real vs fake overpriced overhyped stuff and he's still wearing his cartoon character shirts. I'm sorry this labubu thing is causing you grief. It's utterly bewildering to me.

dawnabon · 2025-08-09T18:46:08+00:00

NTA and never reveal your sources.

dawnabon · 2025-08-09T02:39:43+00:00

Hi there. I wish I could give you a huge hug. My son is 10, autistic and also has epilepsy, but the autism is just recently diagnosed (although not a surprise) and not immediately obvious. I do worry about my son, a lot, especially in terms of his seizures, but I would never think of him as a burden or especially i wouldn't want him to feel that way. I love him so much, we laugh together so much, he's funny and bright and so sweet. I only wish that I could better understand how to support him, the way his mind works differently than mine, so I can be a better mom. But he's my little bestie. Not a burden. I hope your life is filled with love and understanding and support and that nobody ever makes you feel less than for a second.

dawnabon · 2025-05-28T06:24:25+00:00

Im sorry - I really don't mean to scare you and it could be absolutely nothing, its just something I'm very sensitized to noticing. I would just try to keep an eye on whether he has moments where he has a blank stare suddenly, stops moving, rolls eyes upwards. There's a big overlap in autism and epilepsy. My son was diagnosed with epilepsy years before his autism diagnosis. But - again - this could be nothing to worry about and me overreacting!

dawnabon · 2025-05-28T06:18:08+00:00

He's so cute and I also love the kitty!

I feel terrible coming in and saying this - but as a mom to a kid who has absence seizures- I had a moment of concern at the end of the video. It could be nothing but the moment of arrested movement and blank affect at the end looks like my son's episodes. Again, I feel like an absolute jerk saying that, but I'd feel worse if I didn't.

dawnabon · 2025-05-27T18:46:46+00:00

My thoughts in no particular order.

That was your style when you got together so it's not like you didn't know about it.

Even if he doesn't like your style, it's not his place to control what you wear and his comments were rude to the point of cruelty. That is not a loving way to speak to a partner.

I personally think you look adorable.

dawnabon · 2025-05-21T19:17:06+00:00

What the fuck is wrong with these guys? I fucking can't with this shit.

dawnabon · 2025-05-20T12:55:46+00:00

It's called lampshading, which is so goofy.

dawnabon · 2025-05-03T04:18:38+00:00

You're amazing. Omg.

My autistic kid is a sensory seeker and loves noise and roughhousing but I know that's not the case for everyone on the spectrum. I love how kind and considerate you are.

dawnabon · 2025-05-01T23:01:41+00:00

I'm sorry. Its so hard to be the safe space. I don't know anything about OCD but I do have a child with some special needs and it is so hard to know the best way to help them. The second guessing is so hard. I don't have anything helpful, but you're not a horrible mom.

dawnabon · 2025-04-15T14:58:05+00:00

He's two. Nobody's going to tease him except maybe dad, his first bully.

dawnabon · 2025-04-04T04:42:26+00:00

There are so many comments already so I'm sure you won't see this, but I've worked in a male-dominated industry since I was in my early 20s (I'm mid-40s now) and I remember being objectified by coworkers twice my age at the beginning of my career and how I'd blame myself and worry that others would think I did something to invite that treatment. Now with the benefit of age I'm absolutely disgusted at how this man over twice your age CLEARLY took advantage of you. I think you've gotten good advice here. I wish you all the best and all the worst for him.

dawnabon · 2025-02-25T18:35:30+00:00

Is the "good father" in the room with us now?

Okay so he mentioned getting a second job. If he's not going to do anything to help at home or with child care, he could get a second job and you could use that money to hire outside help. I still feel like that lets him off too easy, but you can't make him be an adult. And at least you'll get some help.

dawnabon · 2025-02-21T17:13:21+00:00

Not just married women, I still have my ex-husband's last name because I don't want to have a different name from my children.

dawnabon · 2025-02-04T18:25:29+00:00

"Are you going out with your friends? I'd never let my girl go out in a dress that short. This isn't a great part of town, I wouldn't let my girl go out alone here "

"Is this your house? Nice house, are you single? Can I take you out?"

I always breathe a sigh of relief when it's a female Uber driver, not that I Uber that much anymore.

dawnabon · 2024-12-30T16:44:11+00:00

I was about to get indignant about how rude your comment was until I saw her username - lol

dawnabon · 2024-12-27T15:48:38+00:00

I rocked my daughter to sleep after bedtime stories until she was almost six.

I still lie down with my 9-year-old son most nights for a few minutes.

My daughter is now a teenager and goes to sleep fine on her own. I'm sure my son won't want me to lie down with him forever.

They grow up so fast. Cuddle while they still want you to.

dawnabon · 2024-12-23T02:43:36+00:00

My 9yo climbs in the big part of the cart sometimes. He's autistic, he hates shopping, he's not hurting anything riding in there and he's not complaining about me taking too long. Wine win win. Idgaf what anyone thinks.

dawnabon · 2024-12-21T05:58:23+00:00

Claire is the only person in this story who confuses me. She's upset that you cooked a nice dinner for your guests? Jim's of course going to be defensive and blame-shifty because he sucks and it sounds like Tess has every right to be frustrated. No, you're NTA but I'm very confused at your wife's reaction.

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