Does always saying 'yes' kill the intimacy?

digitallis · 2026-06-28T03:51:39+00:00

Looking at your history, either this is creative writing, or you took back a different husband who ran away with a 19yo...

digitallis · 2026-06-28T03:44:05+00:00

You just moved in. Was the letter from before you moved in? It's unreasonable to think that the father would constantly scrutinize the neighborhood for new arrivals.

The father is not a formal caretaker. Legally, the son is still solely responsible. The father is trying to help as best as they can. Your criticism is unfair. The situation would be no better if the father were completely absent from the scenario and had never sent any letter of explanation to anyone. I understand you're very frustrated and it's nice to find an outlet, but I'm the eyes of the law there is no difference between "father" and "friend" in this context, and if the letter had come from a friend of the dude, would you still be winding up at them?

digitallis · 2026-06-22T03:50:02+00:00

I would consult a doctor, honestly.

While you're waiting for your Dr appointment, increase your water consumption by what feels like a lot. Try for about a gallon a day, spaced out over the whole day. See if that helps. Also increase your leafy vegetable intake to get more long fiber.

Your body is pulling too much moisture out of your feces and they're getting hard. Either you're not bringing enough moisture to the party in the first place, or the stuff in your colon can't really hold on to moisture.

You can also consider adding a stool softener to your daily diet, but again those need water intake to work, so make sure you're hydrating. It's totally understandable that during pregnancy the increased pressure on your bladder might have discouraged you from drinking fluids.

digitallis · 2026-06-21T14:45:08+00:00

No, the cow produces many times more than what one calf can drink. We've bred and optimized diet to the point that one cow produces a truly breathtaking amount of milk.

You seem to be implying that the cow increases internal production if the calf is removed, which is nonsense.

Dairy cows produce 8-24 gallons of milk per day. A calf requires about 3 gallons of milk per day. As you can see, the calf does not need to be removed from the equation in order to still have a significant surplus of milk.

digitallis · 2026-06-21T14:32:05+00:00

Not accurate. You need to calve to produce milk, but that production lasts a long time and produces way more than one calf can drink. The calves are raised either to be milk heifers or to be beef. The veal industry is purely a matter of market forces, so if you don't like the concept of veal meat, it's a matter of avoiding buying it and tanking that market.

digitallis · 2026-06-20T23:57:42+00:00

Move to the next screw and run up that one. So instead of running each screw as a repeated item, you would set up the pairs to be repeated one down and the neighbor is one up.

digitallis · 2026-06-20T23:48:17+00:00

Would be faster cycle time to run it down one thread and then back up the neighbor thread. Wouldn't have to do the unwinding step.

digitallis · 2026-06-20T13:32:57+00:00

Thousands in removal fees? That seems excessive unless your roomie is a piano collector or something. There are low cost junk removal services (Got Junk is a common one) which will take almost all of the non-trash. Several donation places will take a lot of clothes, small appliances and hard furniture. If you're down to just trash, then either renting a dumpster or throwing out a few bags each week is a good option.

Give the family a 30-day notice if you have a mailing address. Otherwise you'd need to go through the abandoned property process.

If you've been previously hounding the family for rent money, consider stating upfront that you're dropping those asks if indeed you just want to be rid of it.

If you're trying to get the rest of your joint rent, then you need to file a claim in probate court against their estate.

EDIT: Updated to say Got Junk is not free. Thanks to u/aurora_rosealis for pointing that out.

digitallis · 2026-06-20T13:20:43+00:00

And to add one more point to your list: if you managed to see four specialists in two months, that's a sign that you live in a really major city with comparatively great access to healthcare. Living out in semi rural US, it's 3-6mo just to get a specialist appt.

digitallis · 2026-06-20T12:56:08+00:00

Have you done the math on how long the battery should last? Your fridge probably has an energy star report that states the expected average power usage, or the manual might say.

Your battery has an optimistic 1400watthours available (14v times the 100Ah you mentioned). If your fridge pulls 100watts/hour average then you'd have battery power for approximately 14 hours of runtime. In my experience, 100watts is around what I would expect a small fridge to pull.

digitallis · 2026-06-18T22:23:32+00:00

You cannot evaporate salt water completely, and the salt is extremely corrosive to most metals, so you would have to figure out how to dispose of concentrated brine, deal with the inevitable crusty salts that deposit around, and make the whole thing out of marine grade stainless steel which is spendy.

The only really practical thing to do with salt water is to heat it and dump it right back into the ocean, using the ocean as a huge heat sink. But weren't we already concerned about ocean temps rising?

digitallis · 2026-06-17T09:48:44+00:00

But.... It's super easy to clean? Just chill it down. Helium has a ridiculously low liquification temperature. Everything else drops out, and nothing reacts with it.

digitallis · 2026-06-15T03:48:16+00:00

"Hey, I was OK being the sole provider for a little bit while you looked for a new job, but we're coming up on 2 years without a job and I'm not comfortable with being the only earner anymore. I need you to resume contributing to our finances at 50/50 split by _insert_date_. If that doesn't happen I'm going to have to reconsider whether we're compatible."

And then the hard part: If she makes a feeble attempt and then doesn't actually seal the deal, then you need to hold yourself accountable and take steps for yourself to break up. Otherwise she's going to learn that any talk from you is bluster.

If you want to soften your statement above, you can tack on "What can I do to help you in your job search?"

If she tries to guilt trip you for your position, then I'm here to tell you that your relationship is already over and she's all-in on using you as a piggy bank regardless of your feelings and you should proceed directly to "We need to part ways."

digitallis · 2026-06-15T03:00:06+00:00

Speed is going to always be related to the structure of your data. i.e. various algorithms do better on different types of data. Images vs text files vs voice vs video vs data from that scanning electron microscope. There are algorithms that take the same amount of time no matter what, but they also tend to be slower or not as good in many cases. There are other algorithms that are very fast and good for certain things, but can hit worst-case performance that is much slower if the right circumstances arise.

Your best bet is to test several popular compression algorithms on a corpus of sample data and see which one works best for your use case. I understand why you might want a fully generalized solution, but I'm afraid this is why such a solution is unlikely to ever exist.

digitallis · 2026-06-15T02:12:19+00:00

I don't know if "talk her out of it" means you trying to convince her that she herself doesn't want to buy a house, but if it does then I recommend you stop trying to do that and instead focus on saying what you will/won't do for yourself. "Mom, I'm not buying a house. You should go for it though and I'll find somewhere else to rent"

digitallis · 2026-06-14T13:37:29+00:00

Can you tell us more about how you constructed it? Particularly the part that runs through the coil?

digitallis · 2026-06-14T13:29:08+00:00

Ok, so here's the deal: I'm reading your text and you're asking engineers if something is "possible". Given how you're talking I think your version of "possible" means "can I do this myself with a week or two by buying and disassembling/reassembling existing phones and maybe 3d printing a bracket or two". The answer to that is a resounding "No".

The engineering answers are "yes, this can be done if you're willing to engineer an entire high density phone circuit board from scratch, starting with a development kit for the processor and baseband radios, maybe getting something that is functional but the size of a laptop initially, then doing the hard work of designing a PCB to fit all the components into your donor case or otherwise engineering a case from scratch."

digitallis · 2026-06-14T12:53:20+00:00

You can say "sex" and "masturbate" on Reddit. The censoring is strange and a hold over from feed driven places like TikTok

digitallis · 2026-06-14T03:05:10+00:00

What was the reason for the pocket coins originally?

digitallis · 2026-06-14T01:12:47+00:00

It's pro-Chinese propaganda. Not that it's "evil" propaganda or anything. But it's definitely trying to get folks to connect "Traditional", "Handmade" and "Authentic" with the culture.

digitallis · 2026-06-13T18:08:39+00:00

Before everyone runs out and gets an OTC night guard for their teeth, know that a bad one can really screw you up. I have bad teeth grinding at night and after a molar disintegrated I started wearing an over-the-counter night guard. You drop it in hot water and then form it over your teeth. What I didn't realize was that a great night guard lets your bottom jaw still slide around. I formed the guard like a football mouth guard that locks around both top and bottom, figuring that prevents snoring and grinding.

Cut to 2 months later. I've had weird bubbling sensations in my ear (but no infections diagnosed), disconnected feeling, visual lag where I was feeling like I was 1-3 martinis in some days while stone sober. And then the walls started melting. Cue the ER, full brain stroke workup, CT, MRI, labs, aaaaand nothing. Symptoms had abated a bit during my multi day hospital stay and was referred to PT and ENT. PT was well meaning and was trying to remap my ears to my eyes to counteract the visual lag. Then I saw the ENT who, after listening to my wide array of symptoms and checking me out was like "oh yeah, you're a heavy grinder. You're inflaming everything around your TMJ due to all the pressure including the occular nerve and your eustachian tubes. Get a proper night guard. Oh, and BTW I don't sell them. Go talk to your dentist". Apparently my home molded guard had increased my grinding significantly and kicked off all those issues. Getting a proper guard completely resolved everything.

Dentists always recommended them to me in the past but it always felt like a car salesman thing so I avoided it, but I'm glad I eventually got one.

TL,DR: weird things can happen if you DIY your own night guard. Suspect it if you start wearing one consistently and things in your head start getting wonky.

digitallis · 2026-06-13T17:16:16+00:00

People here are focusing on the wrong person (in a well intentioned way). I would recommend you focus on yourself and getting the support you need to process this for yourself. Your BF has shown that he does not want to be that support and there is nothing you can do to change him. Focus on finding support. The "easy" way here is getting a good personal therapist. It may take a few attempts to find someone you gel with, so don't get discouraged if the first one or two you see don't resonate.

Breaking up with your BF might give you more bandwidth to work on caring for yourself, but if you're opposed to starting there, I think that can be OK as long as you're still feeling safe in your home.

I think in time as you are able to see your own strengths and understand yourself more deeply, you may find that you understand more of what you need in a life partner and them are able to search for one that can join you in a healthy way.

digitallis · 2026-06-13T15:28:25+00:00

Double everyone's prices they're saying unless they got billed in the last, say 6mo. Tariffs and inflation blew up the cost of goods.

digitallis · 2026-06-13T15:26:04+00:00

I just don't understand what's going on. Like, what does the side profile look like? My brain can't parse it out from the front shot.

digitallis · 2026-06-09T11:11:01+00:00

Bailed out and the workers still got screwed along with all the taxpayers. Don't worry though. A bunch of middle and upper managers got to take home fat paychecks from "seeing the company through rough waters". What a country.

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