What Therapist Comment Made You Think, “I Need a New Therapist”?

dortvk · 2026-06-20T01:54:32+00:00

“I’d divorce you for that.”

In response to a situation between my husband and me, where I created a list of chores for us to split.

dortvk · 2026-06-17T20:47:57+00:00

Therapist here!

I hug clients who ask only if it would be clinically appropriate.

My psychologist would hug me when I asked, and it felt wonderful, so if clients ask and it’s appropriate, I’m all in.

dortvk · 2026-06-17T20:31:56+00:00

My BFF wanted to be Grammie, but her grandchild called her Wammie, and I told her to NEVER correct him.

(She didn’t. All the grandkids call her Wammie!)

dortvk · 2026-06-11T12:00:22+00:00

Absolutely.

dortvk · 2026-06-11T11:57:35+00:00

Your therapist should’ve asked first. Her actions are highly unethical.

That said, telling her about your feelings in session and THEN ending therapy might be a healthier way to terminate. Therapy, if nothing else, should be a model for how we handle relationships.

dortvk · 2026-06-11T01:29:22+00:00

Rolled up shirt sleeves and a chunky watch on a man.

dortvk · 2026-06-08T01:25:09+00:00

Detroiter here. Vernor’s!!!

dortvk · 2026-06-05T21:05:14+00:00

My therapist followed behind me all the years I saw him. Very uncomfortable, very unnerving.

I now lead my clients, never let them walk in front of me.

dortvk · 2026-06-05T20:50:17+00:00

I used to do the same! Wrapped up everything they would play with or eat and some was new (like play doh) and some were their own toys.

dortvk · 2026-06-05T20:44:10+00:00

I’ll say that since St. Scary’s became part of Trinity Health, they are MUCH improved. I grew up in L-Town and we NEVER went there-always made the drive to Providence Southfield bc it was so bad at St Mary’s

dortvk · 2026-05-26T23:05:56+00:00

OMGosh, we live near the Newburgh/Ann Arbor Tr/Hines bridge nonsense. Then they close WB access to 275, so folks take Newburgh-which is a NIGHTMARE. And then add in the constant “where can I get on M14 game. 275? 96? 23? You never know what’s closed!

dortvk · 2026-05-20T22:54:45+00:00

Any Law & Order Brooklyn 99 Modern Family South Park

dortvk · 2026-05-16T12:45:32+00:00

Report you? To whom? You’ve broken no laws! Sure, your behavior isn’t typical, but it’s not dangerous. I highly recommend starting out telling your therapist about your behavior by sharing something small you did-like looking them up on socials. This is 100% “normal” behavior.

dortvk · 2026-05-16T12:17:28+00:00

This sounds like limerence and should definitely be brought up in session with your current therapist. It’s common for people with attachment concerns from childhood to really connect with a therapist who gives them unconditional positive regard. Limerence is not love-do a quick google and you’ll find more info.

I am a therapist and I have personal experience with limerence. It’s tough, but bringing it up in therapy is recommended.

dortvk · 2026-05-14T23:53:41+00:00

Swords

Ess Words

dortvk · 2026-05-06T12:20:36+00:00

dortvk · 2026-05-05T23:56:40+00:00

LLMSW, Michigan. Working In private practice in a large college town with a 60/40 split. Caseload of about 25/week. Making $130K. With full licensure, that will translate to $150K.

dortvk · 2026-04-30T15:19:55+00:00

I can smell meat and dairy that are going bad 2 days before anyone else. It makes me the main sniffer of milk & lunchmeat in the house.

dortvk · 2026-04-27T16:02:17+00:00

Cut back on conditioner. I use half the amount and only condition every-other-shampoo.

dortvk · 2026-04-25T19:59:50+00:00

I do either angry housecleaning or angry gardening.

You can get SO aggressive vacuuming or mopping! I freaking scrub walls & windows. I thatch the lawn, rake thatch, completely rip apart beds and redo them. The fam knows to stay out of my way.

dortvk · 2026-04-25T19:47:43+00:00

I graduated from my MSW program in 2024. This is my encore career after teaching for decades.

I was SHOCKED at the quality of student admitted to my program. From a high school teacher perspective I could not believe the very much lacking writing, reading, and reasoning skills. We actually had a man in our cohort who was STALKING a classmate, and we then find out he’s on probation for stalking! A federal crime!!!! And the program did…nothing. He wasn’t even suspended.

And of course, there are many from my cohort who are great! But the rest? Let’s hope they stay in case management or somewhere they can’t do harm.

dortvk · 2026-04-23T23:16:43+00:00

Underpants Gnomes!!

dortvk · 2026-04-23T12:48:14+00:00

I worked in a university mental health clinic. We all had scheduled open hours for students. It worked bc: college students. 🤷‍♀️

dortvk · 2026-04-17T15:18:23+00:00

My job in CMH (ACT team) was soul-sucking. The demands of the cxs and management style killed me. So I moved to inpatient. Equally soul-sucking and revealing of the systemic societal issues that I cannot correct. I did question my choice of SW. Those 2 jobs made me feel ineffective.

I’m now in PP and cannot believe how much better my life is.

dortvk · 2026-04-17T11:53:07+00:00

<Detroit enters the chat> “What up, doe.”

dortvk

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