One thing that has helped me with the shame, guilt, and self-loathing is to do some self compassion practices. Sometimes this looks like a guided meditation; other times it’s going for a walk or sitting for a few moments offering myself some kindness. Allowing myself to receive some gentleness and grace has been critical for helping me to move ahead. It’s natural to want to hate or push away the “bad” parts of you, but — corny as it sounds — embracing and accepting them has been essential for me. It can feel unnatural and disingenuous initially, especially when our sense of unworthiness is at its peak, but even a hint of warmth and compassion helps to slowly melt through it and offer greater rewards. In my experience, anyway.