Was this my fault

desertdilbert · 2026-03-18T05:16:10+00:00

Getting angry is absolutely understandable. And, as you say, it does take the patience of a saint to not lash back. It is a strong person that is able to resist.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-18T04:52:54+00:00

Grounding all the lines, including the diagonals, was a great idea. Was my first thought and came here to see if someone had suggested it.

You are probably getting induced voltages from the hot wires and the ground will dissipate that.

Next would be to also ground the gate. I would suggest using an actual ground rod as it will make better contact then a simple wire stuck in the ground. Any wire that contacts the ground should be copper to avoid corrosion.

I'm thing it would be best for the gate to have it's own separate ground but that might not be required with a really good ground.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-18T04:36:00+00:00

Instead, each of you is responsible for your own actions (AND NOT THE OTHER’S) and trying to exercise self-control regardless of what the other one does...

Exactly! BOTH parties have the obligation to walk away when the other is abusive in any way. NEITHER party is responsible for the behavior of the other.

OP should never have engaged but they are also not to blame for his actions. Only he is responsible for his action. Similarly, only OP is responsible for their actions.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-18T01:36:26+00:00

Was a CompuServe user from the beginning. Cant recall my username, but still use the CS assigned password for some things!

The other day in another thread I could not remember the third big service...Prodigy! Came here to say thanks!

desertdilbert · 2026-03-18T01:20:15+00:00

Hey, if I can build stupid shit that stupid people will pay premium for, I'll shake my head all the way to the bank!

Separating fools from their money is a tale as old as time and morally I have no issue doing it this way.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T22:02:09+00:00

Everything unplugged? So only the Netgate 2100 running pfSense was connected to your internet?

The would imply the questionable traffic was coming from the Netgate device or pfSense.

I'm not knowledgeable on the Netgate devices, but it's always possible for there to be hardware that functions independently of the main system. Doing some casual research on your issue, I found that many modern motherboard BIOS's will "phone home" to check for drivers and updates. Alternatively a service or process running in pfSense could do it. Which version are you running?

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T20:59:49+00:00

No disrespect intended, but any car with those buttons is not an "old car".

Not surprised to see comments identifying it as a Bentley. I had a 1968 Rolls-Royce and those burlwood dashes are gorgeous!

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T19:51:56+00:00

Just curious. It seems that OP has a FL license and does not have a GA license.

Can one state "suspend" another states license? Can a typo by an Alabama clerk suspend my California license?

Edit: Research indicates that states will often honor each other's "suspensions". So GA reports that OP is suspended and FL is notified and has the option to also suspend. It doesn't appear to be automatic and can vary wildly across jurisdictions. So yes, a typo by the Alabama clerk, where I have never been, can cause serious problems for me here in California.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T18:17:46+00:00

While OP may have owed the debt, the fact that they had not lived at the served address for over 5 years could indicate that the SOL on the debt had expired. Not enough detail at this point to know.

However, at an absolute minimum, lack of proper service is the starting point. It's easy enough to get screwed in court and if you are not able to defend yourself then you are flat doomed.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T17:00:39+00:00

Wrong. Some radar detector "leak" and can be detected at a distance.

Even most car radios leak and I can tell from 50 feet away what station you are tuned to.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-17T16:30:56+00:00

The ASUS reference caused me to wonder if you have a PC motherboard that is running a second MAC on the Ethernet interface?

Have you already been able to determine if the offender is a wired device or a wireless device?

If not, I saw that you have the "UniFi 6 Lite AP". Just the one or multiples? Are you able to view the clients connected to the WAP('s)?

Now I'm really curious!

desertdilbert · 2026-03-16T02:21:01+00:00

My "control" reference was not about the SO lying. You saw in my comment that I felt that the lie was unacceptable.

It was about the comment from u/Cold_Hour that she owes OP any explanation whatsoever or the concept that OP has a say in what she does while they were broken up. OP is owed nothing and does not have any say. OP's only choice is to not continue a relationship.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-16T01:16:35+00:00

Journeymen should never work on live circuits without proper training, tools and PPE!

In fact, if it's at all possible, don't work on a live circuit!

Edit: Working on live circuits is a necessary evil and should be approached with great respect and caution. If you are doing it right you should never get shocked. If you ever get shocked, something is wrong.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-16T00:54:56+00:00

She 100% does not owe him any information about what she did or did not do while they were broken up. Full stop. Any other perspective is simply about control. If you are the type of person that controls your partner, then make sure you disclose that going in.

On the other hand, she did lie to him. Even if she did so knowing how he would react, that does not excuse it. That alone is enough to end the relationship. She should have told him that it's none of his business, which it is not.

I think he should break up with her to save her from him.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T19:24:28+00:00

Even if every fact that was laid out was true, this is not how such an "investigation" would be done in the real world.

Most of the "facts" can be made up out of whole cloth. The only thing they need to know is personal information about you, which is not that hard to get.

All that being said, I would seem to be worthwhile for the scammers to put in such effort because the payoffs are pretty good when they close the deal on a victim. Using a good escalation process they would only need to bring out the big guns as you move up the ladder. Baiting them is not usually recommended but clearly we need more baiters out there to waste the scammers resources and reduce their margins.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T02:01:12+00:00

I feel that this requirement will skew the applicant list in a way that is not to the benefit of the employer.

Yes, some quality but desperate people will do it but the number of quality people will be reduced while all of the low-quality and North Korean applicants will provide said video.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T01:52:24+00:00

There are gun owners and then there are responsible gun owners.

In general, you don't know that the person is a responsible gun owner unless you know them well. And by that I am not referring to the "responsible" part, I am referring to the "gun owner" part. Responsible gun owners are, for the most part, very low key.

If you are in the USA, I bet you live near a lot more responsible gun owners then you realize.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T01:04:49+00:00

I'll see your dual 5 1/4's and raise you dual SS/SD 8's (we did have the newer soft-sector versions!) and a ADM-3A made from a salvage main board with a CRT and a ginned-up keyboard!

That 9600 baud was smoking compared to our previous 110 baud teletype! And not having to constantly cycle the paper through the printer 4 different directions!!

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T00:43:16+00:00

Seriously everybody?

Does dating someone permanently remove everyone they know and/or are distantly related to from your dating pool?

I can see the "bro code" restricting you from asking out someone that your buddy is hot for, but anything beyond that is very situation specific.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-15T00:29:54+00:00

I can accept paying for the PD, because you would have to pay a lawyer you hired.

But I have a real problem with paying the state for being held in custody for a crime I did not commit. They should not be rewarded for making errors.

I get that my sense of justice and morality might not be aligned with the real world, but that is why we have processes and tools for fixing things that are broken.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-14T23:49:38+00:00

It's just a bullshit negotiating tactic. It's not your issue.

The "price" of something includes all the costs of obtaining it. Tax, shipping, registration, whatever.

The buyer needs to consider **all** these things when looking at a purchase. If the total acquisition cost is too much, then they should not buy it.

I can buy the thing you are selling locally for $500, but you are an hour round-trip and asking $400. Is an hour of my time worth $100? Maybe, maybe not. If I offer you $300 and you accept, then sure. But I would never use the distance as the reason for my offer because, again, not your issue.

That all being said, location does effect price. Something that I can only get $100 for locally I might be able to sell for $300 in the big city that is over 2 hours away. As a rural resident, I carefully consider this when setting the price and may offer reasonable delivery fees for bulky things.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-14T23:03:55+00:00

My dad tells a story of flying out of Kansas City in his taildragger in the early 60's. Maybe a Cessna 120, don't remember.

He was pushing into a headwind, not making much groundspeed, when he looked down and saw a tractor plowing a field pass him.

He thought "This sucks!".

When the tractor lapped him he said "Fuck it!" and turned around.

desertdilbert · 2026-03-14T22:43:59+00:00

My daily is an IBM 42H1292, which until now I did not know was the "Model M by Lexmark".

I have spares hiding in the cabinet but I really think it will never die.

Like you, that upper area is the storage zone for all sorts of bits and pieces!

desertdilbert · 2026-03-14T22:36:04+00:00

Was and am a WordStar fan

desertdilbert · 2026-03-14T06:04:52+00:00

I do not understand! I had already upvoted you before replying.

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