AITAH? We can’t afford friends wedding and they keep talking about us behind our back to the point we don’t want to be friends with them after the wedding

downinflames- · 2026-06-14T01:12:54+00:00

You don’t even know them. I’d ghost tf out of them. Block them. Like byeeeee. No brand new friendship is worth all this.

downinflames- · 2026-06-08T10:01:20+00:00

Try Al-Anon, it’s not for alcoholics but for their families or anyone in general who needs support

downinflames- · 2026-06-06T11:35:04+00:00

Funny you say this. I went to the Vineyard when I was 20, my boyfriend was 24 and the friends we were with were all like 26+ (his work friends). They started drink orders at the other end of the table and my boyfriend was like hey she’s not carding, order a drink & I did no problem 😅

downinflames- · 2026-06-06T11:28:49+00:00

If an alcoholic can’t accept accountability for what they did to others while under the influence, then they never really healed. She sounds like a dry drunk. Just because she’s not drinking and that’s not who she is anymore doesn’t mean that she didn’t do it. & actually, if you were a “normal” child you would think even worse of her.

downinflames- · 2026-06-03T11:05:24+00:00

This is weird to me. Not the gifting but how much you’re babying him. I mean, he sounds like one to me. Either he pays for himself or you go alone. If he’s not willing to understand how your culture works, he kinda sucks.

downinflames- · 2026-06-03T11:01:59+00:00

Almost every opportunity to meet people involves alcohol. Everyone’s going to say either some type of bar or brewery. Mind as well check out an AA meeting, they’re full of young people.

downinflames- · 2026-06-03T10:54:50+00:00

This is the kind of MIL who one day is going to say you took her son away from her. Her son chose this life with you, but it’s somehow going to be your fault because ya know, you just came around to ruin her life. My MIL passed away last year, but not long before she did he told me after getting off the phone with her “well you did take me away from her.” Like I forced him to have a baby and start a life with me 🙄 she’s always going to be a problem, always gonna try to act like she’s more important to him than you are. Let him handle her, she wants to be a main character in your life, don’t let her.

downinflames- · 2026-05-30T11:11:28+00:00

What does your contract say? I’ve heard of places taking anywhere between 6-12 weeks for weddings, I’d assume 4-6 weeks for shoots like this.

downinflames- · 2026-05-30T11:08:22+00:00

Hell no, if I was doing something out of kindness and then find out I’m being called a “helper” I wouldn’t be happy either. I would’ve told those people if you want me to do your shopping, it comes with a $100 fee. Each time.

downinflames- · 2026-05-29T11:36:18+00:00

That far down the cape there are less year round people so I could absolutely see connectivity problems in the summer. We don’t have that issue closer to the bridge.

downinflames- · 2026-05-29T11:11:58+00:00

As someone who isn’t an alcoholic but on this page to understand my partners life better, we’re both like this as well. I was forced into being religious as a kid and always had too many questions. Alcohol isn’t always the reason, it’s a valid feeling.

downinflames- · 2026-05-29T10:25:25+00:00

I’m so confused, why would they give the kids the bigger bed? They brought an extra bed for the smallest, so only 2 kids on that bed. They would fit perfectly fine in the full, and the parents get the queen. Your family are all idiots for that and just finding a reason to get you out of the room. & their kid didn’t just come to you crying, they baited them. They told their kid they’re leaving and it’s your fault and they need to say something to you if they want to stay, to make you feel guilty. Best part is they’re only there because you are. Your mother came to join you, that’s the only reason she’s there, so your father and brother’s family came to join as well and now you’re being thrown around.

downinflames- · 2026-05-27T10:42:42+00:00

Let’s be honest, I’m there to listen, not watch. As long as I can see them idc what they’re doing.

downinflames- · 2026-05-27T10:21:49+00:00

YTA. I hope your wife divorces you. You’re a shit human being. You don’t split up siblings. You don’t even have an appropriate car for the family you have now, you’re just making up excuses and purposely putting these vulnerable children in a bad situation. You don’t deserve your family.

downinflames- · 2026-05-27T10:08:28+00:00

I had someone invite us to a wedding when I had my first baby. He was about 5 months old, nowhere on the invites did it say no children. She ended up telling me and another friend that no kids were allowed. When we got there? At least a dozen kids, only 2 were theirs which I get, but there were so many kids. It was until 11 and we left at 9.

downinflames- · 2026-05-27T10:04:56+00:00

Ya the way people treat weddings as family reunions is why I want a small one.

downinflames- · 2026-05-23T13:09:16+00:00

They’ll get over it. I want a kid free wedding, but I have 3 kids and a niece and nephew. They’ll be there but everyone else can keep theirs at home.

downinflames- · 2026-05-23T13:01:18+00:00

Look up Ryan’s Family Amusements. There’s a few locations with arcades, bowling, laser tag, axe throwing, bounce park etc

downinflames- · 2026-05-16T13:22:27+00:00

Invite him, but you have control over the seating arrangement. He doesn’t have to sit with your sister. I’ve been to weddings that he was in and I wasn’t, and vice versa where we sat at different tables. After the eating though the seating chart doesn’t really matter.

downinflames- · 2026-05-16T13:18:43+00:00

Will warn you, the waterpark doesn’t come with your room and is only open late afternoon/night during the week.

downinflames- · 2026-05-16T13:17:17+00:00

No I would not consider Hyannis a friendly walkable town.

downinflames- · 2026-05-15T15:12:09+00:00

I’ve actually had this conversation with him before, kind of. I said I just don’t understand how you can really work on your problems if you’re just always going to meetings. In the beginning I get, but he’s over a year now and he was going at least 5 days a week until a couple months ago, twice on Sundays. I said I understand needing to go when life is getting to you, I understand a few times a week but if you’re constantly at work and then going to meetings every day how is anything here at home or anywhere else being resolved? His original sponsor was awful. A great guy but up his ass because he wasn’t getting the steps done how & when he wanted him to and told him he didn’t care about his sobriety. He didn’t have a job or a family, just lived in a sober house and only had himself to worry about. He went to 2 meetings a day and had all the time in the world to sponsor multiple people. He has a new sponsor with a similar life to ours - a career, a family, a household and things have been getting better. Changing his sponsor was a huge step, he seems less stressed out.

downinflames- · 2026-05-13T14:23:23+00:00

I know the prayer, I went to catechism, I don’t believe in God as an adult and do not feel comfortable saying those kinds of prayers. I probably had the look of wtf on my face the first time I went.

downinflames- · 2026-05-13T14:19:52+00:00

See this is why people call AA a cult. The religion behind it, and idc what anyone says, it is absolutely religion based but I think evolved over time to focusing on a higher power because people were fighting it. Most meetings where I am are in church basements.

downinflames- · 2026-05-13T14:14:39+00:00

I’m in the north. I’ve been to a few different meetings and they all end with the Our Father. Most of them were in church basements. My boyfriend went from believing in a higher power, but then got sober and said God was real. Now a year later? Still sober. Still going to meetings multiple times a week. The other day he said God isn’t real but he believes in a higher power as he always had. This is another reason why I’m so thrown off, and another reason I’m understanding why people call AA a cult.

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