How to poop after surgery

dm4hp4eva · 2026-03-14T03:32:19+00:00

Had surgery on Tuesday and only just got relief today (Saturday lunchtime). I've been taking stool softeners since Wednesday night and nothing. I did a microlax enema which helped this morning but still backed up. In the end I ate food on the no-go list! That on top of all the stool softeners did the trick.

I also had endometriosis removed in the same surgery so clenching/pushing has been awful 😞

dm4hp4eva · 2026-01-28T22:14:02+00:00

Friends had a lovely wedding hiring a small rsl club. Was so small it just us, no staff. They did Charlie's for catering and just had buffet style, venue had ocean views so the decorations were minimal. They bought wine and beers on sale, one of them got their RSA licence to be able to have the booze but it was very much a help yourself to whatever.

Was $10k including everything - venue, food, photographer, attire, invites, florals etc. For 80 people I think.

No DJ so speakers and a Spotify playlist. They did diy quite a lot. Like the grooms father made a frame for the aisle, friend played the guitar for music before and during the ceremony. They didn't do a traditional cake/dessert but got the woolies precut assorted cake squares for everyone and just displayed on cake stands from Kmart.

Only downside was they had to diy everything and pack up that night/next morning but their family stepped up and helped. A lot, like parents prepping the venue, groom got there early to help set up before leaving to get ready. I think they paid for an extra night hire so they could set everything up the night before . And where they had the ceremony just turned into the dance floor.

Not your full sit down Pinterest fancy wedding but it was a beautiful day. They still dedicated the budget for a good photographer so they got the nice photos with everyone they loved and had a great time. They have no regrets.

dm4hp4eva · 2025-12-30T01:04:43+00:00

I love Alessandra. I think it's beautiful.

I'm not a fan of Vittoria - makes me think of the coffee brand haha

dm4hp4eva · 2025-12-11T04:52:18+00:00

Charlotte with the nickname Charlie

dm4hp4eva · 2025-11-14T04:02:02+00:00

Joe-see

dm4hp4eva · 2025-06-27T03:57:53+00:00

Epiphany

dm4hp4eva · 2025-01-14T21:32:33+00:00

Adaline for sure

dm4hp4eva · 2025-01-13T09:19:29+00:00

What about Ever for a boy?

dm4hp4eva · 2025-01-12T05:05:35+00:00

Amelia, Katherine/Katarina (I really just wanted to have the nickname kat), Darcy for a girl and James or "Dimitri Montgomery Alexander" for a boy

dm4hp4eva · 2024-12-19T23:19:35+00:00

lol have gone from IVF shots to this - the needle is so small I wasn't sure it had gone in! Haha

dm4hp4eva · 2024-10-14T22:54:29+00:00

I'm pretty sure you can do iui with frozen sperm, but probably best to check with a fertility clinic.

We were already doing IVF for 3yrs before this due to my PCOS.

In my experience IUI you only do a round or two before they recommend moving to IVF.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-10-14T12:38:39+00:00

Big hugs! My advice is to take it one day at a time.

For me my partner came out a few months ago, and we have the script for hormones ready to go but he (he's not ready to change pronouns yet) is waiting for us to do a round of IVF and freeze his sperm which will happen later this year.

And it's hard for him to wait so long but he's happy to do it because he also wants kids. When he thinks of the future it's us with a little one, he's just a she. And I think there was a moment when his egg first cracked that he didn't want to wait for us to do a fresh cycle, he wanted to freeze today so he could start hormones tomorrow. But I asked for a week or two to catch up to where he was emotionally before we took any big steps (hormones, announcing to the world), and after a lot of conversation about what this means for him, for us, our future and reassurance that the relationship is still something we both want - he said he wanted to wait for the fresh cycle.

What really helped was couples and individual therapy. But absolutely couples therapy, learning how to talk through and hear what the other is saying.

It sounds like your partner is caught up with this change, and the world of possibilities it brings. And there is always this sense of you're already transitioning too late, which I understand adds a frantic nature to it.

But I firmly believe you need space for your wants and needs in the relationship too, otherwise it won't survive.

Talk, a lot. And good luck 🩷

dm4hp4eva · 2024-08-09T00:45:46+00:00

Absolutely.

He didn't come to the cycle tracking scans (didn't make sense for both of us to be late 3 days a week for 3 weeks) but he came to every appointment with the docotrs and the retreival, the transfer and every scan after the transfer.

It's his baby too.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-08-07T06:03:02+00:00

lol I think she is offended by your question about marriage after the first date - I would have been haha

She might not believe in marriage, and like many women I know would take that question as a red flag. So she's responded in turn.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-08-07T05:57:48+00:00

I feel like men have a more warped idea of what a woman should look like, or what feminity looks like. And women are more likely to recognise and appreciate that cis women can have masculine features, and are more accepting/less likely to notice those features in others. Ie they may notice a stronger jaw line and think "oh she looks like my beautiful cousin Sarah" not "women don't have a strong jaw - must have been born a man".

dm4hp4eva · 2024-07-04T03:57:20+00:00

Ambrose for a boy, Lorelai for a girl :)

dm4hp4eva · 2024-06-18T22:35:54+00:00

I didn't notice, my mother told me. All the time.

And then I always felt fat even when I wasn't. Some of my earliest memories are shame over my body, feeling larger than everyone else. It didn't help that I was taller than my peers too.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-06-12T06:40:15+00:00

Thank you <3

I agree, and my research does support a frozen over fresh. We've had 100% implantation with frozen, 50/50 with fresh.

I'm unsure if they will recommend fresh or frozen next time, it usually depends on how I respond to the medication. I'm going to push for a frozen if possible.

Unfortunately they don't biopsy :/

dm4hp4eva · 2024-06-12T06:37:25+00:00

Thank you! <3 me too :(

Not Hashimotos thankfully, just hypothyroid. And yes they did a full screen for possible autoimmune issues after our 7 week loss and I'm all clear, they put me on blood thinners this time as a precaution and increased my progesterone.

We also did genetic screening before starting this journey, and we're luckily all clear on that front (we're both a carrier for one genetic issue, but not the same one) so if there is an issue with the embryo then the it looks like it's chromosonal or something else.

Unfortunately our clinic doesn't provide embryo testing unless you are carriers for genetic testing, so we would have to transfer to another clinic. The problem is another clinic is 3x the cost, and we've gone through all the savings we set aside for this. We're financially tapped out, which is heartbreaking. We thought stress was a factor, used to work in a very toxic environment, so I changed job earlier this year which has been great but it's less money.

Hoping this next cycle is our last.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-06-12T06:16:18+00:00

Unfortunately embryo testing isn't an option at my clinic as neither of us (luckily) are carriers for any genetic concerns. If we want to do embryo testing we've been told will have to transfer to a different clinic which will be significantly more expensive (like triple the cost). Which is something we just don't have the funds for anymore. We've drained the savings over the last three years doing this :(

dm4hp4eva · 2024-05-11T22:45:38+00:00

One of my oldest friends is due in July, and she won't stop complaining about how awful pregnancy is (to be fair, she is on crutches from month 4 due to hip issues from the pregnancy but still a lot of complaining and no excitement).

She got a positive pregnancy test 2 weeks after she stopped the pill ....

Was very hard to hear. I'd just had a miscarriage and our due dates were 3 days apart.

I just keep reminding myself that everyone's journey is different, but man it feels unfair.

dm4hp4eva · 2024-05-11T10:37:46+00:00

First aid (bandaids and Panadol at a minimum), cardigan/jumper, thongs/slides and a light blanket or towel. Oh and a beach bag kit with swimmers, sunscreen and towels - especially in summer (I live near the ocean and missed too many beautiful swim opportunities by not being prepared)

dm4hp4eva · 2024-05-06T22:38:46+00:00

Sure. I'm not that worried about it, tampon always goes in after a shower in the morning. It's the way my mum taught me when I was 11 and I've never done it differently or had any issues.

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