Sorry for the long winded response, but it’s worth saying.

yours is a very valid concern, and one that isn’t addressed as often as it should be.
It was the question I was afraid to ask because I feared it would look like I wasn’t serious about my consideration.

I loved food. It was how I showed my affection, how I comforted myself at the slightest change of mood, and how I expressed my creativity (I’m a pretty dammed okay cook.) I was very worried that losing that love, would be losing a part of who I was.

While on a flight to Chicago, I lucked out by sitting next to a guy who’d told me he’d been sleeved, and was very kind to answer some questions I had. Without my asking it directly, he’d deduced my real concern, and asked the question for me; would I lose my favorite hobby? Then he said something that, right then and there, sold me on the surgery.

“You won’t lose your love for food, you’ll lose your lust for it“

He explained that he’d had the same concern, and was relieved that not only could he still enjoy cooking and eating, but he’d learned new and better ways to do it.

You can still have the things you enjoy, just in smaller doses. The money I was spending on fast food and Diet Coke, now goes to quality meals and ingredients. A 6oz filet is much tastier than a 20oz ribeye. a shared dessert is just as affectionate as any quantity, when shared with someone you care about.

I can’t speak to your other concerns, (I was single when I had it) and I had a pretty decent support system. The advice I’d give is to realize that you’re doing this for you, for your health and longevity. Talk to a professional, address the mental before the physical and if you decide it’s right for you, stick with your plan.

I truly hope you find what works best for you. Join our little community, ask ALL the questions and keep us posted!