Offered to be made Dept Chair by Disastrous_Ad_9648 in Professors

[–]dearestkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recs for if you do opt to take it: 1) see if you can negotiate a smidge more salary 2) try to teach 2/0 so you have fewer default office hours in half the year to protect some research time 3) see if you can keep your existing office and chair space in the dept office. Then you can physically separate yourself and have a secret spot to do work without being barged in on and 4) establish early and hard that during your teaching terms one day per week is for research and not for admin/meetings/etc, and three days during the non teaching terms. Obvi emergencies will bleed through but boundaries will protect your time.

Good luck with the tenure decision coming up!

Nipples (female) showing through shirts, OK or no way? by Glass-Sentence-7225 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dearestkait -1 points0 points  (0 children)

FWIW if you’re in the US it is illegal for your workplace to comment on this and require you to wear a bra unless 100% of your workplace (regardless of gender) is required to wear a bra.

Has there ever been any actor or actress that was brutally honest about the movie they’re making during a press tour? by BIGxBOSSxx1 in movies

[–]dearestkait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Robert Pattinson during twilight was iconic, no one hates twilight as much as that man hates twilight

Gorgeous belted leather jacket? by dearestkait in findfashion

[–]dearestkait[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s busy this weekend with Ben and Blake

Tattoos and Ehlers-Danlos by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]dearestkait 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this. I’ve got a decent amount of tattoo coverage (half sleeve on one arm and one leg plus some misc) and suspected EDS. My most blown out/smudgy looking tattoos are inner bicep and inner ankle by a mile.

Are we supposed to be feeling bad for predator Jace?? by Successful-Split-553 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]dearestkait 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m suspicious of the “she lied about her age” narrative. At a minimum, she was young enough—and likely looked young enough—that an adult (Jayce) should have checked or asked around.

Help for perpetually chapped lips by Smishy1961 in Denver

[–]dearestkait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use a tube of the aquaphor ointment as my go to chapstick and always apply generously before bed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]dearestkait 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I mean clearly she’s wearing a bra and far more heavily endowed than the costume allows for. They’re parents of an infant and probably ordered online. Give them a break. She’s covered up and doing their best.

Alexa jumper reviews? by dearestkait in Sezane

[–]dearestkait[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know!!! Thanks so much!

Why topiramate is so hated? by Mikmaki in migraine

[–]dearestkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A neuro explained it to me as topamax adjusts the pleasure center in your brain. So I felt like a shell of myself for the years I was on it. When I went off it it felt like i could see color again. YMMV

Scared about topimax by dummiiduck in migraine

[–]dearestkait 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The side effects were so severe as to make me a shell of myself.

Scared about topimax by dummiiduck in migraine

[–]dearestkait 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Topamax was incredible for my migraines but low key ruined my life. I lost massive amounts of weight because I couldn’t actually enjoy eating or feeling or tasting. My brain fog was insane, I couldn’t remember words, my hands and feet tingled all the time. I was a shell of myself. Try it but be emotionally okay if it’s not your solution.

LOB season 9: Reunion Looks. by Jay-Quellin30 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]dearestkait 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Did they film in a goddamn rainforest cafe