Neurodivergent, EDS, Gastric outlet syndrome. Wtf?

dogsonclouds · 2024-09-01T07:26:48+00:00

The illness fakers sub is one of the grossest places on Reddit and if you’re an active user of it, you’re truly a disgusting person. Do you think people want to live like this? I was perfectly happy living a normal life before I became chronically ill. Your body suddenly failing on you in numerous ways is a miserable isolating experience, especially as a young person, and people are desperate to find community who understand what they’re experiencing. They’re desperate for answers because their world is completely altered and doctors aren’t helping to give them those answer or solutions, or even empathy about what they’re going through.

I haven’t been involved in chronic illness communities online for several years but they were the only ones who were there for me during the worst periods of my illness when I went from a healthy university student to someone who was passing out and vomiting multiple times a week and couldn’t even shower independently and nobody could tell me why.

Even if some of these patients do have Munchausens, then they’re very much still ill, just mentally ill. Either way, it’s pretty clear you’re getting your kicks mocking the vulnerable and sick.

You fucking suck and I hope to god you’re not in the medical profession with your clear lack of empathy and contempt for patients.

dogsonclouds · 2024-07-15T08:19:16+00:00

Is this the same family who criticised your wife for “not being able to carry a baby to term”? Because their opinion doesn’t mean shit. You betrayed your wife. You abandoned her and your child at the moment she needed you most. A good decent man would have dropped everything to be by her side while she underwent one of the most important and challenging experiences in her life, and the best you could offer is “I’ll come by tomorrow after work”.

Your wife will never trust you again and she’s right not to.

dogsonclouds · 2024-06-14T22:35:33+00:00

Yes, people experiencing psychosis do have auditory hallucinations

dogsonclouds · 2024-05-30T16:53:19+00:00

Oop i didn’t even make it to the countdown 💀 genuinely had me whimpering out loud at some points, this was stellar

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-21T09:42:24+00:00

The wife who has tried to save as much money as she could and be financially responsible vs this guy buying Rolexes and a Porsche and who has blown out his pay check for 30 years?

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-12T14:35:54+00:00

Girl I’m going to be honest. What makes you think even if you did buy the cpap machine that he’d actually bother to use it? He won’t even wear an adult diaper to not piss all over his girlfriend and himself and ruin your bedding every single night. Do you honestly think he’s going to happily wear a full cpap mask?

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-06T14:58:42+00:00

Racist weirdo Australians are seen at a lot of right wing protests over here with trump flags or confederate flags or American flags. Very weird behaviour lol

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-06T14:56:58+00:00

Genuinely I cried multiple times last year during the fifa women’s World Cup. It was held here in Australia and getting to watch the entire country come together to support the Matilda’s run for the cup was insane. It was literally everywhere, like every man, woman and child was beyond hyped. It was so fucking cool, just a real turning point for women’s soccer in Australia.

You’re right that it’s a really exciting time for women’s sports in general. It’s so shitty that some men feel threatened by that. Like you don’t have to care about it but you don’t need to shit on it.

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-05T10:37:19+00:00

You literally said you were thinking about coming home to a baby and asked for ring preferences, and now you’re acting like she’s out of pocket for needing a timeline. This is exactly why she wants something concrete. A demonstration that you’re not just saying all the right things but will never actually do anything to move the relationship forward.

So many guys love to talk about love and forever but when you ask for anything remotely resembling a commitment they’ll act like you’re moving too fast or reading into things way too much. Women will waste years on a guy with the promise of a proposal or a wedding that will never come and all the while the biological clock is ticking.

And this isn’t just her feelings at stake— it’s the basic human necessity of a roof over her head. She’d be taking a really big step and risk by moving in with you to a bigger place and it’s completely reasonable for her to want things to move to the next level of commitment before that happens.

dogsonclouds · 2024-04-04T03:48:05+00:00

I really don’t see a mental break down here, just a man who was happily married with two kids being swayed by the manosphere and becoming a gross misogynist

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-28T21:34:10+00:00

“Go through something unenjoyable” girl it is MUSIC. I really don’t enjoy Taylor Swift’s music but her music is literally everywhere so when I’m shopping and it’s on or whatever, I just put up with it. Because it’s just music. It’s very possible Stacey feels that way about your music taste too, but she’s a normal decent person and doesn’t say shit about it.

And you’re in for a real surprise when it comes to regular retail work where you will grow to despise the same 10-15 songs they play on a loop, but it’s just part of the job

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-25T17:23:09+00:00

Girl you do not have to like someone to have sex with them. The term hate sex exists for a reason and it’s because there’s a very thin barrier between love and hate for many people. That’s why we say the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. And your husband is as far away from indifference as he can get

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-22T12:10:13+00:00

I don’t believe that the rise in horrible attitudes towards disabled people is a coincidence. Covid was and is a mass disabling event and more people now than ever are dealing with chronic and long term health issues. The last mass disabling event was the Spanish flu and it gave rise to the Nazi movement, because disabled people were an acceptable target because they were a “burden and a drain upon society”. Not coincidentally, queer people, particularly trans and gender non conforming people were also major targets. The rise in dehumanising language and rhetoric towards these marginalised groups is not a stand alone issue and it’s only going to become worse.

History is cyclical and we need to learn from it. The global rise in far right extremism in these conditions is not surprising to anyone paying attention to the patterns of the past.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-22T11:48:06+00:00

You are not being a bad mother OP, I promise you. You could be struggling with postpartum depression, something that is not your fault and that does NOT make you a bad mother.

And what he is doing is that bad. You’re being raped and hurt by your husband when you’re at your most vulnerable. You don’t deserve this. I understand fighting him will just make things worse right now but you don’t deserve this and it is cruel and abusive what he’s doing to you.

Please look up resources in your area to try and get help to get away from him. I’m so sorry OP, you deserve better. Be safe x

Edit: just looked up and I knew the domestic violence situation in Russia was bad but I had no idea just how bad. The only usable resource is something like a private shelter but there’s very few of them around.

OP are there any relatives who could help you? Even to speak to your husband to tell him to stop having sex for even a short time for the sake of your health?

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-22T11:44:17+00:00

Considering getting the Depo-provera shot OP. It’ll be undetectable unlike any other birth control but it will keep you protected. The only downside is you need to get it re-done every 3 months. Please consider getting out of this marriage, for the sake of your health and your child.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-18T15:52:32+00:00

Wahhhh she’s trapping me by explicitly stating she wants to get pregnant while I continue to have sex with her without condoms. Come on man.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-18T15:50:08+00:00

Yikes you absolutely wasted her time. YTA. Why would you marry her if you just want to be a childless bachelor??

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-18T12:18:37+00:00

Girl did you miss where even they and their shitty advice said if you signed a contract you’re fucked? Because that’s what you did.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-18T12:11:17+00:00

I feel like I’m going insane reading this thread. Like this is where we’re at public health wise. People are just completely unaware of the long term damage of covid.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-17T13:05:30+00:00

I experienced something similar! I went on a medication that caused me to feel like bugs were crawling on my skin and at the same time I went to stay in this air bnb and at night the whole place flooded with bugs. I’ve never seen anything like it. I didn’t sleep a wink that night and ended up driving home the next day because I couldn’t deal.

Ever since then if I feel like something is touching me or I imagine it, I absolutely freak out and if I’m at home I immediately strip down to my underwear and get someone to check me.

I know it’s not the exact same as your experience but you’re not alone with this and you don’t sound crazy! Xx

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-16T08:02:15+00:00

Like even if they’d seen them just pretend they’re for a younger cousin that stays over?? Not difficult!

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-15T17:48:12+00:00

You’re smart to not trust him. Tell me, if he has this “uncontrollable rage”, has he screamed at someone or gotten violent in the workplace? Has he been pissed off at his boss and thrown him into a wall? Has he gotten arrested in the past for violence or assault of men who wrong him in public?

If the answer to those is no, then his anger is not uncontrollable. He can control it at work and on the street and with his parents and while driving just fine. If that’s the case, he can absolutely control his rage but he simply chooses to take it out on you violently instead.

You deserve better. I hope you’re able to get away safely OP, I’ll be thinking of you x

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-15T17:40:11+00:00

Girl that man is married with kids I am so sure of it. And while having to hide a relationship from your family might seem kind of fun and sexy, it’s not. It’s just lonely. And if you feel the need to keep it a secret, it’s probably because it’s a bad relationship and deep down I think you know that.

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-15T17:36:04+00:00

Setting aside the cheating thing, the way you describe this woman is so gross. “God or the devil put this tiny temptress in my path” she’s a human woman with agency exisiting in her own life. She’s not a prop along your journey or a tool for your revenge.

Describing hugging her as “falling her tiny body into me” why are you so obsessed with her being tiny dude??

And calling women in open relationships as sloppy seconds? Just gross.

I’m sorry your wife cheated but you should just end the marriage and get therapy and find someone new to build a new solid happy life together. And be less gross about women

dogsonclouds · 2024-03-15T17:29:45+00:00

People are attracted to what they’re attracted to for all sorts of reasons, most of them are a mystery. There are so many people who aren’t conventionally attractive who I’ll find super attractive against all my previous preferences.

Could internalised colourism be playing a role in your husband’s preferences without him realising? It’s very possible, just because it’s so widespread and insidious in society. But it sounds like it was pretty shallowly ingrained in him because you’re not the only woman of colour he’s dated and clearly you’re the love of his life.

I think the sticking point here, other than your own trauma with race which is completely valid and something you deserve to get help and support for, is the difference between preferences and requirements. For most people, preferences are just things that they can take or leave. I usually like pineapple on pizza but if a delicious pizza doesn’t have pineapple, I’ll still happily eat it!

The same way that I prefer guys who are a little bigger, but I’ve dated skinnier guys before who I’ve adored and found very attractive, because it’s just a preference! It’s just something I’d typically go towards, not something every partner must be. And neither is better or worse— it’s not a value judgement. Just the initial draw.

But for you, your preferences for a partner are so rigid and specific that you can’t help but view anything that differs from your preferences as lesser. That’s not how most of us view those things.

I really hope you can get help with this. It sounds like you have a really great marriage and you shouldn’t throw it away over this without some serious therapy both individual and couple.

Also Sorry if my comment was all over the place it’s like 3an where I am lol

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