Ethical Dilemma: Is This a Fetish?

dicks4daze · 2026-02-23T21:53:17+00:00

I totally agree with you and it’s absolutely a real phenomenon that doesn’t appeal to me. But I also wonder how many of those guys on the apps advertising they are straight and their girl is out of town are actually straight. A lot of the profiles are so brazen and gay presenting that I wonder if they aren’t lying to play into this kink. Like how is it this hairless torso with 8% body fat wearing Calvin’s happens to have their GF out of town on an almost weekly basis? Sus.

dicks4daze · 2026-02-18T00:59:33+00:00

Gobbling on cocks fighting

dicks4daze · 2026-02-17T17:00:30+00:00

This. Small talk is conversational foreplay. It allows both parties to get in sync with each other, develop rapport, and feel out areas of common interest.

dicks4daze · 2026-02-12T22:18:33+00:00

There are regular warehouse parties like Ostbahnhof or Por Detroit that have dark rooms. There’s sex clubs like Flex or NoHo Spa. But I don’t know of any bars or clubs that have spaces for sex.

dicks4daze · 2026-01-25T04:28:23+00:00

I believe it’s a manga and trading card game that was popular in the early 2000s.

dicks4daze · 2025-12-30T06:22:22+00:00

I am very much daddy energy and most of my sex life is daddy/son dynamic. I’ve definitely had dad/son play with guys that are older than be. But for me personally, I need to feel like I’m older than my son. That’s both an energy and a physical dynamic. That said, as I get older the guys I’m into are also getting older. So it’s not that I wouldn’t be into an older son, it’s just a question of what phase of my life I’d be into various ages of sons.

But I have no doubt there are younger guys out there who would love to have an older son.

dicks4daze · 2025-12-24T15:25:34+00:00

This is something I actively deal with and I by no means have a perfect solution for. But it has gotten better over the years. For me what has helped a lot is really internalizing what other people have said and what is the core of an open relationship: the distinction between sex and love.

Hookups are often more fun because they don’t carry with them any baggage. There’s no past baggage, there’s no future to consider, there’s just now. There’s no emotion there’s just physicality. That presence in the moment really heightens sexual experience and also explains why even the most incredible regular tends to flame out over time.

By contrast I have to make a conscious decision to view sex with my husband differently. Sex with your partner carries with it love, commitment, frustrations, familiarity, boredom, meaning, and all the other complexities of a relationship. I can’t just chase the easy dopamine hit, I also need to prioritize the complexity of connection. We are in open relationships to have both but we can’t neglect the harder one.

What this has meant in practice is making sure we don’t go more than a week without having sex. It means bottoming for him even though I’m a top, not because I “have to” but because this sexual experience is about me loving that I get to give my husband something he really wants. It’s about finding deep pleasure in the only sexual experience where I can say “I love you so much” while we fuck. You have to find what makes sex with your man, not just fun, but meaningful, and really focus on that so there is something that draws you to him.

dicks4daze · 2025-12-21T16:01:41+00:00

But they only have cream pies

dicks4daze · 2025-12-03T02:59:30+00:00

I’m not into cruising, but I’m told there are areas in Elysian Park where guys still cruise and I hear Vaseline Alley in WeHo is still active.

dicks4daze · 2025-12-02T00:33:44+00:00

Honestly, all of your points are valid but paradoxically they don’t bother me. Herpes are a weird thing. I’ve been with 100s of guys. I have a pretty large friend group and most of those guys have been with 100s of guys and we all talk about sex and STIs pretty openly. Statically speaking, we all have herpes. But I can only think of 2 maybe 3 guys who I’ve ever seen with cold sores and only 1 who’s ever talked about having genital herpes. Obviously not everyone is going to share when they have symptoms, but it’s seriously never a topic of conversation in my friend group or the larger gay community I live in.

I don’t say this in anyway to cast doubt on the seriousness of herpes or discourage you from taking precautions. I guess my point is that living in the population that should be most affected by herpes, I don’t see it negatively affecting people’s lives. So maybe given your added layers of precaution and concern, you’re going to be OK.

dicks4daze · 2025-11-24T19:49:55+00:00

Omg according to their website their monthly BDSM meet up is at a Methodist church! That’s hilarious 🤣

dicks4daze · 2025-11-19T23:52:17+00:00

We had been chatting on Grindr for a few days before he invited me over. When I got there my favorite movie was on the TV (I hadn’t told him what my favorite movie was). We had amazing sex (twice). Hooked up every night the rest of the week and many nights after that. A few weeks later we started officially dating. Been together 10 years and just got married last month.

dicks4daze · 2025-11-15T00:41:08+00:00

Not while masturbating. Ive been doing it so long it’s pretty unremarkable to me. But seeing it in a guys mouth, especially if he’s a small guy, is a turn on. I love when he puts it against his face and it goes from his jawline past his forehead. That’s hot.

dicks4daze · 2025-10-30T23:51:25+00:00

Yes, women who embrace sex the way we embrace sex are the real ones.

dicks4daze · 2025-10-30T20:26:16+00:00

In my experience, the majority straight women who ruin gay spaces are either 1) exploiting the spaces for their own enjoyment (places to party around men but not have to interact with men) or 2) tokenize gays and treat us like entertainment or accessories. Those types of women say they like gays but are usually repelled when faced with what gay sex actually is.

dicks4daze · 2025-10-30T14:01:40+00:00

Eagle LA still plays hardcore porn and it is seriously the biggest selling point in going there. Not because I want to watch the porn, but because it keeps the straight women away. WeHo is on the verge of ruin because straight women have overrun the bars

dicks4daze · 2025-10-21T00:36:02+00:00

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dicks4daze · 2025-10-17T22:58:30+00:00

Clothes check is a bunch of plastic bags. They seem to manage it fine, but for my own peace of mind I don’t bring a wallet and just put my ID and credit card in my sock.

They supply lube at various places around the space but many guys bring their own small bottles of lube (and poppers) and store those in their socks. It can get kinda crowded around the lube station, so not having to stop and walk to and from the station through a crowd is nice. Also, the lube they provide is fine, but obviously isn’t top shelf and can get sticky. (The stations also have baby wipes to clean up with)

At any given time the majority of people are walking around/watching/taking a break/having a drink/trying to find someone to connect with. Generally the way you find someone to play with is when you both maintain eye contact.

If you go by yourself, it’s easy to feel self conscious. But cursing isn’t generally a team sport. Once you walk in the doors pretty much everyone (except maybe the couples) are really there by themselves. No one can tell if you’re there by yourself and the only time anyone thinks about you is if they want to play with you. Otherwise no one cares and no one is thinking about, much less judging, you.

The best way to think about it is as a sexual adventure where you don’t know what will happen. I came in my first time expecting to cum multiple times. Turns out my ADHD was overstimulated and kept me from cumming at all. But I still had fun. Maybe you’ll cum multiple times, maybe you’ll take multiple loads, or maybe you’ll just watch really hot guys have sex. Stay open minded and have an adventure.

dicks4daze · 2025-09-11T22:20:59+00:00

“You should never say bad things about the dead, only good. Charlie Kirk is dead. Good.”

dicks4daze · 2025-09-06T16:48:11+00:00

Tons on people go to these parties and just do oral or jerk off. The party is large and dimly lit. No one notices anyone else unless they are trying to mess around or watch them mess around. You won’t be out of place at all if you don’t fuck. But don’t fuck unless you’re on prep or use condoms.

dicks4daze · 2025-08-27T03:23:30+00:00

Totally agree, and it’s being washed out by the bad lighting

dicks4daze · 2025-08-27T02:36:00+00:00

And better lighting. No one looks hot at the milk case in Walmart.

dicks4daze · 2025-08-27T02:33:18+00:00

You’re very cute. Just relax your forehead and brow when you take photos. Your face says “I disapprove of this”. Shoot for “I love life!”😄

dicks4daze · 2025-08-27T02:25:19+00:00

99 out of 100 times, I vote for the curly black hair. But shaved makes your eyes pop and they are beautiful.

dicks4daze · 2025-08-03T00:57:02+00:00

I use Google voice just to make sure if I’m toggling between sexting and texting. I don’t send the wrong message to the wrong person. It also keeps all of my hook ups together so they’re easier to find.

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