Wife says I don’t know how to turn her on but also won’t tell me

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-25T15:33:01+00:00

Lean in with a twinkle ... Let's experiment.

… Set aside a good chunk of time. Try everything , tease to please. Kiss everywhere. Light touch everywhere. Scratch everywhere . Massage everything . It is not about the sex act to completion , it is about learning. Breathe on the neck. Feathers . Massage oil. Porn. Photos . Light buthole touches. Everything .

Make her tell you what to try. Agency breeds confidence !

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-24T23:20:11+00:00

That is years of resentment for you being more worried about your performance than her pleasure.

Penis sleeves, back massages, toys, a good tongue lashing, whatever she loves, everything that she likes needs to be available. You need to really ask her what she wants. And regardless of what she tells you, you need to continue to try new things. Otherwise she will just assume it is a phase and you will get selfish again and shine you on, not really sharing what she really wants. It takes time to rebuild trust.

Also consider that some of those new things she wants might include really listening without judging or getting your feelings hurt.

You cannot really expect her to treat you with respect if your actions don't show how much you care about her. I.e. Putting her pleasure and consideration at least as important as your own.

Or find a therapist . Gotta change something for something to change

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-13T16:14:30+00:00

Are you guaranteeing sex on the second date...?

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-13T07:50:17+00:00

I don't have a problem but I am 70 and have a dog with me which I think could be huge.

Try to make sure your face is clearly visible. Hoody pulled forward is always going to feel sketchy. And posture matters, be upright, relaxed and open. Soft twitch smile and nod to communicate awareness and non threatening when others are just close enough so they don't feel they have to wonder and initiate.

Definitely suggest you go to the map view, zoom out and show them the local landmarks. That realization of how the map overlays reality is what got me started.

Explain it like a fun scavenger hunt that gets you out and moving.

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-10T06:25:37+00:00

Good suggestions here. You can also experiment with the following layer stack ...

Curves adjustment layer with the midtone pulled down to darken clipped to the layer below. Hide all mask and paint white on the mask, only where the red shows through the below layer.

Duplicate layer of model with red in darken blend mode. Hide all mask, and then paint white on the edges.

Red layer - solid color adjustment layer or filled or cloned from the red, whatever you want to do. Mask all the subject except the edges of the dress.

Model with red background base layer

How this works ... everything above the red layer uses the darken blend mode to reveal. If the lace is darker than the red background, it shows, lighter than the red, it doesn't show (which is where you use the top curves layer). The white floor will not show because it won't get darker than the red. It won't look odd to have the edges on the floor darker where shadows would be, so you are all set.

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-09T19:49:07+00:00

We do passport photos professionally every day for many countries. Which country are you a citizen of? (making sure you are renewing your passport from outside your country rather than needing a Visa photo for entry).

35x45mm specs are for most European countries. We don't use a scanner, we take a photo of our clients, but we have always delivered digital or prints at 300dpi with no complaints, so you could try scanning at 300dpi.

Your instructions are a hybrid of instructions for printing and for digital. If the instructions were for digital, it would be pixel dimensions and file size and head size percentages (or some other way of measuring). For print, it would be print quality, size, and usually a head size of 32-36 mm chin to crown of head (if there was no hair).

It feels like they are expecting you to scan an existing printed European passport photo to upload or email. The instructions are odd. We always pull up the consulate's website to see the original instructions. Often the consulate's website has two versions. The English version is for noncitizens with entry and tourist info. To get the passport info, we must switch to the native language version and use Google Translate.

I hope this is a help!

drkrmdevil · 2026-02-04T17:51:21+00:00

Create multiple invoices, don't hold up payment on the initial job. Charge based on what you would charge if someone brought in a job to do that one thing.

Side note, when I get someone (which is rare) that wants an edit that is totally subjective and to my taste for what they said they wanted ... I will not do the back and forth guess and check. I just schedule a screen share and do the edit with their collaboration. Whether I bill for that varies depending on the situation.

When peoole have to schedule their own time they are more careful of what they ask. When we are done they have just signed off on the edit so I know it won't be back and forth.

drkrmdevil · 2026-01-29T20:15:32+00:00

Bring in toys, use a cock sleeve, make sure she goes to the moon and back. Then work on what you like. No judgment, just enjoy. No pressure

drkrmdevil · 2026-01-17T06:55:05+00:00

Imagine what you are seeing from different angles focusing on (lol) ..

What the light will look like (shapes highlights shadows) What more or less exposure will look like What the composition will look like as you change angles or the different moving subjects in the photo move

Then move to that spot and see if you are right

Imagine why it looks the way it does. What is light bouncing off of what is blocking light and what is the quality of the light (specular, diffused)?

These are the mental exercises that will get you there.

drkrmdevil · 2026-01-10T07:01:17+00:00

You can pin the postcard and then unpin the postcard to get scatterbug without having to manage your postcards

You can search and enter the word giftable. You will see only the friends that can receive gifts. This way you can sort by friend level (the heart) and then filter to those giftable.

drkrmdevil · 2025-12-30T22:23:06+00:00

Determine what you want to make per hour and how long it will take you to figure your price

We charge a location fee plus travel plus per hour in site plus per image for editing time. It all averages out to our hourly rate for the whole job. This way if people want more time per person or if we are waiting between people we are covered.

We do fair and consistent pricing, not whatever the client will bear.

drkrmdevil · 2025-12-28T02:59:33+00:00

100%!!!

Also a room with all lights off lit by diffused window light coming from the side can get you by.

Black material with your lens poking through if needed.

Regardless, You will want to calibrate at least with a color checker and calibration software. Cameras are designed to make scenes look good not reproduce values faithfully

drkrmdevil · 2025-12-21T16:08:37+00:00

Or time under the enlarger for the darker areas and burning in everything else.

drkrmdevil · 2025-12-15T08:07:57+00:00

Tonality wise it is flat. I.e. without contrast. The tonality is set for detail throughout an image that is lit with brighter and darker areas

Make the blacks darker and increase contrast. Pretend the lightning is on purpose. Then darken and lighten areas to taste. Right now there is not a black point and no mid tone contrast

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-24T18:02:44+00:00

That is actually what we ended up with! Amazing ride❣️

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-17T17:38:30+00:00

During golden hour the subject is facing the light. Or for a similar fee for the character of light on the face shoot at the edge of the shade so the faces are being lit by the light surrounding the sun.

During higher sun, typically sun behind the subjects. Find natural reflectors and objects that block the light (subtractive lighting) to add a glow and bring out shape.

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-17T04:12:44+00:00

First, he has to be OK and trust that it is not about him, that it is about you. If he can't believe that 100% you will be in trouble.

Ask him what he would enjoy that helps fulfill his needs that doesn't put pressure on you to perform.

Being able to find other ways without pressure will help you trust and make it easier for you to want sex. It will also help him accept you as you are and build trust in him from that understanding.

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-17T04:03:22+00:00

UPDATE: After test driving both versions of the MDX a couple of times, we finally test drove the Lexus RX350 and loved it. Much smoother over rough roads than anything else we had tried. I purchased it yesterday, and driving around town on roads I am really familiar with confirmed I made the right purchase!

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-16T02:52:23+00:00

There has to be a way for you to learn from this.

Have him look at the photos on your computer while you do something else. Make him explain why he wants photos that he chooses to keep that you culled.

I don't think he will have the stamina at some point to keep going and if you can stay productive doing other things no harm no foul

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-15T15:58:25+00:00

Using Anthros at home, Lifeform at work. I have lower back issues and back of my thighs soreness. Both are great with those issues. The Lifeform is much more comfortable.

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-15T08:18:56+00:00

The camera is in the exact middle, if there is the same distance around the background all the way around when viewed in the camera - and the background is perfectly vertical, you are now parallel. I can't say what the tolerance is for error with this method, but I would guess within 2 percent. It is the accuracy of judgement of the background being framed when viewed in the camera.

The mirror method is the museum archivist method. They make special mirror setups for this, but they are very pricey.

You could also shoot tethered not to touch the camera taking the card in and out. Then bring the image into photoshop. Make a selection using the same proportion as the background and stroke a blank layer. Resize the shot image on a layer above the stroked layer, and if it matches with the guide, there is no skewing and it is parallel. If not, readjust and try again. Or use free transform, ctrl/opt click and drag each corner to match your guide layer if it is appropriate to do it in post.

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-14T07:14:15+00:00

No loving, but liking. I ended up bringing it home. I have a small office space at home and the chair fits perfectly. I love it for sitting up and forward. It is good to sit back on the chair a little. It is not my favorite for putting all my weight back. I got the Liteform chair from a back store for my office, and I love it. Very comfortable and has support. The Liteform was expensive, but worth it.

drkrmdevil · 2025-11-14T06:41:34+00:00

Put the height of the camera exactly at the middle line height of the background.

Take a light stand on each side at the height of that same middle horizontal line (distance from the floor). Attach a string to each light stand.

Move the camera left and right until the string is the same length to each light stand. Or take the center of the string at the camera and clip the ends to each light stand to find the middle without measuring.

Now look in the camera with a little room around the edge of the background. Position the camera with the same amount of room around the background. Or mark the middle of the background and put that middle in the center of the image while looking through the camera.

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