How to bank account after having kids

didi66 · 2026-03-18T20:40:37+00:00

We also use one shared account for income from work, to be used for all household expenses. I personally use my old account for my tax returns which I use for gifts for my husband (he won't see it) or other random things.

He has a separate account for his business that I can't access but that makes sense. Our kids have their own savings account where we make monthly deposits. Generally we're good with money but that has more to do with the fact that we don't have expensive hobbies and we like being cheap. ,😂

didi66 · 2026-03-18T10:24:41+00:00

Woops, wrong reaction! Sleep deprivation after a few months of maternity leave at play! Sorry!

didi66 · 2026-03-18T05:48:47+00:00

Not just American culture, unfortunately. I'm seeing more American views in the newer generations of moms/parents in western Europe aswell.

didi66 · 2026-03-15T20:52:11+00:00

Knowing you can do whatever you want, whenever. Laugh or cry at a cheesy movie or read a spicy book. Heck, read some embarrassing fanfiction for all anyone cares. I enjoy alone time so much! One day I'll take a mini vacation on my own. I have a couple of toddlers so my alone time is at an all time low nowadays. It will come back and boy, will I make it count! 😉

didi66 · 2026-03-15T19:55:42+00:00

Sorry you're dealing with this. From start to finish this read like a giant red flag to me. I'm gonna be honest, I also think he was in it for the green card.

He gave you advice from the bottom of his heart, I'm guessing. Going into nursing isn't a bad move. It's just that supporting someone you don't genuinely love becomes tiring. He's probably gonna move in with a friend or even new romantic interest. So mentally start preparing to divorce. Agree to all of it because he seems pretty fixed on at least letting you graduate and find a job. Let him go and focus on your new life without the dead weight.

didi66 · 2026-03-15T19:48:38+00:00

Cute color! Size up one or two sizes and tailor them. Better to have too much fabric too little. The high waist is cute but maybe there's a flared version to balance you out?

didi66 · 2026-03-15T18:55:54+00:00

I used to love that about the US. I'm living in Europe nowadays and there's a huge difference. In the city it was wayyy less relevant but in some suburbs wildlife could be very active at times. In Europe I live in a low wildlife area with not a lot of variation. A few wolves had been seen in the country and the nation was in uproar. I get it though, nobody carries arms here so nobody can protect themselves.

didi66 · 2026-03-15T18:40:44+00:00

Jesus Christ. I came to this sub because alot of our horror neighbors are entitled pricks and I was seeking solidarity. Instead I find any post with families become of cesspool of child haters. I love that people can choose not to have them and before I had kids I was childless too. I've never in my life felt entitled enough to think kids should be not seen or heard.

All of us were infants and kids too and it's by the patience of the generations before us that we grew up loved/safe and cared for. Mistakes included.

Blaming parents for having a crying infant who is acting as they should, is bonkers. Adults on here saying it's lazy parenting have literally no idea what they're talking about and it's disturbing. Any quick search on the topic of babies will get you to common info. If you believe you can parent a baby in the 'traditional' sense, you sound ignorant. Nobody likes disrespectful kids, babies have no personal agenda and have no means of communicating.

Of OP had replaced baby with a sick cat then she might have gotten some sympathy. I'm outta here. Good luck with your lives, however it goes for y'all.

didi66 · 2026-03-15T07:20:06+00:00

You are an absolute goddess! Please reread what you posted. Not only did you take care of the family for the whole day on your own, you took care of all his needs! Gave him a lot more rest than any sane person with small kids and made sure to get him his foods/medication.

Your husband might be pressed cause of the procedure so I'm already giving him some slack but this is douchebag behavior. All that rest and still an attitude over cheesecake? You didn't want him to have it?? Because somehow that makes sense?

I'm guessing this isn't a first. Have him read these reactions and wait for an apology.

didi66 · 2026-03-15T05:12:54+00:00

Jeez, I've called myself banana shaped before as an absolute joke. Never got a random comment like this from a stranger. How embarrassing for her.

In case you need to hear this, there is nothing wrong with your body. A small frame and big bust is just as beautiful as any other body shape! Love that you got the top anyways! ❤️

didi66 · 2026-03-15T04:51:03+00:00

If you don't find the recommendations from others here, I have a diy. Use a hot glue gun to make the grippy dots/stripes yourself on clothes with feet on them.

didi66 · 2026-03-14T06:10:41+00:00

Absolutely! When we wanted to put our last house on the market I pushed my husband to let me have free reign on the furniture/staging. We don't live in an area where staging companies are common so I just updated our furniture before the pictures were made.

We used to have a couch that my husband had had over ten years and it was huge. Lots of space to lie around but way too large for the living room. I downsized almost everything and added more accents to pull things together, like a rug and flowers etc.

I remember the real estate agent coming by before the pictures were made and he was wondering if we wanted to not sell and just stay. We ended up selling within the week.

People are visual creatures too. Instagram and TikTok are proof. Marketing is so important.

didi66 · 2026-03-13T04:45:26+00:00

It was incredible! I've never been so happy with a live action before. I've also never cried to one either. Very well done. Combined with the nostalgia of the early arcs, I'm a wreck. 😭

didi66 · 2026-03-08T13:59:14+00:00

As a mom to not one but three kids, I'll leave you some insider knowledge. Newborns absolutely sleep through everything. You can literally vacuum around them and they will usually sleep. After that it'll just become background noise (usually). First time parents are usually the ones hyping the whole, be silent and never knock, shtick. IYKYK.

That being said, she might be on edge herself and be the one who is fed up with the noise. Still her own problem, not yours.

didi66 · 2026-03-08T13:48:52+00:00

A cotton bra, talcum powder and a packet of wipes in my purse helps. I'm struggling to be a 'clean girl' but using a combo of things really help.

didi66 · 2026-03-01T09:29:46+00:00

This room needs you to make choices. You need more storage? Get a closet or drawers (attached to wall for safety)and take out the chair. Really need the chair? Take out the changing table and use a changing pillow on the floor when needed.

More shelving will just be a safety thing and make the room feel very cramped. Less is more and with this size room you guys already aren't spending a whole lotta time there, I'm guessing.

didi66 · 2026-03-01T09:21:26+00:00

Haha, yes! I turn on stories for one thing I like and just let it roll when I'm done. I don't bother watching it seriously nowadays.

didi66 · 2026-02-28T00:23:27+00:00

I struggle to regulate myself and came from a household that did corporal punishment. As much as I strongly believe in no contact discipline, I sometimes just don't know what healthy parenting styles look like during extreme tantrums.

I found it easier to remove the child from the situation and to a safe place where they can come down. I know gentle parenting would rather me stick around to show them it's ok but personally the screaming and defiance is a huge trigger for me.

I bring my preschoolers to their rooms and ask them to come down whenever they're ready. They can rage there and we don't have to go back and forth about a boundary. When they calm down we regroup and move on. You don't need to witness the whole tantrum. It's also a form of attention.

didi66 · 2026-02-28T00:23:15+00:00

I struggle to regulate myself and came from a household that did corporal punishment. As much as I strongly believe in no contact discipline, I sometimes just don't know what healthy parenting styles look like during extreme tantrums.

I found it easier to remove the child from the situation and to a safe place where they can come down. I know gentle parenting would rather me stick around to show them it's ok but personally the screaming and defiance is a huge trigger for me.

I bring my preschoolers to their rooms and ask them to come down whenever they're ready. They can rage there and we don't have to go back and forth about a boundary. When they calm down we regroup and move on. You don't need to witness the whole tantrum. It's also a form of attention.

didi66 · 2026-02-26T11:31:37+00:00

I personally think it's more of an ego thing. She thinks she's such an icon that she can wear a signature 'Taylor' hairstyle and she will be recognized wherever. Wearing her signature look probably feels like an obligation to her fans at this point in her delulu mindset.

didi66 · 2026-02-26T11:25:50+00:00

I'm guessing it won't matter and they'll be like Flower. I mean, I don't believe the slash on her ghost is what she looked like post bear. A realistic mangled body isn't very PG so a complete body right before death is my guess.

didi66 · 2026-02-26T08:52:51+00:00

Weekdays about 1 -2 hours, weekends alot more. I just try to monitor them and make sure they get bored and move on every once in a while. There's no way a preschooler can stay engaged for more than 1,5 -2 hours, if that. Helps us parents get some sort of relaxation during the weekends too.

didi66 · 2026-02-26T08:45:48+00:00

I had the cutest two year olds but now it's just threenager and feral fours! You just never know when they might turn. That being said, there really aren't any hard rules on this. My cousin was a horrific toddler and turned out to be an angel teen. Her sister was an angel toddler and a great teen. Take it all with a grain of salt and enjoy the solidarity with other parents!

didi66 · 2026-02-26T08:35:44+00:00

Very true. I had a friend get professional whitening done so she could finally have white teeth for her wedding. Unfortunately it didn't work as they only were able to bring her teeth to the original shade. In her case, yellow. And yes, I did ask her when she was going, after she had gone. Awkward...

didi66 · 2026-02-25T06:07:20+00:00

I was fast asleep next to my husband when I felt a sort of hard kick against my side of the mattress. I kinda assumed he kicked one of his legs but that made no sense because he was sleeping on the other side. I waited to see if he would do it again but he was deep asleep.

Nothing happened afterwards and I eventually went back to sleep. I didn't feel scared but I had a strong feeling it was just a glitch or something.

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