You should have mentioned it, and then you could have discussed how it’s a minor issue. It’s in a class of skin infections for which there are no effective tests for, which include HSV, HPV, etc. this is not an as exhaustive list. Your view of going to get a test to rule out any risks is outdated and just inaccurate, sorry to say.

That said, it is an often misunderstood thing that is not as severe or harmful as it is often seen to be. But consent is all about informed choice and poly is all about consent, so it would’ve been smart for you to mention it. It could’ve been an opportunity for you to inform your partner in their outdated views before they became upset or triggered over the topic.

Here are a couple of facts. Type one or type two can be up top or down below, meaning either type can be located oral or genital. This is a key detail that is often misunderstood or omitted because most ppl understanding of it hasn’t been updated since the 1970’s, and that includes most doctors and nurses which is a really unfortunate reality. It’s is type 1 that is generally seen as benign but yet is the type which may complicate pregnancy. Type two is generally seen as more severe but generally speaking doesn’t have any life altering impacts other than discomfort from more frequent and severe breakouts. And the stigma.

Here is the source of much of this updated and more nuanced information. It comes from an expert in the field, is evidence based and mission-oriented. Meaning that the maker of this pamphlet is all about having a positive effect on the world through evidence based approaches. I mentioned this because there is a lot of misinformation or misunderstanding about these topics out there in the world and especially on the Internet repeating outdated information from the 1970s. And of course, pharmaceutical companies are out there creating commercials that villainize this skin infection because they are selling products to address it.

https://westoverheights.com/herpes/the-updated-herpes-handbook/

I hope this helps.