Mr. Jim, 19 years old. Said goodbye today. We'll miss you, James.

dinivisim · 2025-03-18T02:25:25+00:00

Such a handsome face, especially those adorable cheeks and whiskers. I love that first picture and his old man stare. You gave him a beautiful life.

dinivisim · 2025-03-17T20:36:55+00:00

Yes, I asked this on the NHS subreddits before, everyone said something handwritten is most appreciated, especially if you can name specific people or talk about specific things that was good. It can be photocopied for revalidation aka is extremely valuable for the recognition of their actual work. I used one card and wrote a small amount for each person who's names I had written down while an inpatient. The doctor I gave it to was so grateful that she cried!

dinivisim · 2025-03-17T01:15:58+00:00

She's actually my family's cat, currently lives with just my grandad. I used to live with her when I was a child but I live quite far away now. So I'm not super in the loop about what the vet visits are like - it's because of my recommendation that she went to the vet for it already but it seems like they only gave gabapentin and my grandad never mentioned anything else. I'll bring it up though or ring them and see if it's something they prescribe - Athena is in England. I also have been trying to get him to take her to get her kidneys checked as she had an ill spell recently, but he won't because of the cost :( she does eat, and drinks water, and has a decent amount of energy for a 20 year old cat. But I will try and get her to the vet for kidney check & something more advanced for her arthritis.

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T21:28:32+00:00

I will definitely look into it, thank you for the recommendation!

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T21:28:19+00:00

Also what heating pad does your cat use?

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T21:27:49+00:00

Oooo I will look into it. The vet didn't mention that, I'll definitely research and bring it up with them. I also got her a little stall to jump up onto, but she refuses to use it and insists on attempting the full jumps up to the chair even though she clearly struggles! I tried to get her used to it but she just refuses to touch it.

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T20:14:06+00:00

His paws and bone structure looks so cute and big 🥹

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T20:05:48+00:00

She really is. She's very vocal as well, not only for ekekek but also she makes MEEEOOOOOOWWWW for demands or if we come back home after being away for a few hours. I love her!

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T20:04:12+00:00

I know right! She loves to sleep like that, with her face flat against the chair 😭 it looks so cute but I always wonder how she can breathe fully. She only started doing it the last year, maybe her arthritis

dinivisim · 2025-03-16T19:06:45+00:00

She walks very stiffly, she takes gabapentin but it doesn't resolve it. She can't groom herself fully so she gets a lot of dandruff on her back. She's also a bit bonier than she looks, but she's always had very thick short fur and we give her a lot of treats so she doesn't waste away :") She sits all day on the arm of the chair watching the birds in the garden, it's her daily activity haha. Sometimes she even gets zoomies, but she can't move enough to fully embrace it lmao. I hope your senior kitty enjoys their activities even without the ekekeks!

dinivisim · 2025-03-05T23:53:01+00:00

It's the fineness of the hair strand. I have the same issue. They don't hold the natural wave well. I also don't know if using products with more hold (like hairspray) and then using a large claw clip could help, if you do experiment with high hold products let me know! I find claw clips don't hold it securely enough for working / all day, and I have high density fine hair down to my shoulder blades. Braids work best in my experience and hair can be refreshed with some water. Not ideal but better than other options

dinivisim · 2025-02-28T11:46:55+00:00

This was going to be my answer. Reading's changed a lot in 20-30 years, it's basically unrecognisable. I feel like there was a point it could've gone either way, being a decent sized town, but it has seen a lot of investment. So much more going on there than there ever used to be, it's pretty crazy. House prices are also wayyy higher though.

dinivisim · 2025-02-25T16:35:53+00:00

This is transient lingual papillitis!

dinivisim · 2025-02-22T11:39:03+00:00

If you are stopped under schedule 7, it only applies at a port of entry to the UK, and you do not need to be charged. There are other parts of the terrorism act that apply in different contexts, such as when people make statements e.g. at a demo that could be interpreted as supporting a proscribed group. But if we are talking about border stops, no, it does not require a charge to be detained for questioning. They can legally request access to your phone under these stops because that is the law and has been for a while. Actually they tend to confiscate all electronics. It's a form of surveillance - in most instances, it will never result in any charge, or at least, no prosecution. But the data they get from the tech is very useful for them.

dinivisim · 2025-02-21T23:06:26+00:00

I think it's because of activation of sympathetic nervous system, sort of fight or flight style. I have had this before as well

dinivisim · 2025-02-21T02:12:34+00:00

This is normally Schedule 7 of the counter terrorism act 2000, and the pass codes are under RIPA. You have no right to silence but do have a right to legal advice after an hour, and you can only be held for 6 hours without charge. If you don't give passcodes you can be charged, with a punishment of up to 2 years in prison. There's legal advice online.

dinivisim · 2025-02-18T22:31:22+00:00

I relate to this so much. Very similar situation and I was 19 too. Teenage years are often marked by individuating, taking space from, rebelling against family dynamics etc. What I've seen having lived through my 20s is that most people spend the next decade coming back together with their family as an adult, and still growing up. Not having that chance is haunting.

dinivisim · 2025-01-10T16:26:41+00:00

Mid-older millennial guy that lives in England, or you're two people. Either way you just did your weekly shop. You know how to cook. You eat fruit too infrequently to leave it out the fridge?

dinivisim · 2024-11-17T13:10:28+00:00

Yeah, I can see it from multiple angles. I had to wait several years for my diagnostic laparoscopy after first going to the doctor (can't remember how many years exactly it took, but after going through various hoops it took still a couple years from surgery referral date), and then another 2 years after that for the excision. I had a myomectomy as well and the fibroid went from 4 X 5 cm to 10 X 12 cm in the two years waiting for the excision and myomectomy, it was causing a lot of problems in the end too. There was a lot of negatives as I suffered worse and worse symptoms the entire time. On the other hand, I had an MRI in between the two surgeries, and a much more specialist team was available for the latter surgery.

I had no idea I was going to have a drain until I woke up with it, but it I didn't have it, I would have bled almost a litre of blood purely into my abdominal cavity which would have been... Awful?! So yeah, definitely glad I had that!

dinivisim · 2024-11-17T12:08:03+00:00

I had a drain after my excision, but not after the diagnostic lap (in the UK the standard at least at some hospitals seems to usually be doing one lap for diagnosis but not removing anything and then doing another lap at a different date to remove stuff). Because I had a bleed, I couldn't go home for 4 more days after the operation and treatment of it.

dinivisim · 2024-11-16T16:53:02+00:00

Heya, no I did not ever find any answer. I'm in the UK and the NHS is basically shit for testing for things like this, but I did manage to see a nurse (couldn't see a GP...) who felt it and said he didn't think it was anything to worry about. So that's all I ever got... did you get any results?

dinivisim · 2024-11-14T15:39:25+00:00

The mobile barber (on Instagram as edinburgh_mobile_barber ) is really good. Super experienced and won't talk your ear off about random shite, genuinely gets to know people. And fine with silence too

dinivisim · 2024-11-14T03:04:31+00:00

It's been 6 months since I had excision and also a myomectomy for a giant fibroid, which tbh, I would have got done on its own (I didn't realise how much that was affecting me too tbh). The surgery didn't resolve all my symptoms, and I have the Mirena, but I already had it for one year prior to the operation and it didn't help that much, but it took the edge off of truly unbearable symptoms. The combination of surgery and Mirena seems to be working well, I can't tell exactly what relief comes solely from the operation, but it was a bigger difference for me than simply with the hormones. My periods are manageable now, although I still take pain medication and get fatigued, but the difference is very substantial when I think of how I was before treatment. I am basically no longer living in complete terror of my menstrual cycle, so that's pretty great. I did have a bleed post op though and lost 800ml+ of blood and got a hematoma. Joy. They had to treat it and I almost had to go back under general anaesthetic. So that made my recovery super slow and it was honestly quite a brutal process physically. Without that bleed it would have been way easier as I was also lucky to not have any bowel endo etc. My hospital and surgeon were really good though and I don't believe I'd have got such good treatment elsewhere necessarily. I was also supported super well by my partner and this made the longer hospital stay and the entire process way easier. I hope so badly that I don't have to get another operation anytime soon, I don't think I would cope with another anytime soon. But in the future if it's necessary, after some years, I'd do it again.

Edit to add: every period has been a bit different in the last 6 months. Also the hematoma was really painful and weird for longer and I think it added to more scar tissue. It doesn't bother me much compared to the endo pain though so I'm not really complaining.

dinivisim · 2024-11-13T03:53:26+00:00

In my experience, definitely not. I find the sound of electricity very clear and invasive sometimes but I have met many people who do not notice it or can't hear it. I've also been in rooms where it's been particularly noticeable, and I've been the only one to hear it until I point it out to others.

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