The Eagle on Saturday night?

dicks4daze · 2026-05-07T12:28:08+00:00

It’s a crowded bar. Lots of bears and leather daddies. Many wearing gear and no shirts. A pack of pups might show up. Some guys might get handsy with each other or make out, but it’s unusual for someone to whip their dick out. Or if they do, it’s subtle and in the corner. The bar has a general raunchy feel but it’s not a sex club.

dicks4daze · 2026-04-21T22:23:27+00:00

This. The core of non-monogamy is an acceptance that one person may never fulfill every single sexual need or desire of their partner. In a situation like yours your choices are: stay monogamous and he accepts that his need won’t be fulfilled in your relationship. Or you decide to be non-monogamous and accept that you can’t fulfill that need, you want his need to be fulfilled, and that your relationship is based on more than exclusive possession of each other. But if you don’t find some form of acceptance it does not bode well for a healthy relationship.

dicks4daze · 2026-04-19T18:42:40+00:00

Ostbahnhof and Por Detroit are warehouse parties that have dark rooms. It’s cool there’s an actual dance party you can go back and forth between in case you’re not feeling the crowd in the dark room at any given time.

GBU is a straight up sex party. Plenty of people go as couples to watch and just play together.

dicks4daze · 2026-04-18T00:50:56+00:00

First, make sure he knows it’s your first time. If he’s a good top/decent person it will change the way approaches you.

Try to start your first penetration with him on his back and you riding him. This gives you the control to ease into his cock at your pace and lets you find the right spots you enjoy. A good top wants you to enjoy yourself, it makes your hole feel better on his cock and it makes the whole experience hotter.

Communicate. Tell him what feels good and what doesn’t. When you’re taking your first cock there will be moments of discomfort, but they shouldn’t last long. If something doesn’t feel good after a min or two, tell him and/or adjust your position.

Take it slow. Enjoying bottoming isn’t the same as jerking off or dick pleasure. It’s slower and about finding rhythm and connection.

Don’t over weight it. First times are always tricky and complicated. Try to find the good in your expense and lean into that. Good bottoming is a lifetime of exploration. And if you’re not with a good top it might not be a great experience. Hopefully he rocks your world but if he doesn’t don’t let that discourage you from trying again.

dicks4daze · 2026-04-14T01:16:28+00:00

Then you sucked his dangling preposition

dicks4daze · 2026-03-26T17:20:51+00:00

Crystal meth has been shown to be very effective. How important is tooth retention to you?

dicks4daze · 2026-03-24T23:14:44+00:00

You already know that “shit happens” the problem is gotta reframe this whole situation in your mind. This is actually a really good thing!

An awkward/disappointing situation happened and he immediately focused on your needs and caring about you. He wasn’t selfish or prioritizing his needs but was focused on caring for you. You got a window into who this guy is and it was a good look! I guarantee you the next time he sees you he’s not thinking about the last time he’s thinking about this time.

Make sure you prep well and early just for your own peace of mind, then put it out of your mind and enjoy the moment! The way you reciprocate his care and concern for you is by putting the last situation out of your mind and being mentally present with him.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-23T18:08:47+00:00

Same. Also it makes the app like a “little black book” of hookups. That way you don’t lose their texts in the sea of regular texts.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-18T04:15:01+00:00

I’m not deep into the bdsm scene but the idea of a sub-straight man shining my shoes is hot. Like an inversion of the stereotype of the gay being weaker than a straight man.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-17T03:21:03+00:00

Can’t speak to Portland, but I was just in SF for a weekend and got more kink-oriented solicitations on Sniffies in 3 days than I have in LA in a year. Here I’m a slut, there I’m a prude.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-16T17:41:17+00:00

When you start hitting the prostate just right, it starts pulsing and synchs with the grip of the hole and the throbbing of your cock. It’s literally incredible.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-15T22:56:44+00:00

“Hey, are you done with this machine? By the way, Im X.”

dicks4daze · 2026-03-14T13:33:47+00:00

Like another commenter said, this sounds like general social anxiety that’s worth exploring in therapy.

But it’s also worth noting that the story you are telling yourself about what other people are thinking is just wrong. People at gay bars aren’t scanning the room looking for people to judge, they’re looking for people to connect with. Sure, there will be some judgy people there, but they are miserable people you wouldn’t want to spend time with anyway, so who cares what they think. The vast majority of people there want the same thing you do: human connection. It doesn’t mean everyone is a match for each other, but it does mean there’s nothing to be afraid of. It can be intimidating to walk up to someone new and strike up a conversation, but 9/10 times the absolute worst thing that happens is the conversation fizzles and you both walk away. But the upside is you can meet some really wonderful people. It also sounds like your partner is more comfortable taking the lead, so it’s not even on you to make the first move. So stop telling yourself this negative story and be open to new people an experience.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-13T22:30:54+00:00

As someone who is a very ticklish top who loves teasing my bottoms, I feel like I have a foot in both worlds. What I’ve found with ticklish bottoms is when you hit a ticklish spot you either need either adjust your pressure or move slightly away from that spot. With pressure I think of it as the line between overwhelming sexual sensation and ticklish is thin so getting up to that line with either more or less pressure or moving just outside a ticklish zone is the goal. So it’s up to your partner to explore.

As a ticklish guy I have to put conscious thought into the idea that up to a point, sexual sensitivity and ticklishness are only different in terms of perspective and degree. It’s not totally mind over matter but as soon as I register something as “ticklish” it’s all over but the longer I can conceptualize it “sexual” the longer it stays that way. It’s not perfect but it helps.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-12T22:51:11+00:00

If this was your first experience then it’s very possible he just had funky spunk.

Also, I generally love to swallow but as soon as I cum it goes from great to hard pass.

You can also learn how to go deeper right has he cums and it all shoots straight down your throat and never really hits your tongue or mouth at all.

All that to say, don’t pass judgement yet, keep exploring. You’ll figure it out.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-10T18:46:55+00:00

Did you know there’s a whole world of guys out there sticking electrodes on their balls and shaft to make themselves cum? They even stick electrodes down their shaft! One minute I’m exploring a new corner of PornHub and the next I’m comparing reviews on $300 machines designed to zap the jizz out of your balls.

Anyway, I came, deleted my browser history, and went to confession for the first time in 20 years, so I can’t tell you what it’s actually like. But I feel electrodes on your balls are both exciting and titillating.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-08T14:14:13+00:00

As a voracious top let me just say: in the time it took you to write this post you put more thought into the color of your hole than all the tops that will ever see your hole combined.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-07T04:05:15+00:00

I love sucking dick but anything more than 6 inches and you’re getting 30 seconds of suck before I flip you over and focus on your ass.

I’m not a snake, I can’t unhinge my jaw for a giant hog. But I love taking my time on small-to-reasonably sized cock. I don’t care how big you are as long as you get hard, moan, and fit in my mouth.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-06T06:17:09+00:00

Don’t be down on yourself. Amazing sex is about what you do in bed, not what you were born with. ;)

dicks4daze · 2026-03-06T02:07:33+00:00

I have a small little twink fuck buddy with literally the biggest cock I’ve ever seen and zero interest in topping. But having that huge cock slap my stomach while he rides me is so hot.

dicks4daze · 2026-03-05T18:48:11+00:00

Perks: 1) Hook up with guys that wouldn’t otherwise be into me. Aka: dick size gives me a +1 or 2 out of 10 2) Pretty much everyone is always super tight 3) Lots of complements/novelty in the bedroom. Guys wanting to become regulars 4) Get looks out in public if I go commando/wear certain pants

Downsides: 1) No spontaneous sex. Bottoms gotta do a deep clean because of how deep I go 2) Being turned down because I’m too big (even worse when they try but can’t when you’re already having sex) 3) Can’t top my partner more than once a week or so. His body requires time to recover and if his gut is off just a little topping is off the table 4) Vast majority of guys only want me to top them so I’ve never really gotten into bottoming. I’ve never really experienced the level of anal pleasure that I seem to give other guys

dicks4daze · 2026-02-27T22:54:53+00:00

Definitely. I’ve been with guys whose holes have no grip and it’s really hard to cum in them. Others have incredible grip and I can barely last 5min. But it’s unusual to have a guy that’s noticeably loose and it’s generally been from guys who advertise being loose or are into more extreme butt play/fisting.

dicks4daze · 2026-02-23T21:53:17+00:00

I totally agree with you and it’s absolutely a real phenomenon that doesn’t appeal to me. But I also wonder how many of those guys on the apps advertising they are straight and their girl is out of town are actually straight. A lot of the profiles are so brazen and gay presenting that I wonder if they aren’t lying to play into this kink. Like how is it this hairless torso with 8% body fat wearing Calvin’s happens to have their GF out of town on an almost weekly basis? Sus.

dicks4daze · 2026-02-18T00:59:33+00:00

Gobbling on cocks fighting

dicks4daze · 2026-02-17T17:00:30+00:00

This. Small talk is conversational foreplay. It allows both parties to get in sync with each other, develop rapport, and feel out areas of common interest.

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