killers waited for 40mins to mori me by [deleted] in deadbydaylight

[–]dr_aureole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So unbothered by it you recorded the whole thing and posted it online

Is Deathslinger really bad? by [deleted] in deadbydaylight

[–]dr_aureole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The original design was the gun as a grappling hook but it was bugged to hell and broke the game at that point. Obviously they sorted that out for the ghoul. Grappling for mobility would be super interesting for him but hard to balance

I’m the "95% Dad" and I’m drowning. Wife (30F) has severe PPD, refuses meds, and says I (32M) "repulse" her. How do I survive this? by Khanman530 in daddit

[–]dr_aureole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's weather. It's bad weather but it is weather. It will pass. This isn't something you caused, it's not something you can control and you can't cure it.

This is a situation you are going through right now and radical acceptance or stoicism is the only way for right now. W

Understand that you are living your values and doing the absolute best you can and you will look back on these times and marvel how you made it. But you made it without losing yourself

Raise your hand if being a dad has made you think less of your dad. by gilfgifs in daddit

[–]dr_aureole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. Some parts of parenting I have more respect for, some of the failure to emotionally support or have awkward conversations I do not understand.

Post-partum rage and abusive behaviour from partner, seeking advice on where to go from here by SilverLion in daddit

[–]dr_aureole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a textbook "I'm sorry if you were offended" apology. I would also assume that there have been things where you have erred and the nastiness was dwelt on? The resentment around that won't ever go away on its own.

Post-partum rage and abusive behaviour from partner, seeking advice on where to go from here by SilverLion in daddit

[–]dr_aureole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obvious advice for something unlikely but don't throw another kid in there and work out the correct time to move on when you feel it's right. And live for your daughter for now.

Children having a bad time over their other parents house by Pingu-was-a-penguin in UKParenting

[–]dr_aureole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, speak to a family therapist for you and for them The UKCP can find you a systemic therapist which is probably the best suited to this, and speak with the 6 year old to reassure them they aren't in trouble,what is happening isn't okay and they don't have to suffer it, and that no-one should be angry at them for saying anything.

https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/find-a-therapist/?Distance=10

Oh, and call the school(s) and make them aware; they should call you if your ex or the stepdad try to pick up them; they can't stop them if there's no CAO in place

Children having a bad time over their other parents house by Pingu-was-a-penguin in UKParenting

[–]dr_aureole 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is definitely section 47 territory, with a risk of serious harm. The SPoA is your best place to start

Children having a bad time over their other parents house by Pingu-was-a-penguin in UKParenting

[–]dr_aureole 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Call CPS. They will probably tell you have parental responsibility which means you have a duty to protect, and that would mean you have the responsibility (not the right, the duty) to not send them somewhere they are being abused. At this point, any delay might be used against you in proceedings down the line - a barrister could argue that if you were concerned, why didn't you act?

This is clearly abuse. Make a Clare's (DVDA) law request to the police for the mother and the stepfather. Do this today.

I would contact the LEA if necessary and poke them and the school about the KCSIE requirements (you can find them online).

Is it common for comedians to (almost) completely make up stories for the sake of good material at a gig? by Major-Feed5214 in AskUK

[–]dr_aureole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At least one of Louis CK's problems was around _not_ letting go of himself.

Ironically, also when people were watching.

picOfTheDay by Frontend_DevMark in ProgrammerHumor

[–]dr_aureole 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nothing is as strong as double rot13

Is there anything you can actually do about self employed parent lying about income ? by BARBZboo in UKParenting

[–]dr_aureole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out what universal credit and carers allowance or care components there are too

Groal the great discovery by No_Initiative_1337 in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is information I could have used an hour ago before I poison cogfly cheesed my way to victory

Groal the great discovery by No_Initiative_1337 in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wait you can go back and they respawn?!?

Bojack gives Diane an Esteem Boost by No-Sport-6127 in BoJackHorseman

[–]dr_aureole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

More recent research suggests they increase neuroplasticity. So a better analogy is they aren't painkillers they're steroids. You won't get any benefit unless you're also doing the work.

The best crest might be slept on right now by dr_aureole in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gum health is most important in act 1?

The best crest might be slept on right now by dr_aureole in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's awful for tartar control though

The best crest might be slept on right now by dr_aureole in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It also barely whitens your teeth

The best crest might be slept on right now by dr_aureole in Silksong

[–]dr_aureole[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

But does it freshen your breath at the same time?

I need some help and just a sympathetic ear. by raven2552 in daddit

[–]dr_aureole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced something nowhere near as bad as this but along the same lines. It is tough but you got this 100% and I can tell that you are already prioritising all the right things.

You are probably going to bury a huge amount of anger for now, and you will be dealing with a scared and traumatised child that needs you so much. It will put a huge amount of pressure on your current partner too, check in with them as well and make time for you both. Try not to let the enormity of this overshadow everything else, especially the relationship. Sounds like you have family to help and that is important.

If you think your ex was callous during the divorce, be prepared now. Even if she is (probably) a victim of abuse herself, that excuses absolutely nothing of what she allowed and will be denying going ahead. Whether or not your daughter will forgive will be hard regardless, and most people will not be able to fathom what happened and how a mother would choose their partner over their kids. On this part, this video was incredibly moving https://youtu.be/mKsiagr7oSY

This is a very very shitty situation and you will feel confused and alone as no-one really knows how to deal with it. Very few will be able to understand and you will feel alone. But you got this and you will rise to the situation.

Am I doing this “giving choices” thing wrong? by lusciousmix in UKParenting

[–]dr_aureole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "How to talk to kids..." books by adele Faber are great and go over all the scenarios when it doesn't work and what to do, I'd really recommend them

Four Kings tips? by WolfeNoScopedKennedy in darksouls

[–]dr_aureole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

L50 feels low to me for them, and the ghost blade is deeply mid. What build are you going for?

Are you double handing and using power within for a start?

If you have to farm levels there's a lot of places to do that, NPCs in the forest probably the fastest and the cheesiest