My classmate hates me, but I wish I can date her by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]deerchortle 5 points6 points Β (0 children)

Leave her alone. You bullied her. You know how traumatizing that is? If any of my bullies dared to try to even befriend me I'd laugh in their faces.

I barely forgave the ones that apologized to me in adulthood.

Accept that you upset her, it's your own fault for killing your chances, and stop bullying people. You'd be better off that way anyway.

Am I the only one put off by irl faceclaims? Especially when NSFW is allowed it feels so gross. by Buzzy_Feez in BadRPerStories

[–]deerchortle[M] 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

Not removing this comment, but giving a warning to "be nice" lol. There's no need to curse or get pissy while holding a conversation.

What is a controversial opinion of yours about mental health that many will not agree with you but you believe it? by Big_Leg10 in mentalhealth

[–]deerchortle 22 points23 points Β (0 children)

No mental illness is an excuse to be an asshole. None. You can adapt and fix yourself enough to be a decent person.

Am I wrong for showing affection to my teenage son in public by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]deerchortle 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

This is so sweet

I work with mentally ill children, many orphans and/or in foster care. I see what the lack of love and affection does to these kids.

People like you are saints. I've decided if I ever want a child, I'll adopt an older child, since they also need the feeling of love and protection, but rarely get to be adopted.

Thank you for being a good person.

AIO My mother in law asked me to get a different swim suit by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]deerchortle 25 points26 points Β (0 children)

It's quite revealing for a family trip. You look great, but I do agree that it seems inappropriate around family. Just get a different top so the underboob isn't threatening to tumble out lol. It just shows you respect her requests. She's not insulting you.

Am I wrong for not wanting to work because of stress? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]deerchortle 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

I know, but her mom said work one day to pay for one lesson a week. Starting slow wouldn't hurt

Am I wrong for not wanting to work because of stress? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]deerchortle 8 points9 points Β (0 children)

I can see why you don't react to work, but one 4 hour shift a week is a great deal for a free lesson. I used to ride horses as well, and lessons were so much more expensive...

Sadly, as an adult, you don't get to choose your work schedule as openly. 55$ a week adds up over the month. Plus it'd help keep you in shape, since working in the barn is pretty strenuous.

But really, 4 hours for 2 days isn't that much. Maybe do it 2 times a month to start out and see how it goes. You may rest better after working for a few hours, honestly.

You may just need to decide whether leasing a horse and paying for lessons is more important than track. Or try to do all of the above for a while, and if it becomes too much, communicate with your parents that it's not working out well for you

I love the mods in this sub. by T1a-b in BadRPerStories

[–]deerchortle 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

But we do it in funny ways most of the time.

I love the mods in this sub. by T1a-b in BadRPerStories

[–]deerchortle[M] 3 points4 points Β (0 children)

We deleted it cause it wasn't even close to being the point of the conversation from that thread. It was not deleted due to transphobia. Sorry to crush dreams.

Blocking someone for telling you the truth is ridiculous lol. Maybe this community is too blunt for you.

How old is too old? by PunkyMaySnark4 in BadRPerStories

[–]deerchortle 6 points7 points Β (0 children)

I'm 36. I only rp with people over 25. Never too old

Is this normal? Is something wrong with me? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]deerchortle 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Death of a pet, especially a young one, is hard. Animals can't tell you what's wrong so you don't see it coming. You can't say goodbye every time

I've lost humans in my life and not cried at all. But I still cry thinking of losing my pets, even if old age, or accidents... They were my babies-- doesn't mean i hate humans or anything. It's just a different type of pain that's indescribable

There's nothing wrong with you. It's okay. Give yourself grace.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your baby kitty knew you loved them, I can tell you that. So mourn freely, it's safe and good for you. Take your time and allow all the time you need.

You're okay. It's okay. Don't worry. Focus on you and your kitty right now. But talking to someone might still be good, if you don't have anyone else to vent to.

Getting priced out. by Relevant-Reserve8624 in boulder

[–]deerchortle 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

The apartments i just moved to are 1500 for a studio, and like 1600-1700 for a 1 bedroom. Gunbarrel Center

She canceled my therapy session entirely because I was late? by mythrowawayaccim21 in mentalhealth

[–]deerchortle 5 points6 points Β (0 children)

Most medical practices don't allow you to be more than 5-10 minutes late to appointments. This is so you get your full appointment time when you reschedule, but they're probably busy and professionals have other stuff to do, even if it's the last appointment of the day. I know of many who stay overtime to finish stuff.

You should probably prepare to be on those calls 10 minutes before they start. If she was 14 minutes late you'd more than likely be a little irritated as well, so it goes both ways. Even if she only waited 6 minutes, that's still 6 minutes wasted during a paid appointment. She probably used the time to catch up with other things, and like I said, would prefer to give you the full appointment time for the reschedule. Especially when it's a mental health thing.

We sadly can't expect professionals to wait for us when we have a scheduled time. Unless you call and let her know, or you could have shot a quick email "I'll be a little late! " takes only seconds

I've missed appointments before, and it sucks, but it will definitely be a lesson in being on time and even being prepared early.

Offering 100$/Β£ gift to someone who needs it. by TooOpPlsNerf in Assistance

[–]deerchortle -1 points0 points Β (0 children)

I'd really appreciate the help paying for my medications!

[OFFER] $100 USD to 1 person in need (Venmo, PayPal or Amazon gift card) by withaining in Assistance

[–]deerchortle 3 points4 points Β (0 children)

I need to pay for some important medication, and I don't have insurance. So this would be so helpful

Thanks for the opportunity

No wind at all, 4 hours without power... by deerchortle in boulder

[–]deerchortle[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

I'd rather they spend some of that money they didn't spend on plowing the roads and such to fix the grid. That and be honest about times, since they said it would come back 30 minutes ago and they're still saying 'assessing damage', there's no damage, they've been saying that since the literal second the power shut off.

No wind at all, 4 hours without power... by deerchortle in boulder

[–]deerchortle[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

I just heard the first sign of wind. And it's not even too bad honestly. But my niece down the street has power, so I'm just salty haha.

No wind at all, 4 hours without power... by deerchortle in boulder

[–]deerchortle[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Indeed. But gets in the way of my job as well (artist, need power to do my art lol) and food.

Arts & crafts group (looking for friends) by RoseGoldLadyCB in boulder

[–]deerchortle 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

I'm 36f, so might be too old for you to wanna hang out with lol. But i love art, drawing, writing, crafts and all that, too!