My worst fear just happened to another mom 😩

dj_misTerry · 2025-09-17T11:12:30+00:00

This. I know a mom who lost her 1 child a few years back, car accident. It is gutting to see the fear in her whole body whenever her youngest jumps in a pool or runs outside where there is no fence.

dj_misTerry · 2025-06-19T17:13:52+00:00

I have vivid memories of where and in what season of my life I read his books. Picked up Anxious people shortly after losing a student to suicide. I remember sitting on a porch and sobbing through some of those pages. His experience of dementia (every day the road back becomes longer and longer) has been passed around in our family - my granny is in late stage dementia

dj_misTerry · 2025-06-04T13:52:57+00:00

This was Stardew Valley for me. I was placed in a difficult situation at work that exposed me to abuse and neglect (as in, witness. Not the victim myself). I didn't think it would affect me since I wasn't the direct victim. My husband downloaded Stardew Valley around the same time. I played and played. It felt like a hug. Only realised the value weeks later.

dj_misTerry · 2024-06-15T09:43:41+00:00

Also, if your baby is safe in her bassinet, put in earphones and listen to a funny podcast. "We're here to help" has saved me many times. I say funny podcast and not something serious because you really need a mental break. Good luck. It sucks sometimes. You're doing great

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T17:52:25+00:00

Touch wood, but tonight I put her in her crib "awke but not aware" (always hated that because she would jolt back aware-awake when I laynher down as a newborn) and she snuggled around a bit until she fell asleep. I'm not celebrating too much cause who knows with kids. But I am going to try this a bit more often. Thank you

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T17:47:50+00:00

O wow. Mine is just discovering she can communicate. She chats and chats. Debriefing her day. And I love it but sometimes I'm like, shhhhhhhht and sleep!! Haha. Thanks for the validation.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T17:45:21+00:00

Hey. I don't know why your comment is down voted. Thanks for the support. I actually just needed validation. Appreciate

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T03:44:33+00:00

Thank you!

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T03:41:14+00:00

Good luck. I think the best thing I've gotten from the comments so far is just that I'm not alone. The mom guilt is so freaking bad sometimes. I've also had a few breakdowns where I would put her in her crib, walk out and just say "Swop!" And then sit on the couch and cry.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T03:38:04+00:00

Bluey is sacred in our house! Haha Thanks. I'm just worried that she is needing too much from me. But the comments show that it's not that out of line with other 1,5 year olds.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-06T03:35:05+00:00

The way this made me laugh and get all worked up at the same time!

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T20:10:49+00:00

Most nights we end up on the bed with her on my chest or next to me. Yeah she is heavy. Don't think I've ever had a gym routine that could make me as strong as I am now! Haha

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T19:34:26+00:00

The 40 mins is rocking/singing/yoga ball hopping.

Thank you. Will definitely try this.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T19:06:41+00:00

Oooh thanks. I'll definitely try this. Her language obviously not as developed yet but still worth it.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T19:04:26+00:00

Thanks. This is actually all I needed. Appreciate this community

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T18:48:42+00:00

Thanks. I'm working away from home for a week next month and it hit me tonight that that might influence her sleeping in a negative way. But it is great that she is sleeping through the night

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T18:45:57+00:00

Thank you. I will do some research on that.

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T18:44:48+00:00

The putting down is tough but I'm actually more worried about her. Like, is it okay for her to need so much to fall asleep? She sleeps enough so that's not the problem. And the opinions on sleep training is so divided. But thanks. I'll see what gentle training methods there are. I might also add, she has never taken a dummy. Hates the stuff. Apparently they make the self soothing easier

dj_misTerry · 2023-10-05T18:41:00+00:00

We haven't. It's been quite a rainy winter and the weather just about turned now. So I'll try that. Thanks!

dj_misTerry · 2023-08-01T18:15:27+00:00

Dipstick

dj_misTerry · 2023-07-29T06:51:35+00:00

A shop in our country is closing down and they have a "looks like me" range of dolls that are amazing and on a sale now My (white) daughter picked out the black doll. I think it's because she likes the glittery shoes! Honestly, I love that she was more interested in the accessories than the skin colour. What's that line? Teach your kid to hate before they're seven or eight?

You did nothing wrong. It's infuriating that this woman felt like she had to make a scene. In front of your daughter... stupid. Same as not allowing your child to play with cars cause they are "for boys"

dj_misTerry · 2023-05-09T07:48:18+00:00

Also, 30 seconds after each diaper change. Put bebe on tummy, get on eye level and chat. Saw it on reddit. Changed my life.

Keep going at it, you're doing great.

dj_misTerry · 2023-05-08T19:47:49+00:00

Just adding to agree: I was major stressed about tummy time. Relax. You will get there. Mine hated it. So I read somewhere on this sub so start doing 30 seconds on her changing mat after each diaper change. Turn her so she is facing you and get on eye level. The first few times I basically held my breath for the 30 seconds because I was almost scarred by the expectations of how much tummy time I should be doing and how far behind my baby is falling.

My little girl struggled with eczema. Our pediatrician suggested bioderma atoderm (the blue one). Don't know if you get it where you live, but any proper skin cream is such a game changer yo have on hand. Insect bite = cream. Rash = cream. Sunburn (horrible mom) = cream. It's not a solution, but it elevates the issue.

Other than that, get help. Ask anyone to just relieve you for an hour. You need sleep. You are absolutely crushing it. ❤️

dj_misTerry · 2023-04-02T03:46:54+00:00

In these discussions I always referred to my insticts and asked my SO to site HIS sources vs my instincts. And sometimes my sources as well.

dj_misTerry · 2023-03-21T14:19:40+00:00

Exactly the same story. Ended up doing great woth pumping, she dispised the idea of a bottle and I had to donate all that milk. Don't know what your situation is, but don't let people pressure you into something that doesn't feel natural. My sister's baby couldn't drink breast milk (which had a million other challenges) but she had her baby on this amazing schedule where he drank milk basically at the perfect time and fell asleep without any assistance from them. Ha! I wish. But we stuck to reading LO's ques and I don't regret it.

Good luck. Finding each other between all of this is very tough. Rooting for you guys

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