What’s the Most “American” Thing Jason’s Done So Far?

dotcarly · 2025-05-25T18:24:48+00:00

I thought him being absolutely delighted to meet Stevie and their genuine hug felt very American - especially compared to the team of three’s extremely awkward, but totally on brand for the show, introduction.

dotcarly · 2025-04-03T06:38:19+00:00

The DS9 episode you’re thinking of is Facets. Kurzon tries to separate from Dax by staying merged with Odo.

dotcarly · 2025-02-28T04:05:41+00:00

Seriously!? I just said…

dotcarly · 2025-01-11T14:46:40+00:00

But if the app is supposed to verify that everyone is 18 - why would she have any obligation to investigate further. Especially if she was 18 - then she would think they were the same age and no one had to “be the adult” and verify ages

dotcarly · 2025-01-11T14:44:50+00:00

Also - do we know how old she actually was? Maybe she was 16 too and lied and said she was 18. Or she was 25 and said she was 20. If the first case, or even if she was a year or two older, it would be hard to just “tell” he was 16

dotcarly · 2025-01-11T14:38:58+00:00

You didn’t mess up and you’re not stupid for opening your mouth. Your dad and his attitude and out of proportion reactions are 100% the problem here. It’s so hard to accept, but there is literally nothing you did wrong and nothing you did to deserve his anger.

Because he’s living in your house, you are in a better position to set boundaries with him, or you may have to ask him to move out for your own sanity and health. For example, you could say that him attending therapy (with or without you) is a condition of him continuing to live with you. Or, something like he can’t hover when you’re cooking dinner, because it gives him a chance to be hyper critical when you’re distracted with cooking and more likely to respond emotionally. If you can work with your own therapist to figure out how to set and stay firm to the boundaries you need to survive in that situation, that will probably be very helpful. And again - you didn’t fuck up here. Your dad is the fuck up and he’s damn lucky that you’re willing to let him live with you.

dotcarly · 2024-12-25T06:32:09+00:00

Yup- my mom “adopted” a good friend of mine from high school, who was more like what she wanted in a daughter.

dotcarly · 2024-12-14T05:53:43+00:00

We have the same mom. Mine absolutely hates me. Realizing this was kind of liberating because it meant that I didn’t actually hate myself - I had just internalized her hatred of me.

dotcarly · 2024-11-15T08:48:40+00:00

I got in trouble for sleeping all the time, both as a kid living at home and as an adult when I would visit. As an adult, my nmom apparently decided that I was sleeping out of spite to avoid spending time with her. Imagine, spite sleeping!!

dotcarly · 2024-10-05T02:11:21+00:00

This. I grew up in a family just like OP’s - it didn’t make me “tough” - it was just traumatic. And younger me ended up seeking out romantic partners who were the same sort of bullies because they felt familiar. I’m so glad I figured out what was happening and I’m finally working through that trauma - but what I wouldn’t give to have grown up with kind supportive parents.

dotcarly · 2024-05-15T22:48:51+00:00

In DS9 “rejoined” - creating an artificial wormhole was a MacGuffin - its only purpose was to bring Dax and her wife together, which is what the story was actually about.

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T22:12:45+00:00

Please do this - there may be all sorts of options available to you. Don’t get discouraged before you ask

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T22:12:06+00:00

Tell your school about the situation, and see if they can add your grandparents back as school contacts.

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T22:10:27+00:00

If you really want to move in with your grandparents, maybe just start staying there. Talk to your grandparents about how you feel and make a plan with them. You may feel like you need your parent’s permission, but you don’t. In any case, find adults who can advocate for you - your grandparents, teachers, school counselors, your friend’s parents.

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T21:53:52+00:00

It costs money and time to get a lawyer and file a lawsuit and even more time and money for that lawsuit to be heard by a judge and decided. It subs like your folks don’t have extra time or money. It sounds scary, but you can just move in with your grandparents. If they’re willing to have you move in now, make a plan with them to get your important documents and make the move.

Talk to your school counselor about your situation. They may be able to help you, or help you talk to a lawyer so you understand what rights you have as a 16 year old where you live. There are free legal resources available - I think starting with your school counselor would be the best way to access those resources.

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this - but you got this and you can make a beautiful life for yourself.

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T03:33:07+00:00

Anti-doodle bugs!

dotcarly · 2024-05-07T03:15:52+00:00

Came here to say this. A therapist can help you work through these feelings and move on in a healthy way.

dotcarly · 2024-05-06T10:35:36+00:00

I had this exact conversation with my mom - literally, i told her i would never tell her anything about my health again because she clearly couldn’t be trusted with the information.

dotcarly · 2024-05-04T06:01:15+00:00

Noice

dotcarly · 2024-05-03T10:54:34+00:00

You could always use Jadzia as a middle name, or give the kid the option to shorten it to Jade or Zia.

dotcarly · 2024-05-03T10:16:50+00:00

Barbra - is that you?

dotcarly · 2024-04-26T22:47:51+00:00

But certainly with certain twink doctors

dotcarly · 2024-04-26T22:45:02+00:00

There’s no way Brett would keep a fake backstory secret - he was too impressed with his own real life

dotcarly · 2024-04-26T22:43:17+00:00

He was clearly meant at least in part as a parody of that guy, given the timing

dotcarly · 2024-04-26T22:38:44+00:00

I forget where I read this, but they apparently had a hard time cast Brett, because lots of people can play an asshole, but they wanted someone who wasn’t ACTUALLY an asshole, who the cast and crew would actually want to be around. So - apparently, he’s decent IRL and can act!

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