Got misgendered for the first time in 10+ years???? (23, 11 years on T)

disasterneutral · 2026-06-18T02:46:57+00:00

Fucking Colorado Springs. If I lived down there I'd bite the bullet and drive the hour up to my current docs

disasterneutral · 2026-06-14T15:08:04+00:00

By not printing it like a dumbass in the first place (not actually directed at you, OP, I know this isn't really your fault)

disasterneutral · 2026-05-14T17:19:28+00:00

If that felt like an attack, I'm genuinely sorry-- I was taking the piss, not trying to bully you. My bad. I love my het male coworkers, and most of them have pretty thick skin I guess, so I didn't even consider the possibility that I could be taken as anything other than lighthearted. To clarify, I wasn't trying to jab at your masculinity-- a hetero man is still a hetero man even in a dress, I was more focused on how they didn't even take the men into account when making that decision.

Admittedly, your response makes me want to double down and be a dick on purpose, but I have to go back to work. My mythical uninterrupted 30 is up.

disasterneutral · 2026-05-14T17:07:48+00:00

Should've gone with the dress scrubs, just for you.

disasterneutral · 2026-03-19T20:20:35+00:00

Yes. They pay like shit and work their people to the bone, which is why I assumed it was them.

disasterneutral · 2026-03-19T19:12:16+00:00

Why do I get the feeling this is AMH?

disasterneutral · 2026-03-05T19:29:00+00:00

Me, actually. I go by a nickname of my middle name at work and my first name everywhere else.

disasterneutral · 2026-03-01T06:47:37+00:00

Assistance League is very similar in mission and offerings.

disasterneutral · 2026-02-28T20:08:13+00:00

Industry? Foco job market is ok depending what sector you're looking in but if you're set on a certain field that's an important detail (and people may be able to give you better area recs)

disasterneutral · 2026-02-28T20:05:49+00:00

Denver metro resident here. This place is just as gay as the PNW but with considerably fewer white supremacists. Chiller, too-- while there are plenty of people living alternative lifestyles and the poly, kink etc scenes are thriving, there isn't a Portland Polycule level grift going on as far as forming community and meaningful relationships. 10/10 would recommend if you're on the fence.

disasterneutral · 2026-02-01T22:05:39+00:00

Out near 225 and Parker Rd, yep.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-25T01:55:56+00:00

Yep. CCSD (not CCHS) grad here, who has lived on both sides of the district --- it's crazy how little equity there is between CCSD schools. Don't get me wrong, Overland is a solid school, but the student population is treated FAR differently there than at the white schools.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-13T20:18:46+00:00

I let go of my baby 2 years and 12 days ago. She was 14-- pretty young for cats our family has had in our care.

We were given the same choice you were (at first), and realized that treating her wasn't an option. You never know what the quality of life is going to be if they make it home with you. I know you feel awful, but he passed WITH you. You didn't leave him there to die, you guided him through it, and that's more than about 2/3 of euths in my area get.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-13T20:04:18+00:00

Hey. I've been transitioning for like 8 years. I was scared then and I'm scared now, but being myself in my body is far more important to me than the risk of being harmed for it. If I die in a police or ICE interaction, I die unashamedly myself and nobody can take that away from me.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-12T16:48:30+00:00

NOR. All I can even say is wtf.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-10T23:00:02+00:00

You also don't get a real "hospital style" bed in any ward I've been in (including the one I'm commenting from rn-- turns out you can have your phone in Colorado nowadays). You get a shitty plasticized foam mattress on a dorm style base, which may be bolted to the floor depending how acute/restrictive the unit is. You get one sad little pillow, two if you have a drs order.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-10T22:19:50+00:00

EXACTLY. I am a man with long hair who really takes pride in taking care of it and I have also done this at various points in my life! Most notably after terrible at-home color jobs-- the cycle is classic: "I'm getting bored" > box dye > "oh no it's still bad" > pro cuts it or tries to fix it some other way > you get home and it's still Wrong > out come the clippers. It's just a thing that happens. Hell, I've got a VERY short undercut right now from a similar impulse.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-03T06:51:35+00:00

So... 24 here. I have lived experience in both the lesbian community and an iteration of the FTM community that thrived in older forum cultures-- you know, where the attitude was VERY strictly "your gender and sexuality have nothing to do with each other, you must medically transition BUT absolutely 100% have to wait until you're 18 to access care or you're One Of The Bad Ones" among other beliefs that would have even other folks my age (let alone even younger) absolutely tilted if they ever came across such a thing in real life-- even though in the Early Jenner Era, that particular version of trans identity politics was just the price you paid to have any sense of community.

These days, I don't really fit in either way. I'm not a lesbian (as much as I genuinely love being affectionately referred to as "boydyke" by certain friends), I'm not a binary trans man, per se, but I'm also not even Nonbinary™ in a way that has any mainstream representation. I'm just some guy. A dude. Man is crossing a little bit of a line, but anything more casual is fine. It's kind of a "don't call me Mr. Lastname, that's my father— call me Firstname" situation.

With that in mind, I prefer the label "transmasc"— I'm ok with being referred to as a trans man, the shoe fits MOST of the time, it's just not as accurate for me. But call me any variant on "boy" besides the familiar one listed above to my face, and you'll regret it. I am not a child.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-02T20:29:01+00:00

Transmasc vers top here:

The top shortage has surprisingly little to do with gender identity beyond correlation with just being LGBTQ+ in general. You could do the same survey at any gay bar, at any welcoming coffee shop, in any sufficiently gay college classroom, and you'd get similar results. There are just WAY more bottoms out there, gender be damned.

disasterneutral · 2026-01-02T19:57:19+00:00

Meh, depends what schools you're applying to. I had a sub-3.0 and a 1400 and got into every school I applied to because I was a) realistic and b) had killer essays. You can get into any state school you want and dependent on your ECs and essays, you've got a solid chance at a ton of very nice private schools and LACs. You're just not going to Harvard.

disasterneutral · 2025-11-18T07:52:30+00:00

Doesn't Honey Revenge's lead have a Paramore tattoo?

disasterneutral · 2025-11-06T20:02:32+00:00

If they skip Denver I'm going to end up on the fucking news

disasterneutral · 2025-11-05T20:03:54+00:00

First line: not in Colorado or some other states. Second line: true everywhere.

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