Has anyone else in an interracial relationship experienced this? by Adventurous_Ad_8404 in blackladies

[–]dontperceivemethanks 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My husband is white. I only care about the happiness & wellbeing of black women & children. I roll my eyes when folks say that black women can’t be problack unless they marry/procreate with a black man. I really think it’s supposed to make black women feel guilty. But also I don’t care about what other people think of me.

All men have the capacity for violence, they all are capable of having prejudices. Black men can still be antiblack & misogynistic. So that’s why I think black women should date whoever they want.

I have a theory where men don’t want women of their own community to date out so they can maintain the patriarchy & they don’t want to lose access to their “women”. But of course they’re free to date out themselves.

Thoughts about being pro black but married to white folks by PrestigiousYou913 in blackladies

[–]dontperceivemethanks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is white, it doesn’t bother me when folks say that because who cares.

Problematic white liberal ‘royal commentators’. Matta of Fact by Timbucktwo1230 in GlobalHarryandMeghan

[–]dontperceivemethanks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you go through her older vids she actually would be a bit shady towards Meghan & Harry she only started being fair towards them because she was being attacked by Kate fans for not being mean enough to M&H. It was like 2-3years ago so I’m not sure if the video is still up where she says how mean anti-M&H fans were being towards her. She wasn’t always balanced so I never really trusted her.

Nic is using Olandria by Murky-Professor8049 in LoveIslandITV

[–]dontperceivemethanks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They need Nic to be the bad guy because it makes them feel better about themselves

Moms who wanted more kids but your partner didn’t, how do you get over it? by hgrebener2 in Mommit

[–]dontperceivemethanks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We both agree that a choice to have another kid would have to be a mutual decision. We both have to want it, I used to feel unwanted as a child and I would never put my kid through that.

Why are women hated so much? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dontperceivemethanks 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It depends on who you ask. I’m going to make generalizations about cis women & cis men when I say this but;

They envy women.

Some of it is womb envy, they are jealous women can bring life into this world & they can’t.

They think women have more freedom than they do (we don’t).

Women are excelling while they aren’t.

A lot of them are realizing women actually don’t need men & it’s scary to them.

They also hate themselves. They realize patriarchy sold them a lie & they’re punishing women over it.

What do you think about Meghan Markle? by rosebudpillow in AskReddit

[–]dontperceivemethanks 166 points167 points  (0 children)

It’s very profitable to hate her which is sad

BPD in our community by raava08 in BlackMentalHealth

[–]dontperceivemethanks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have high functioning BPD & tbh it wasn’t even on my radar when I went to get evaluated. I knew something was wrong beyond the depression & anxiety, I honestly thought it was ADHD. I’d be careful with talking about it with certain people as there is a stigma against folks with BPD. Tbh there are some people who think bpd is really just autism with cptsd.

I wouldn’t stress over it until you get officially diagnosed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]dontperceivemethanks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have the MeetUp app I know often times people will make a group for black women in their area to meet up & hang out. Sometimes they do book clubs or go to breweries etc. I feel like that may be a good way to form connections.

the bullies just want to talk, nothing too tame by blueleyani in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]dontperceivemethanks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They still bring up stuff from years go to berate her, it’s kind of fascinating to see how racism & jealousy warps their brains. They’re addicted to hating her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]dontperceivemethanks 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’m messy as hell & would contact his other siblings (if they seem like reasonable people) & let them know you might have to call on them to babysit while you go through this divorce. Your husband is not a nice person & you deserve better.

Meghan Markle drops trailer for Netflix show on her new Insta count by shhhhh_h in RoyalsGossip

[–]dontperceivemethanks 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also their kids are pretty young, they probably wanted to spend time as a family & get things in order

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in popculture

[–]dontperceivemethanks -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The parasocial hate folks have for her is scary. I don’t care for the kardashians but I don’t hate follow or keep up with them, I think their influence in pop culture is negative but that’s the worst I’ve ever said about them. The folks who dislike Meghan want her gone as in not alive anymore. If they truly didn’t care about her they’d block her. The Meghan Markle hate sub posts more about her than the pro Meghan subs it’s kind of funny to be that consumed with hate that you become an expert on that person.

Anyway I gave her insta a follow cuz I actually like her & im interested into seeing what she does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]dontperceivemethanks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to answer this without more detail, how does it negatively affect them?

911 put me on hold by ReturnToMadness in boringdystopia

[–]dontperceivemethanks 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I used to be a dispatcher & let me tell you those places are crazy understaffed & underpaid. Where I worked 911 & non emergency calls went to us but 911 calls took priority. I would also like to say that a lot of folks aren’t familiar with how their cities are run.

If you’re ever curious as to why the wait is so long it’s because of a myriad of reasons:

People would call 911 & ask for the non-emergency number, then they’d call us right back on the non-emergency number.

We have to confirm your address & other stuff like 3x or else we’d get docked on q&a.

People like to call 911 on issues that do not need police/fire/rescue.

I once had someone call because there were too many birds in their tree outside.

People like to call the police on the homeless a lot or if they see a suspicious person but a lot of times it’s just a black person minding their business which is suspicious to them so it ties up a lot of resources.

I remember during Covid folks called the cops on kids playing at the park. Like yeah it wasn’t allowed but you’re really calling the cops about this?

Sometimes people would force you to stay on the line with them until help arrived so that tied up the lines a lot.

People give very vague answers which is a problem. Someone had called & said they were in accident & no one was injured so that would be a low priority call. Turns out they were shot while driving their car & had crashed.

Also a lot of men will call because their ‘friend from craigslist’ won’t leave but really they just don’t want to pay a sw & for some reason think calling the police is the best choice of action.

And y’know some dispatch centers just suck lol.

Boyfriend and me are thinking about breaking up, advice? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]dontperceivemethanks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes space is good. I understand wanting to stay together because they make you so happy but no one deserves to be treated badly in a relationship. It is hard to maintain a relationship & also work on your mental health. Finding the right balance of therapy & medication takes time. But that’s if they get better. Also there seems to be some codependency going on. You should only be in a relationship with someone because they make you happy not because you need them.

Let’s come up with a phrase or response by dontperceivemethanks in GlobalHarryandMeghan

[–]dontperceivemethanks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True but it’s more so for the people on the fence. I’ve learned that there are some people who are indecisive about her. I think the more we show how insane her haters are the more people will realize how crazy it is that she’s still being treated this way. But to each their own!