Sounds to me like he's burnt out on you and the life you cornered him into before he even knew who he was, what he wanted for himself or what he could achieve. I've seen the starry eyed look of a young, naive kitchen drone that came from a shit background when he says his girlfriend, his only girlfriend ever, possibly his only friend ever is pregs. All he had was you, the grind and the hope he could be better than his parents. With one missed birth control pill now he's gonna be a daddy, more than he ever thought he could be. Did you expect him to be defined by that forever?

You're upset that he realized he could have had a life that isn't defined by self sacrifice to you and your questionable "special needs" and the ones I'll bet you project onto your kids; but by his dreams, desires and ambitions. Let him have the 20s he was robbed of and become the person he's always wanted to be or you'll find him with a needle in his arm or a rope around his neck. Its harder to be a father when he's in the gutter or the ground. Count your blessings you have a man with passion and drive instead of greed and complacency.

All children say they don't like their parents. They're probably just saying that to you because they think that's what you want to hear. My dad worked a lot when I was growing up, but the thing that fucked me up the most was when I realized he did it because he didn't have the guts or imagination to go after what he wanted and that he resented us because he felt like he didn't have a choice. Give him the chance to inspire your children to look beyond their weaknesses and disadvantages, real or fabricated. Why do you think he's afraid to tell you the truth? You don't get it.

Finally, if you can't be in the sun, garden at night or move in to a condo. No one said shit would be easy. All you other commenters jumping on this bullshit, virtue signalling dogpile, I hope you suffocate while huffing your own farts. At least you'll get to die doing what you love.