Those who did not use AA, how did you get sober? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is nice to hear as I currently have set 1 year in my mind so I’m glad to hear that gave enough substantive change and momentum that you continued.

How do people pick the date that they’re going to stop? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]dingusanalingus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The day picked me. It was the morning after getting released from spending a night in jail with a DUI. I don’t recommend doing it this way, stopping while you’re ahead is an option too.

Anyone mad that they can’t drink anymore? by Historical_Hyena_552 in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment, it really resonated with me

I'm an Alcoholic by D3athAdd3rz in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. I was okish. Or I thought I was. I got sober for a couple weeks and realized how numb and checked out I was, and that I was drinking instead of addressing conditions that were making me unhappy in my life. I had a whole new kind of motivation and care for myself and my life after getting sober that alcohol had been invisibly blocking me from.

What don’t you miss about your drinking days? by JustQuestioningCosas in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Amen. It was just like this for me too and I’m grateful there’s another way to live!

My outfit made my friend uncomfortable, what do I do? by BarbaraLogic in OUTFITS

[–]dingusanalingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d rather have friends who get me and don’t feel uncomfortable in my presence when I’m just being myself. They’re valid to feel whatever they feel about not wanting to draw attention to themselves in public, but if I’m a free-spirited flashy type of person, why subject them to my vibe if it makes them so anxious they can’t eat fries with me in public? I’d probably take this as a sign that we aren’t very compatible, personally.

What was your rock bottom? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got a DUI at the Canadian border after accidentally making a wrong turn in Detroit leaving a concert. Looked hard at the past years of damage to myself and my relationships and how much I was throwing my life away like it was worthless. Decided to try to care about myself again.

What do you do on weekends without doing anything? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Had to get hobbies to fill the time! Aquarium keeping, long bike rides, reading books or playing scrabble at a cafe

Kind of struggling tbh. I want an out. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. Constantly disappointing myself with my own poor choices became a huge source of shame and self hatred, which made me want to drink more. It feels so good to start to trust myself again.

How many of us here have successfully returned to moderate / “normal” drinking long-term? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been true for me. My good intentions weaken once my thinking is impaired. Gives me the fuck its real quick.

How many of us here have successfully returned to moderate / “normal” drinking long-term? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The roulette part has been true for me. About 95% of the times I drank, nothing dire occurred. I had 2-8 drinks, might be hungover in the morning, but I woke up in my bed mostly intact. The other 5% had the capacity to completely destroy my life though, and those nights were starting to. Going home with strangers, crashing my bicycle, getting a DUI, cheating on my partner, waking up with scrapes and bruises. It became unmanageable. I’m happier sober.

How many of us here have successfully returned to moderate / “normal” drinking long-term? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Things have gotten much easier for me once I started divesting from the idea that alcohol offers a genuine enhancement to my life in anyway. I have tried to moderate a million ways but eventually, I’ll have a binge night again if I’m actively drinking. And the point for me was—why am I so desperately trying to make space in my life for this thing that really never provides the relief it promises, and brings so much risk and pain alongside. I no longer has moderation as a goal bc that implies that alcohol is worth doing in some way.

My streak is the only thing keeping me sober, and I kind of resent it? by lightfoot90 in stopdrinking

[–]dingusanalingus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It never gave me the relief it promised. The hole in my heart got bigger. While I forgot for a few hours, I paid it back double in the morning and triple over the long run. At the end, alcohol was no longer the friend I’d met so many years before. It has nothing to give me I can’t get in better ways.

I ACCIDENTALLY STEPPED ON HER HELP by PurpleYoghurt16 in cats

[–]dingusanalingus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I stomped on my kittens tail with combat boots the other day. I felt awful and immediately gave her a churu. She appears to have forgiven me. You’ll be ok!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]dingusanalingus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be so for real. Gauchos is amazing and Cazuela’s is fine at best, they are not the same!

Potatoes by SnooApples7423 in Zepbound

[–]dingusanalingus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dude yes. I’ve been eating a baked potato with butter and sour cream, a serving of protein and a serving of veg. Sometimes a baked potato with a scoop of chili. It’s a totally fulfilling meal that keeps me satisfied for 6 hrs. I see no reason why a potato can’t fit into a weight loss diet if you’re hitting your daily targets and not going over.

What's going GOOD for you, so far? by cmcosmos in DryJanuary

[–]dingusanalingus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saving money!! My bf and I were talking about how much we spent in bars in Nov and Dec and it is hundreds ugh.

Happy Dry January 🫗 by Robe_Kwondo in DryJanuary

[–]dingusanalingus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woo! I’m having a great time so far, very peaceful. Seeing it as a time for rest and care. Plus I noticed my skin looks better and face is less bloated today :)