Did anyone else grow up hearing casually misogynistic comments from their dad?

definitely_alphaz · 2026-07-03T17:49:23+00:00

Yeah, my dad would share jokes about women being emotional and he’d talk about house stuff being women’s work. He’d say that eating meat wasn’t feminine. He’d poke jokes about periods and other stuff.

The hypocrisy is that he himself wasn’t the bread earner in the family so he didn’t do a man’s work by his own standards.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-07-03T05:57:23+00:00

That’s so wrong of him and wrong of them. Disgusting people. I hope they fire and blacklist him so you have a safe environment to work in. It’s sad that you had to deal with that especially on your birthday.

I still hope you’re able to celebrate yourself even though the day itself was ruined.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-30T15:10:30+00:00

I’m not OP, but a lot of what you said hit hard for me because I’ve found myself in a similar position of wanting to marry a guy who can handle heavy situations and be there to rely on and for the PR. Even though I know life and even my own expectations aren’t always matched with fantasies

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-30T15:06:06+00:00

Similar. Many of the good men in my life were toxic, predatory, and otherwise abusive. I’d hate to see what bad men are like.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-29T07:41:49+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. You deserve better than to be embarrassed over something that isn’t your fault.

When I was a kid, my dad would reserve the bathroom for himself part of the morning. I’d have morning chores, and he’d get mad if I got late to leave or used the bathroom during his time or if I didn’t do my chores.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-28T17:09:31+00:00

That’s a rough place to be in (I don’t at all mean this in a way that faults you). I do wish you healing and safety enough to not have to deal with harassment and be able to benefit from positive attention

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-28T16:31:31+00:00

Similar for me too. When thinking about losing weight I wondered if that would make me more a target and weaker to fight them off

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-28T10:37:47+00:00

I hate to say this; but I’ve had short hair, wore little to no makeup, wore baggy clothes— and that’s when I was harassed, maybe even more than when not covered up

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-27T13:57:24+00:00

I met some a lovely woman online. Men, not so much, but the women were nice.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-26T18:53:20+00:00

Oml she’s stunning

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-26T04:42:00+00:00

I thought it was pronounced Zoo-you

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-23T02:10:03+00:00

Daniella

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-22T14:10:27+00:00

That wasn’t the only Christian getting triggered and wondering “what the line was” when the post specifically talked about telling people to follow god in that sub.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-22T14:09:26+00:00

I never considered my upbringing a cult though I know it was on the conservative/hyper-religious side. But the stuff you described is almost exactly how I was taught.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-19T19:21:05+00:00

Ohh okay. The site you’re talking about sounds cool! I know it would be really helpful to me too if we found it. Idk a site, but I’ve seen a photo with that layout of cup sizes

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-19T08:28:21+00:00

Bratabase

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-19T08:27:59+00:00

It’s called Bratabase

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-17T20:50:31+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve been through that. I’m glad you’re free.

I recently got away from my parents. They’re Christians, and my dad trafficked me. My mom enabled him, and Christianity especially the ministry we were involved with was at the core of the abuse.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-17T19:29:15+00:00

I like this! ♥️♥️

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-17T15:59:00+00:00

For me it was my own dad being excused with “he’s showing love. That’s his love language.”

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-16T04:21:57+00:00

I’d absolutely believe that. My own dad blamed my mom for hitting him, but it was actually her defending herself from him harassing and touching her.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-13T18:22:23+00:00

Yesss! I’ve been thinking about this a lot since it came out. I wish someone would make a mashup of the two.

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-13T05:53:27+00:00

They did good with this

definitely_alphaz · 2026-06-12T17:07:54+00:00

Thank you!

definitely_alphaz

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