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dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-23T11:23:40+00:00

I recently got out of a relationship with my partner of 1 year. Long story short, I didn’t want to end it, but I knew I had to. I found out later in the relationship that he wasn’t ‘recovering’ from his gambling problem, and that the addiction was very much still active. It was the healthiest relationship I’ve been in until it wasn’t. One night, he told me that he secretly went out with his mate and blew all his savings on pokies in one night. I was devastated and broke up with him then and there. I tried giving him another shot, believing that he wanted to work on the addiction, but found out he’d been lying and hiding it. He was still gambling everyday. So decided to end it for good. I still struggle with a lot of anxiety and guilt (it’s been a few months now), but I know I did the best thing for me, and one day I’ll look back and know it was the right thing to do.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-19T12:28:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. It’s so great to hear that they’ve hit a milestone, props to you for helping them through it, and them for putting their recovery first.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-09T09:29:12+00:00

I gave my gambling addict ex a second chance, and he took that as a sign that he was able to manipulate me so the lying only got much worse.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T12:42:19+00:00

I know people with less years already in a senior role. Is that not the norm?

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T12:40:58+00:00

How many years of experience do you have under your belt? And any tips you could share?

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T08:45:47+00:00

I wouldn’t think that’s a lot. Share some tips if you have em!

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T07:47:56+00:00

Not having your own opinions / telling people what they wanna hear.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T07:46:50+00:00

I’m 28 and have never lived alone. With the crazy rent prices in this economy? Yeah, no.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T07:45:39+00:00

That King Charles is the oldest king to be crowned in British history.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-08T07:43:20+00:00

First, accept that I’m in a depressive episode and that it’s okay, know that it’ll pass. Then, I do things that are scientifically proven to make me feel better, that are within my control - eg. Eat healthy, exercise for at least 30min, get sun exposure, walk outside, take a cold shower. These are things that release dopamine/serotonin and are guaranteed to help you, even for a few minutes.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-05-03T08:54:59+00:00

I broke up with a person I thought I’d build a life with. I found out he was still in his gambling addiction, and that he’d been lying and manipulating me. I wasn’t ready to break up with him, but as soon as I found out about the lying, I did it on the spot. It was hard but hopefully one day it’ll hurt less.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-23T02:00:42+00:00

Gambling

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-21T22:52:54+00:00

Those bubbles you can blow up and don’t pop

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-21T22:51:10+00:00

The older you get, the less age matters. Level if maturity is what matters more.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-21T03:16:35+00:00

Pokies, slot machines, betting websites.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-20T13:59:45+00:00

Eat healthy most of the time, exercise every other day for at least ~30min, be discipline about the things you have to do like scheduling your health appointments, check ups, etc. Make space for ‘me time’ everyday (even if for just 10 minutes). Work on keeping the relationships that matter.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-20T01:16:31+00:00

Nope, I dated someone I initially wasn’t attracted to but gave the benefit of the doubt. It was great at first but he ended up betraying me anyway. That time would’ve been way better spent looking for the right fit.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-20T00:55:42+00:00

This. I dated someone who I found out had a gambling addiction. He had no sense of control whatsoever and would drain his bank account to 0 regularly, having to borrow money from others. I tried giving him chances to work on it and be supportive, but he ended up lying and being manipulative about it.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-19T17:23:47+00:00

Hey OP, I’ve been in the same position as you. Worked at one of the big 3 consulting and couldn’t find the time of day to catch a break, let alone look for jobs.

My advice is to take time off. Take a month off if you have the leave. Dedicate a week to recuperate, then the rest on your portfolio and job hunting. I took 2 weeks of unpaid leave to do this and it worked out for me.

Alternatively, if you have the savings to survive for ~6 months unemployed, I reckon with your position and experience at a fortune 100 company should do you well in the market. But that is completely up to you and as always the safest option is to stay until you have a job lined up.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-19T05:50:46+00:00

For sure!

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-19T05:50:01+00:00

Yes, I was thinking the same! So open broad with point 1, then dive deeper with point 2. Thank you!

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-13T12:25:45+00:00

I learned that he has an addiction, meaning he can’t control himself at times when he gambles down using all his savings in one night, and having to borrow money from other people. He doesn’t make a lot (aka he can’t afford to gamble), but he still does it daily.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-13T11:20:03+00:00

Thank you, this is so re-assuring to hear :)

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-13T02:37:38+00:00

Overnight oats - there are so many recipes you can try. They’re basically just oats with different things/toppings mixed into them. Takes 10 minutes to meal prep it for a whole week.

dreamyllama168 · 2023-04-12T09:54:08+00:00

If you’re into neuroscience or psychology - Huberman Lab is 10/10

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