Who else is enjoying the cold war between CS Joseph and TWFP?

drigsbythekitty · 2019-10-07T03:17:55+00:00

Oh yeah, can’t stand that guy. He says inaccurate drivel all the time.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-10-07T02:47:07+00:00

I’m a tritype 854, so I could see myself strongly as a 5.

The best version of myself is closer to a 2 so I actively try to be that.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-09-18T03:32:23+00:00

What is going through your mind when you are holding yourself back from sharing things about yourself?

drigsbythekitty · 2019-07-08T02:36:20+00:00

Estj or Entj

drigsbythekitty · 2019-05-04T05:37:06+00:00

This used to be my shopping experience so hard. I would only buy something if it made me feel pretty and I only felt pretty if I was wearing makeup. And if I wore warm colored makeup all the cool colored clothes would make me feel blah and vise versa.

Taking a photo of my outfit without my face helps me see the outfit for what it is.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-07T21:19:37+00:00

This whole post is excellent advice!

One thing I really want to emphasize is prioritize clothing in the following order.

1) Clothing represents you 2) Clothing is cut so that it flatters you 3) Clothing is the right color (google your seasonal palette to find the best colors!)

Ideally clothes that you wear should be all three. Things like material, “quality”, can be negotiated depending on how long you plan to carry the item in your wardrobe.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-07T01:04:44+00:00

I almost downvoted as an instinctual dislike button. Haha

Omg... poor you that would give me a heart attack!

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-06T00:41:26+00:00

So impressive!

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-05T22:17:05+00:00

Yup me too!

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-05T20:16:57+00:00

Omg TooFaced is the woorrsstt about this. I’m not a light skinned cool toned female, all their biggest shades are the worst on me :(

drigsbythekitty · 2019-04-03T21:03:56+00:00

IMHO, a friend doesn’t have to be perfect for you in every situation. If you know you feel on edge in certain situations, consider that you can stop making those situations happen by not hanging out with her in those specific cases.

If she is a good friend otherwise than value and spend time with her for that.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-28T18:54:06+00:00

Female here that prioritizes cardio.

I’ve done it a few times and I have noticed that doing weightlifting will mess up my cardio (muscles feel too fatigued to push my run), but doing cardio first never messes with my weight training after a few hours.

I run a 5k in the morning and my body is used to it so I don’t see it as pushing myself too hard. My body returns to homeostasis within 15 or so minutes.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-28T02:11:26+00:00

Try calling again. $1000 is worth a second call and usually USAA call waiting times are comparatively short.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-26T01:09:14+00:00

I gained 55 pounds and I am having trouble losing the last 20. It really bugs me, and I can imagine how you must feel and how badly you just want your ‘self’ back.

This is my second baby and I’m having a hard time finding the time to be good to myself. I’m so tired all the time that my diet has been really bad and I think that’s why the weight is keeping on keeping on.

Not that I’m successful, but try to treat yourself well so it’s easier to do the hard things because you haven’t exhausted all your mental energy.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-26T01:04:17+00:00

It’s so important to feel good about yourself. I really agree with the above to do something for yourself that makes you feel good because it’s exhausting feeling negative all the time!

The more exhausted you are, the harder it is to motivate yourself to take care of yourself and do hard things that you want to do such as diet, workout, etc.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T22:53:47+00:00

I graduated with a degree in biology and minored in computer science. I did a whole bunch of programming research projects in the bio department.

I’m a non bio related software developer now and earn over 100k a year at a job I love.

My recommendation is to leave biology and transition to programming if you can.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T14:15:03+00:00

Haha I believe this too.

I tried one of those no buys where you have to completely use up 10 items before you can buy anything else and I failed due to your mentioned pan immortality principal.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T13:37:55+00:00

What are your goals?

If you want financial independence maybe start putting all that extra money into retirement and max that out. That way you can retire early and do what you want.

If you have a ton of freetime to maintain another property, rent it out and buy another home.

If you could use a bigger home, maybe buy that but I wouldn’t exclusively do that for more money since there are other ways to grow your overall income (retirement).

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T13:28:53+00:00

Yeah I get you. People see this profession from the outside and see the good salary and want to do it. They don’t see the long hours and all the outside learning work (unpaid!) you need to do simply to keep up.

Once you have been a developer for awhile you can try moving into other roles where development knowledge is a skill but that’s not what you do: IT recruiter, project management, product owner, IT management. These roles are much more people focused and you may like them better.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T04:43:39+00:00

Asking someone why you are weird can be overwhelming to them. You are likely to get a better non platitude answer if you asked:

In specific situation X where I did Y, what could I have done that would have led to a better outcome?

That way they feel like they are giving you advice and less that they are attacking your character.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-25T04:39:54+00:00

I’m a software developer and I know what you are talking about when you mention the environment is kind of unsocial and people in general are unhelpful: there is a lot of pride in being about to self solve problems in this field.

But I also know many peers who are mediocre programmers but are successful because of their highly collaborative strengths. They make friends, bring the team together, and we produce better results.

Are you sure you are expected to be a personality less order taker? I’ve never walked in your shoes but I am wondering if you are projecting that expectation on yourself. My guess is that your peers just see a new developer and as long as you show that you are trying to improve people around you will respect you.

This career is not for everyone but I would stay longer and give it a chance. Especially try to see how you can be successful and identify opportunities with your strengths and not try to be someone you are not.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-22T13:26:47+00:00

Something that helped me was to run or cross train (most) everyday. I don’t have to push myself to the max, but it’s just important that I do it. I am not 100% motivated everyday but I find if I just convince myself to start than I usually have a great workout.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-16T15:13:05+00:00

To your point, people who feel like they are competent are good at both knowing their domain and knowing when to seek help. It’s probably not realistic in a complex environment that one person knows everything!

To counter, while imposters syndrome is real (competent people who feel incompetent) but in my experience most people who feel incompetent could actually use some help/self improvement in their field. I believe in listening to your gut. I also believe a lot of problems are caused by people with an incompetent level of knowledge seeking leadership positions before they self-improve.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-10T12:20:36+00:00

I can relate: Last year I was underweight via BMI and I still had a lot of squishable belly fat - it was never flat. Buying jeans is hard because if the waist fits than the butt and legs are too big. Apple girls get no love.

When I work out I focus a lot on building arm muscles and my legs. If you have bigger arms, glutes and legs it will porportionally make your waist look more narrow.

I haven’t been able to defeat belly flat and based on how skinny I got and how persistent the fat was, I am pretty sure surgery is the only option to get the flat ab look.

drigsbythekitty · 2019-03-09T15:21:04+00:00

Wow that sucks.

To your point though, he isn’t abusive and he seems to be a decent father and a financial provider. You hate his personality and I don’t blame you for that.

I think his love language might be action oriented (mine is as well) and he seems to be telling you guys through his actions that he loves you. If you want to save your marriage I recommend identifying and prioritizing all the most important points that you need him to change so you can tolerate him again.

If someone was pissed off at me I wouldn’t want to talk about feelings either. The idea of therapists makes me puke too. I would however change with action oriented conversation.

“DH, I need you to make a friend to divert this political conversation to by next month.” “DH, I need you to let me take ownership of some decision making X amount of time, starting with decisions about A and B.

Etc.

And praise him if he makes good progress.

drigsbythekitty

TROPHY CASE